What's the easiest way to break up with someone?
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I think there is never a easy way to leave someone. But to make it less painful for them is to tell them the truth! I don't want to hear any lies when someone is breaking up with me - just the truth. So I can grow as human and understand the things that are going on. Otherwise you always try to find answers and you'll think everything is your fault. Which is not a great feeling.
To tell the person honestly that you don't want to be with them by stating your reasons in a respectful manner without hurting them :)
Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision. Think about what you'll say and how the other person might react. Have good intentions. Be honest — but not brutal. Say it in person. If it helps, confide in someone you trust.
The easiest way to break up with someone is to first be honest with yourself about why this relationship isn't working for you.
The next step would be to speak to your current partner about how you're feeling and that you believe it is time to move forward. Your partner may be upset about your decision and that's to be expected. It's important to be empathetic to their feelings and answer any questions that they may have.
Be honest, yet taking into consideration their feelings. Do it face to face in a safe environment. Make sure not to give any false hope of getting back together again (e.g. 'Well if you didn't do this'.... or 'if things were different')
The easiest way to break up with someone is just being honest with them and probably in person it's better for you and the other person and as well it's coming from the heart.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 9:13pm
Just be honest with them. You thinking of breaking up with them is already a sign it isn't working for you. Just be direct and strong about your decision and leave things in a good note.
The easiest way to break up with someone is to be honest. Get everything off your chest. Be honest, not brutal.
Always in person. Never over text. Make sure they know the reason, it gives them closure. It helps ease the break up later on.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2017 4:28am
Face to face if possible would be ideal that way you can allow them to feel respected and as if they were worth that last effort
It might be harder on the moment, but in the long term it doesn't have the same consequences as it does when you brake up the easy way (ex.: chat, phone, not answering to calls anymore, etc. ).
The real easiest way:
Face-2-Face
Be sincere.
Be true to yourself.
Be true to her.
Trully listen.
Speak with an open heart. Take all the time is needed.
Clarify everything that needs to be clarified between you two before going further.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2017 2:00am
Think over what you want and why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and the reasons for your decision. Advice is really easy to give, but it can sometimes be wrong or even harmful. I don't have a full understanding of your life or world. Any advice I'd give you would be limited and potentially wrong. You are the expert on you.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2017 3:05pm
Breaking up with a person you truly loved is never an easy thing! You should meet at a quite place and talk in a calm manner about why you are not possible, to continue this relationship.
Arrange a time to talk. Tell them you want to break up. Make the reasons why completely clear and unambiguous. Keep no contact. Depending how bold you are you might want to communicate why there is no possibility of moving forward between you two.
Simply be direct and straight forward. Leading them on will lead to hurting them even more. Say it directly and a little slowly. It's better to end the relationship as soon as possible. It's better in the long run.
Give it to them straight. Tell them how you feel. No shame, no regrets. Don't lie about your feelings.
Honestly, there is no best way. No matter what you do, you or they will end up thinking about it for days maybe, regret what you said or anything else.
It depends on your situation, what you both are feeling, where your relationship is headed etc.
Personally, I think you need to talk it out face to face and make the person understand why you want to break up because its very important for their as well as your mental health in the future. You should not regret what you did.
Thus, answering their questions, making them understand that it simply is not working, in as much positivism as you can, is the way to go!
I think it's important to be very clear in your mind why you want to break up with the person, which means giving the situation a reasonable amount of thought prior to acting. The purpose of this is to prepare yourself for the other person's difficulty in accepting your decision. As for the actual breakup itself, it's important to be firm, but also sympathetic. You don't have to be cruel, but you must stay 100% focused on what it is you've decided to do. The other person may use various techniques to try to talk you out of the decision. If you've already given the matter a lot of thought, and decided that this is the best course of action for you, then you have to remain true to yourself, regardless of what the other person says.
Tell them the truth. I know from experience that this is the best way to go about breaking up with your s/o. Tell them the truth, sometimes it's painful, sometimes it's easy, but, in the end, it's better than lying straight up to their face about something that's not true.
Always with compassion and empathy. Nobody likes being talked to as if they are inferior. Always discuss why you are breaking up with them, and what you plan to do afterwards. It's good to be clear, but not abrupt or forceful. Understand that they may not want to break up with you, and how this break up may affect them emotionally. It's important to treat them as a person, whether or not you like them anymore.
The easiest way to break up with some one isn’t to let them down easy. You want to not lead them on but to let them go. Don’t say that there might be a chance that you guys may get back together. Undated say that it was a great relationship and you still want to be friends but you don’t feel like it works out romantically. And do t say that you like someone else just leave it plain and simple and don’t go into detail. You don’t want to hurt them
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 1:33am
tell them how it is! honesty is always the answer and you will be nervous no matter what so if you are just up front with it it will be best
Tell them the truth! Never hold back. Tell them that you think it would be best and simply explain to them why and answer any questions they may have.. Honesty is key.
Whatever you do, do it in person. Doing it through a text or social media can really hurt somebody, probably even worse.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 4:37pm
There normally isn't an easy way to do it when you really loved that person and then watch them getting their heart broken. But the best solution is to talk to them about the issue. Tell them that you need to talk to them about something important and then tell them how you feel.
The best way to break up is by talking to the person in a private place. Being honest and kind with your reasons for breaking up.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 8:25am
I think there is no easiest way but to talk with that someone you your self because breaking up is not an easiest task
In my opinion I think in person is the best way to go. It gives you an oportunity to see emotion and gives you some sort of closure.
Be gentle been too harsh could cause more pain and damage than anything, explain the situation and the reason for the break up maybe suggest been friends and see what the future hold for you both
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:52am
If you're not happy with someone you must be direct and honest as soon as possible to prevent any emotional damage. Easiest would be through text, fully explaining why this breakup is occurring, don't let the other person assume why you left. Be honest and loving.
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