What's the easiest way to break up with someone?
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Anonymous
December 1st, 2017 1:49pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is to sit down with the person you plan to break up with in a secluded place. Just you and that person. If you feel unsafe doing so, you should have a trusted person nearby. Just tell them your feelings and why you would want to break up.
Breaking up with someone is never easy. With that being said, what one person may find the easiest may not work out that well for someone else. Although I have to say that in my past experience, it can be easier to be straightforward and break up with someone right away instead of letting it drag on.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 4:03am
There is no easy way, but it would be best for you to just be honest with them completely. If the feelings have changed, it's their right to know.
Explain too them how you feel, open up too them that you aren’t happy with the relationship, don’t lead them on. Either you work on things together by communicating or you get out of the relationship
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 3:12pm
In my opinion, it is always best to do this face to face and at a time and place where there are minimal distractions. You must remember to be honest about your reason for doing so whatever it may be, this will help the other person to process what has happened and aim for a healthier recovery. Listen to them and they must listen to you. If they ask genuine questions that aren’t spiteful or provocative, try and answer them honestly. Once all is said and done, allow for a clean break.
To be perfectly honest, I've never seen an easy way to break up with someone. Break up's are hard and rough, and it's mentally straining on both you and your partner. However, I do feel like the best way is just to be honest! Because at the end of the day, whatever way you phrase it, a white lie or the truth, it's going to hurt in the long run, because whatever the reason is, it's the end of a relationship, and that's going to hurt. From experience, I feel the best way is, to be honest, and tell them the truth. You don't have to be harsh, you don't have to be mean, but you've got to be truthful to both you, and your partner.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2017 3:34am
Personally, I think the best ways, is, to be honest, and open. Don't end thing with questions still hanging in their mind. Make sure they have a full understanding as to why you're breaking up with them. Nothing is worse than being blindsided during a breakup.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 5:26am
There is no easy way when breaking up with someone. It will always be hard because you will end your relationship with the person who just has a big place in your heart. But it will be less hard if you tell him or her every reason you got why you want to have a breakup, and it's still hard.
Being straightforward with the person and honest. Tell them you want to break up and explain why. It's really up to you on how you approach the situation. Sometimes just doing nothing and saying to yourself your single isn't always a bad thing either, especially if the person tries saying you can't break up with them or something. It's is your life and your choice. Theres all sorts of ways to end a relationship.
There is just no easiest way to do that. Relationship becomes a habit after time. Talking to other person, spending time with them. You will feel connected to them, breaking up will cause an emptiness in you. It might be always hard but if you are confident that other person is effecting you bad. Maybe you thought about what results could be and this is helpful. You should think about how your life will be without the other person. Will you be sad after 1 week but will you still feel you did the right thing? If after thinking about your emotions, feelings, basically after thinking about every part of this action that could affect you. You will feel ready. When you feel ready you may not feel afraid and confidence in yourself may help to you.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2018 9:21pm
Sit down with your partner and have an open conversation. Tell them them the reason you are breaking up with them, be gentle but don't lie.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:28am
The easiest way yo break up with someone is to sit down and have a conversation to express how you feel.
Explaning to them what the problem is or why you want to break up with them, it is better to sort of let them know the problems first before being assertive that you want to break up with them as maybe their situation can change and the relationship does not break up.
Be honest. Tell them the truth and do it face to face instead of doing it over messages. If they hurt you, tell them. Make sure they know the exact reason.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 4:33am
The easiest way to break up with someone is to do it over text. However, it's not very nice and can really hurt the other person's feelings.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:51pm
There is no easy way to brake up, understand hearts never break even. One will always hurt. A quick brake up is the easiest with in person comunication.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2018 8:24am
Be kind towards that person and respect their feelings. Write them a beautiful letter. Words don't always come out the right way
Ask them to meet you somewhere where you can leave whenever you want. Not your place, ofc. Then tell them how you feel, and explain them how you see your future, and that you feel that you don't see them in the picture, not even in the background, and that you need to focus on yourself.
This is a really good question! The best way to break up with someone is to be honest. They will be hurt, however they can use your feed back to improve themselves!
I'm not sure if there is the easiest way to break up with someone. But I think there is always a better way to overcome the break up through reflection and deep thinking in every experience. Good and bad comes together as a combo in a relationship. Be fair, we can't just take the good and avoid the bad. Don't scare of hurting, it helps us to grow and learn to love!
There is no easy way. It's going to hurt either through guilt, anger or loss. But those feelings with time, patience and acknowledgement will fade and you will move on.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 3:02pm
To tell them what is bothering you. To make them understand what the core problem is and knowing that it's the best for the both of you
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 1:57am
I believe the best way to end a relationship is to be authentic. Letting someone know you need space, or to end things, or things aren't working...doens't mean you need to give a list of faults or have an argument. Simply explaining you need to work on yourself and need space to do so~ Or even letting them know needs aren't being met and you need to move forward ....just keeping things real and not a dramatic finger pointing session.
No easy way to ever break up with someone I don't believe. I do think though that just being honest and giving closure to both individuals is very important and helpful.
By telling them the truth and being honest with them and yourself. Also, thinking about what you’re going to say to them and making sure you’re comfortable in with what you’re saying to them.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 2:31pm
Being honest. You can't choose how you want them to feel when you break up with them, your job is to be honest. Its how they take it.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:28pm
Don't make them feel in the wrong. Try to be as supportive as you can about it. Let them know this is your choice and give the other person grieving time.
Honestly, there is no easy way to break up with somebody. The best way in my opinion is not something that would make it easy for you, it should be something that makes it easy for them. You should do it face to face, while looking the other person in the eye and telling him/her the reason for the breakup. You owe that person that much. PS: - Never do it over a text. If you're in a long distance, do it over a call.
The easiest way is to text or call them, you can get away quickly. But the best way, the way that everyone avoids because it's almost impossible to not back out, is talking face to face.
Be honest and compassionate with them! Put yourself in their shoes and Relay your feeling how you want someone to relay a message to you.
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