You might be wanting to know why they have hurt you. There is no time for that. They have hurt you that is the truth and it would be in your best interests to get as far away from them as possible.
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February 23rd, 2015 5:09am
We often get emotionally attached even though we know they hurt us. It's in our nature. I believe, personally, that we don't like to let go because we don't wanna start over with someone new. What if we can't find someone new? It was hard enough opening up to someone then getting hurt. We don't like moving on, opening up, and possibly getting hurt again. So we hold on.
This is a question I ask myself a lot. I have a boyfriend of almost 5 years and we have been through a lot together. He has hurt me in ways that I can't even explain and yet I still can't let go of him. The reason being is because I still love him. Sometimes it's not a good thing to stay with someone even if you love them, it just depends on your situation. With some people they can't seem to let go because of lust and the fact that they had someone to be up under. For me it was/is love and that's what kept us together at the end of the day. We put everything in the past. Nothing is perfect between him and I, but things aren't as complicated. Another reason could be because you care for/about them. I know I care about my boyfriend and that played a major role on us staying together. When you truly care about someone it wouldn't matter what they did to hurt you and what they put you through. To me caring is no different than having love for a person. In my opinion you love because you care and you care because you love.
Letting go of anyone is difficult, especially if that person meant something to us in the past. It is normal to miss them even after they have hurt you or let you down, because there will still be a part of you who will remember the good and not the bad within that person. It is important to remember that forgiving someone that has hurt you is okay, but that does not mean that that person deserves to be part of your life and over time the feelings of missing them will subside and letting go will get easier...be patient and do not be hard on yourself, because moving on is as difficult as letting go in the first place!
because you feel empty without them. you they almost held you together for that period of time. so when they leave its almost like a wall being taken out of a building. the building falls. but dont worry you need people that care about you and you should be fine. just let them know how you feel and they will be by your side every step of them way.
You have a specific feeling for them and they were the love of ur life the one u want to be with forever so that why
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February 23rd, 2015 9:44am
I guess that is normal. All of us spend most of our time with them, so we are emotionally or even physically attached to them. Their presence its there with you and me. I guess the best way is to live or work in a new environment :)
Most probably because we have grown dependent of them and we don't know where to start off without them. Do not be afraid to look forward, it will take courage and patience. Best believe, freedom from 'them' is liberating. You deserve better if you are even considering letting go.
One of the most mature things one can do is forgive those that hurt them. If you feel it is best and your only option to drop them, it is understandable. But it is even more challenging and brave to pick up the broken pieces and put them back together.
A lot of times a memory of them is what you may still be In love with. A smile that comes back to mind, or a place you've been to reminds you of the times you've shared together. It may be hard to let them go because you're holding on to those beautiful memories that you once shared. Those moments where everything felt so right.
When a relationship and connection is build with a particular individual, it is tough to just cut off that connection. Because its like loosing a part of you. The idea is to gradually leave, then forgive and lastly move on.
Most people find that holding on is easier than letting go. You are afraid to let go, because you deeply care for that person. Just embrace them being gone. You can, you just, deep down, do not want to.
I’ve had the same problem, I understand how you feel. There’s this metaphor I like to say to my friends, that sometimes it’s like being a dog. Sometime you accidentally step in your dog’s tail, and it still loves you. There’s this idea of unconditional love, that’s keeps you going back to somebody who has hurt you. I don’t know your exact situation, but if it isn’t healthy for you- leave. You can still care for somebody, and separate yourself from them because it’s whats best for you. And yes, it’s hard to let go of them. It’s going to feel like losing a piece of yourself in a way, but you’ll heal, and despite how it seems, you’ll be okay.