Why can't I forget about them?

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Last Updated: 11/19/2018 at 5:55am
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Jaspberrytree93
July 4th, 2017 1:50am
It's important to grow and learn from our past experiences, but it's also important to know when the time is right--or wrong. Why can't you forget about them? Maybe because they left a strong impact on your life. Maybe because you're just not used to them not being around. Don't be afraid to explore those feelings of why you may not be ready to forget about them. It's okay to hold on to fond memories of somebody. You can do this!
Jessietwina
January 16th, 2015 1:26am
You can't forget about them because you loved them. If someone or something that you love/liked leaves it can hurt and be hard to forget. Because it caused you pain when it happened you remember so that you're not hurt again.
CourageousPal26
March 15th, 2015 9:28am
Because they made an impact to your life and changed the past you to be the 'you' now. You don't need to forget about them. Just understand that they had an impact to you in the past and you are who you are today because of them. And understand that they may not be there to harm (or help) you now, and you can make decisions without them.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2015 11:18am
They played an important role in my life, good or bad. I chose to learn from it. Forgive but never forget!
Anonymous
June 14th, 2015 10:27am
Because they mean something to you. Try and think about people who are important in your life because you dont need people who bring u down
DominicP
June 30th, 2015 1:32am
because they where a huge part of your life. its really had to get over some one so quickly. give it time.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 10:29pm
Because they are a huge part of who you are, and you have grown close to them, therefore forgeting them is not an option, but remembering the good parts, can eaze this loss.
Maseeha
September 7th, 2015 2:21pm
Forgetting may not always be the answer, sometimes its more of letting go of things which makes you want to forget.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 3:26am
Sometimes it's hard to forget about people because you either love or miss them, sometimes it's because you hate them or they gave you a really wonderful and strong memory that stays in your head.
zearo3236
March 29th, 2016 6:00pm
Maybe you just can't or you're not supposed to. You take those experiences and learn from them. Memories are there to remind just how much you've grown!
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 7:56pm
Because you're probably still grieving over the loss. Whatever that loss may be. Just let yourself go through the motions
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 1:08pm
Because Ive had too many good memories with them, its hard to forget 5 years of friendship because they messed up.
SpectacularHopes
April 16th, 2018 6:45pm
Because you don't want too, you are responsible for yourself and you have the power to do what you want to do with that brain, think about them or read a new book, its all upto you.
Anonymous
June 19th, 2018 8:46pm
Out of sight, out of mind, right? It seems like without putting that into place (or even using that tactic!) it's easy for someone, without warning, to pop into your mind. One of the best ways I've found to get someone out of my head is eliminating anything that reminds me of them and when they come into my mind, I think about something else that'll occupy my thoughts for a while.
NeverEndingHugs
November 19th, 2018 5:55am
Most likely, because you are trying to forget about them. That isn't really how our brains work. In trying to forget about them, you are just thinking more thoughts about them. Your brain is very habit-based. If you think about a person a lot your brain interprets that as 'this is important. I need to think about this more'. If you get upset with yourself, your brain gets told that this thing you just thought is associated with intense emotions and therefore: "This is important. I need to think about this more". So, you need to break that cycle. Fill your time and mind with other things to think about. If you think about the person, don't beat yourself up about it. Just accept it, and then direct your mind to something else. Give it something else to make a habit with thinking about.