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Why am I still hung up on this one person?

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Last Updated: 10/05/2021 at 1:06am
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June 8th, 2015 3:34am
The reason I was so hung up on one person was because after years of terrible relationships, I had a few blissful days with someone who was a genuinely caring person. However, my own insecurities ruined that relationship, and my regret kept me thinking about it for a long time.
January 18th, 2016 5:51am
You are hung up on this person because you have hope. Whatever they might've done to you, you still think highly of them and you don't want to just give up what you had with them.
August 23rd, 2016 4:49pm
Everyone, I believe, always has that one person that they can't let go off and are attached to, even if that person doesn't feel the same way, so don't worry it's perfectly normal! To answer your question, I guess it's a personal thing and there is no definite answer, but that's okay too! Maybe you have become attached to them, because you have created a deep emotional bond with them, that can be a hard thing to deal with, but some times letting go is actually less painful and you'll eventually find someone much better, and won't even think of that person anymore! Don't worry it will be hard at the start, but have faith and courage in yourself and trust, it will get easier, best wishes :)
March 17th, 2015 4:54pm
There is no specified time to "get over" someone. There could be a lot of reasons. Do you have unresolved emotions about or with this person? Do you currently still talk to or see this person? Are you creeping their social media profiles and keeping tabs on them? Are you associated with them still in any manner? I suppose ideally we could just forgive an forget, never look back and move on completely. Honestly there is not amount of time in which to measure how much, how little or when there is a time to stop any type of emotion regardless of whether it be with someone or even about something trivial. I believe that when the time comes you will know that you're no longer "hung up" as you say and when you feel ready for whatever it is you want to be or need to be ready for then you will be "un-hung" not because you do not want to be "hung-up" but rather because you will have used your own intelligence, insight, and interpretation for you to answer your own question.
July 10th, 2015 8:32am
Because it hurt to know he could leave me at the drop of the hat. I never really meant anything just when I wove my world around him?
January 25th, 2016 1:14am
People can leave footprints on our minds and sometimes it's very hard to clean them off. They might have loved you dearly and as that's been taken away - you don't have that love there any more to a certain degree. The way they loved you if that's the case will always be with you. If it's the other way around and they didn't love you, you may be stuck seeking approval or validation from this person. No one is superior or inferior and everyone is sovereign.
August 8th, 2017 9:33pm
Feeling hung up on someone could mean that there's unfinished business in the relationship. Maybe things ended suddenly. Maybe you didn't get to say something to that person and you're still thinking about it. Sometimes it's possible to get closure and sometimes it's better to let things lie. If it's appropriate to talk to this person about how you're feeling, then do it! Be bold! If it's not appropriate to talk to this person about how you're feeling, consider writing a letter that explains how you feel, but don't send it. Sometimes the act of just getting your feelings out can be cathartic!
June 7th, 2016 2:21am
There's a part of you that's not over this individual yet. There are ways to move forward: writing your feelings, venting to friends, meditating on your future love life, picking up a new hobby, meeting new people, and seeing a therapist/counselor. However, moving on from a romantic relationship, crush, unrequited love, or broken marriage is hard for everyone who's ever been in that situation. Sometimes it just takes time.
May 5th, 2015 12:01am
You may have fallen in love with them. It's not something you can control and it can be a beautiful thing.
November 10th, 2015 2:51pm
You could still be hung up on them due to still existing feelings, or missing the memories or attention. No matter which it's okay! We all have to move on and accept that life keeps going. Focus on you, not them. Love yourself. The right person will come along at the right time.
August 3rd, 2015 10:33am
Because sometimes people become a habit, and that habit creates a dependency factor on the person. Try to work on your emotional dependency and keep yourself occupied as much as you can. Time heals everything.
August 31st, 2015 11:41pm
I don't know why. Especially if you're a girl and the person is a guy. You need to get up and kick his ass then move on because as a feminist I will not allow you to dread on a guy.
May 24th, 2016 1:56pm
When you love someone and then break up with them a part of you however small part that may be will always be the person that loved them so you have to accept that you will always love them in someway and move forward but this doesn't mean that you will never find someone else. With time you will be able to move on and love someone else as every love is different.
June 14th, 2016 2:59am
Letting go is the hardest thing to do, but it has to be done so that you can move forward i n life. Accept what has happened and where you are now and let that person go.
September 13th, 2016 12:32pm
Well i felt like that as well, maybe they still have a hold of you? As painful as it might be you might have to just sit down with them and talk, or maybe they cut deep into you. And that does not go away for a while
April 6th, 2015 1:50am
I think you may be hang up on this person simply because you still haven't moved on. Try to find a way on how to move on, you may try explaining your feelings to that person.
March 7th, 2017 8:08am
When you have strong feelings for somebody, it's hard to just throw those feelings away, Things remind you of them and you feel stuck. It's hard and it will take a while to move on, but you just have to smile and focus more on yourself.
October 15th, 2018 10:41am
I am still hung up on this person because i might be emotionally attached to the person. Not able to come out of the emotions and not able to forget the person. The time spent with the person. Like it might be talking or texting or meeting the person might have great impact on the mind and is not allowing me to forget the person. A person emotionally attached to other person will have to face this situation all the time.
March 8th, 2021 9:42am
Maybe cause you think they are responsible for you happiness, and you are overlooking the power thats within you. Try to remind yourself how and what were you before this person. You are as amazing as then but you just need to re-spark what you think you lost. Its okay if you miss that person but don't forget you are worth more than getting hung up on this one person, you are more than that and can do better than how you did. Don't let one person blind your thoughts. Take your time and question yourself of why you still are?
May 2nd, 2016 8:26pm
Because you want to hold on to that person, or at least, some part of you is and you do not want to let go.
October 3rd, 2016 4:23am
many people deal with connection to past romances. it's easy to stick to a past feeling of love, as many people see it as a sense of security.
May 15th, 2018 7:52am
Seems like you really care about this person. You might not thinks so & that's a understandable emotion after a break up
October 5th, 2021 1:06am
Sometimes when you are hung up on one person if that's someone you cared about you dated or what ever the case maybe you probably still have feeling for them and don't know how to let go yet its normal to feel like this if you've known someone for a long time. Sometimes people also might not have let go of the relationship you had with them. its OK not to know why you are still hung up on a person try to ask your self why do i still care about oneself. its doesn't mean that you are not strong it just means you really care.