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What's the easiest way to break up with someone?

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Last Updated: 02/22/2021 at 10:26pm
What's the easiest way to break up with someone?
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November 9th, 2016 7:22pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is to just be honest and up front about it. Make sure you are very clear and concise with what you are saying and don't be rude.
November 10th, 2016 2:44pm
Face to face in a kind, empathic, understanding, and firm but fair. Give each other time if both of you want to be friends but if not, then, maybe it would be best for both of you not to talk to each other anymore and move on. Effective communication and honesty is the key!
November 11th, 2016 9:05am
be sympathetic never do it through a text, meet with them face to face and let them know the reason for the break up and give them closure
November 17th, 2016 4:13am
Be honest about why you are breaking up with said person. Try not to be crude. Express your feeling wholestically.
November 17th, 2016 7:23am
Face to face, honesty and baring your feelings and emotions after you have thought out everything you want to say. Thoughtfully and respectfully.
November 18th, 2016 6:18pm
Face to face. Calmly. Honestly. As many an old song says, breaking up is hard to do but including any of those maxims in your break up will keep things as good as they can be in that moment. Not getting drawn into an argument, maintaining your cool, being clear about why you are having to do the dreadful deed will also have a bearing on whether your break up is 'successful'; in other words, if you want to remain friends with your, soon to be ex, it's more likely if you try and follow the above rules, it will also help spell out to someone why they are being dumped if you feel they have treated so bad to you that you feel you have no choice in leaving them behind. Expressing yourself rationally will have a huge impact on your own ability to heal after you've had that particular conversation with them. Good luck! And stay strong.
December 9th, 2016 12:30am
Sit them down and talk to them. Let them know the reason why you wanted to break up with them and try to be as nice as possible.
December 10th, 2016 3:24pm
I don't think there's any "easy" way to break up with someone. I personally think the best way is to just meet up with the person and tell them in a respectful way. It's better to end the relationship than to string them along if you aren't happy in the relationship. Of course it may be easier to break up via text, internet, or phone call, but this isn't always the most fair option for the other person. They may need the closure of a break-up in person.
December 10th, 2016 8:44pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is telling them how you truly feel instead of lying about something. It's better to break up with someone than to stay with them and not love them.
December 30th, 2016 8:17am
There is no easy way to break up with some one. The emotions involved in a break up are powerful and often times raw. The most respectful way is to be 100% honest no matter what method you choose; however, it really should be face to face and not through a text message.
January 13th, 2017 12:45pm
I personally would tell the person reasons why the relationship isn't working for you and listen to their side. After clearing the air of how both of you feel let them know you do not wish to continue in the relationship. Wish them the best in their journey.
January 29th, 2017 5:31pm
There's no easy way. Memories and emotions that you hold/held for each other won't simply go away, but if you think that you have no more emotions and nothing more to offer to this person, you should just make it clear, as fast as possible, and with no hard words.
February 2nd, 2017 7:58am
Have a long talk with them about what you both feel. Tell the other person why you would want to break up with them even if it's painfull for both of you. It might be easier to get over eachother when you both know the reason for the breakup
February 11th, 2017 10:22pm
Face to face is not the easiest, but it is what someone deserves. A text or social media message is just wrong as you had a relationship with this person. Just explain to them face to face that it isn't working out and that you are sorry but it has to end.
February 21st, 2017 2:28pm
Telling them the truth. It can be hard sometimes, and it could be painful. But whoever you're breaking up with deserve the truth and you will find a lot easier to be sincere rather than having to make up a lie
February 25th, 2017 6:40am
I think it is best to be honest. You need to talk to them in person is another huge thing. Sit down with them and let them know why you no longer think this relationship is good for you. Be honest but not rude. Keep things calm and don't try to fight them. If they react negatively do not forget you can walk away from the situation. If it escalates and you are unable to control it, leave and know you tried your best to make your side known.
February 26th, 2017 1:45pm
I would just say to them, and person, that you care about them, but that you just don't think the relationship is working. They may get upset - I wouldn't blame them - but I would not dump them by text, or phone. It is not appropriate to harm somebody else to prevent yourself from a little bit of discomfort. So always be honest, and do things in the most tactful way possible.
March 3rd, 2017 2:42am
Breaking up is never easy I think because one way or another, you'll be hurt and you'll hurt someone. You'll remember the wasted time as well as the beautiful memories you have. However, breaking up with someone in person and with understanding in your heart is the best way to help closure and moving on to start.
March 5th, 2017 2:40pm
It is important to tell the person your feelings and why you are feeling this way. It is helpful to ease the person into understanding why you are breaking up with them.
March 9th, 2017 4:53am
There is never really an easy way to break up with someone, the only time it's easy is if the other person has been feeling the same way too and wants the same thing. In the situation where the feeling is not mutual the easiest way to break up with a person is to just say that things are working out, and you don't feel the same way anymore. Tell them that there a great person and deserve someone who wants to be with them too, that's why your being honest about how you feel and you don't want to be with them anymore. Hopefully they understand that things are working for you and they will respect your wishes and not get overly upset.
March 15th, 2017 3:32pm
Be straightforward but gentle. Do not act hasty, be confident. If it is their fault, tell them what they did wrong. Or give them the reason you want to leave.
March 24th, 2017 10:52pm
The best way to break something off is in person and be direct. You can say what was working and then move to what is not working. Be informative but avoid long drawn out conversation. Then when you've said your piece stop contact with the other person and allow them to heal. The last part might be difficult, especially in the short term but it's what is best. Then maybe down the road a friendship is possible. Remember to be aware and cautious about the words you use. Stating facts and avoiding blame or dramatic exasperated emotions will help avoid a negative and tormenting ending. Being honest and sincere and sensitive leaves an open door down the road once everyone has had time for closure and some space to move on.
March 31st, 2017 3:05pm
I don't think there is ever an easy way to break up with someone. Even the ways that look easy to do they end up being difficult to follow. Dealing with feelings and emotions is like walking on a landmine, one wrong move and the whole place explodes.
April 14th, 2017 11:14am
I'm afraid there is no easy way to break up with someone unless neither of you has feelings anymore, which is rarely the case. But it is possible to be considerate during the break up, and always do it in person. It is always a bad idea to break up over a phone or even worse over a message, let the other person know that even though you don't feel the same way you still do appreciate and remember the time you spent together and try to be gentle. Good luck
April 14th, 2017 4:16pm
The easiest way to breaking up with someone is by directly being up front with him/her about why things are not working out. Confrontation is key in nipping it to the bud but also maintaining a healthy relationship with that person.
April 23rd, 2017 7:02pm
The easiest way to break up is to tell the other person exactly that, that you want to end the relationship. Be calm and reasonable about it. Tell them why and help them understand so you both can move on.
April 30th, 2017 10:39pm
I don't think the easiest way is always the best way to do it. Think about it like this, the easiest way to break up with someone is probably through text, but they will not fully understand why you broke up with them, and could cause them to feel worse about the break up. Doing it face to face may none the easiest way to break up with someone, but at least you will be able to explain everything, and they will understand why you broke up with them, which would cause them to feel a lot less bad about the whole thing
May 3rd, 2017 2:07am
Explain the reasoning behind it in a considerate and sensitive way. Breaking off a relationship with someone is a very delicate issue and the best thing to do is stay calm and try and be sensitive to what the other person may say.
May 5th, 2017 6:28pm
The easiest way, if being honest, is to text it, but it's not the best way. It's not even a good way. It's really good if you want the heartache and confusion that follows it. The hardest way is to do it face to face, maybe sat beside each other. It's hard in the beginning. It's painful and awkward and sad. But if you want peace in the long run, this is the easiest way.
May 17th, 2017 1:30pm
I don't know that there's necessarily an easy way to break up with someone, and I think it's important to remember that every relationship is different, so what's best for one isn't what's best for everyone. But if possible, I think it's best to be honest, and straightforward. I think being honest helps both of you get closure, and it can help ease the pain. I think a lot of times when people are upset about a break up it's because they didn't see it coming, and they may be confused as to why it happened, so being straightforward can help bring in clarity so that less feelings are hurt in the process. Break ups hurt, it's rare that they don't, but if we can make it easier for ourselves and for the other person, I think it's worth the slight discomfort of talking it out.