Why can't I learn to open up to people?
Last Updated: 01/16/2022 at 3:19pm
Tricia Saviano, MA, ATR, LCPC
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What most people don't realise is that opening up to people is a skill. It's not something that comes automatically to everyone as there can be fear, trepidation or apprehension surrounding it. But like any skill, it can be developed with practice. Try opening up to a listener on here, even just a little. You'll find as you open up, have someone who is there to listen and help, you'll be able to open up more freely in the future!
Sometimes our brains are worried about the way people respond. It's the only completely natural way that we know how to keep ourselves safe. Or what we think is safe. Try opening I promise to someone who has previously opened up to you and you might feel more comfortable
Because sometimes opening up can be hard No matter how much you try, its hard to trust others. And that is normal and something you can overcome
Because sometimes, the fear of the unknown can take a toll on your abilities. You probably are not ready to share how you feel to people who you think will not understand it.
Opening up to people often requires a sense of trust in the person you're talking to but more importantly, a sense of connectedness to the person that you are. If you don't feel secure in who you are, it's difficult to let others in. Perhaps building up who you are and recognizing your strengths and what you have to offer will allow you to share yourself more openly with others. Recognizing that each person has their own unique gift to offer--that's unlike anyone else's--is a great first step.
It's not something you "learn". Opening up to people takes time, especially if your trust has been broken by people in the past. Just being around people, getting comfortable with them is a great first step.
It's hard to open up to people for a lot of reasons. You might not feel comfortable sharing personal details about yourself with people who aren't family or close friends for fear of judgement. You might also fear that anything you tell them will be used against you at a later date, whether to hurt, betray or backstab you. Ultimately, you should only tell whatever you want to whoever you want whenever you feel entirely comfortable sharing that information with that individual. Don't worry too much about feeling like you're being 'closed off' or not 'opening up' enough - at the end of the day, your business is nobody's but your own!
When we don't trust we can't be honest and open to others. We are afraid we will be ridicule, rejected, laughed etc. It is the unknown that scares us from opening up.
Everyone's personality is different. You should be you. If you want an emotionally intimate relationship, you may need to push outside your comfort zone. But, let others know it is hard for you and that you are trying to learn to be more open to benefit the relationship.
Maybe you are scared? Being hurt before? Just relax and open up only to those you trust and if you feel you cannot trust just open little by little until you feel they are trustworthy
I think it's a slow process requiring small steps. You're not going to be able to trust people over night. It's a very scary thing to open up but if you take small steps I'm sure you can develop a natural relationship with others through a careful cultivation of trust.
It's not easy to open up to somebody when you are someone who generally do not do so. It takes time and effort in opening up and you can do it slowly by telling your close friends and then maybe a parent who are close to.
Opening up to people is really tough, because when we open up to people we are vulnerable to them. Part of the reason why you can't open up to people might be a fear of being vulnerable. Is there something that has happened in your past that has made you mistrusting of others? Were you once rejected by someone for opening up to them? Try to identify where you are stuck, and it might help you open up.
It's okay if can't you shouldn't force yourself to open up to people. It takes times and let them know if it's okay that you can't open up easily and hopefully they understand.
Opening up to people is really difficult especially if you have been taught all your life that your feelings do not matter. The reason many people keep things bottled in is because when they try to share they feel they are getting judge or the person / people they are talking to seems like they are uninterested. It would help if you found one person just to be able to listen to you. 7 cups is a great sight for free online listeners.
Different circumstances could be accountable at hand. Find ways to open up to yourself first. Helping others will help you in the process. Let others open up to you, and in a way, you will begin to learn the same routine for yourself. Hope this helps. Stay positive. :)
Most of time it is because you are not trying actually to open up to people. There is always a fear to start speaking your mind which should be ended.
I can't answer that with perfection, but I am sure of one thing: if you start to give up on opening up to people it is least likely that they open up with you. I myself have difficulty in opening up to people that I don't know very well/that are not my love ones, and I found out that 7 Cups provides a magnificient training for that. Maybe you can start by that.
"Opening up" is a very subjective ideal to have. To some, it means sharing information like our birthday and our favorite color. To others, it's sharing our deepest darkest secrets, flaws, fears. There are a lot of ways to, "open up" to other people - so do not discount yourself as closed off so easily. Opening up, in the most productive sense, means finding common ground with another person. Types of music you both like, foods you enjoy, etc. Start with common ground, there you will find topics where you can easily open up and share your thoughts with others.
Opening up to people requires a level of comfort for everyone. Some people require more comfort than others. Making sure you feel safe will make it easier for you to open up, so consider what you think it will take for you to feel safe enough there?
Opening up to people might be quite challenging especially when trust issues and unfortunate past experiences interfer. Having a small circle of friends-people who you can trust- is all you need. It is not the number of people but the quality. Learn to open up with things you are mostly proud of about yourself; A favorite band,book and place to be at. I wish you keep your secrets , any personal whether sad or happy evebts to yourself until you completeley trust the other person. It is alright trust issues may seem hard to cope with. But people need each others to heal ;)
Opening up is about letting go of insecurity, being comfortable with sharing your own truths. It also has to do with being comfortable with being face to face with another person. A lot of people have trouble interacting with other people these days because we don't spend as much time in front of others these days. We spend a lot of time in front of screens/
You can, but it takes practice. You have to push yourself emotionally to share a little bit at a time. You must push through the fear of rejection and shame you think you might receive in return for your thoughts. Practice with closest friends and family first and start with opening up about superficial things such as your opinions, then working to your deepest emotions. After time and practice, you will be able to open up to people.
Learning to open up to people takes time and exposure. For some people, opening up makes them feel vulnerable and fear getting hurt. Perhaps in the past something happened where they opened up and got disappointed. Sometimes it is good to be closed to people as a way to protect yourself. You just need to know when to open up and not.
Because you are scared of being judged by people and their opinions about you. Realize that you are perfect and people that matters love you the way you are.
You can, it just takes work. I understand this feeling, and I know it can be difficult to open up to people. Talking to someone you trust or someone you care about is always nice. Just know that people who love you will never judge or ignore you.
There's nothing in this world you can't learn so first of all drop that attitude. Start by minor interactions, take part in mass activities, get involved in public speaking .
Opening up is not that easy since almost none wants to be fully transparent with everything going on in their lives to just anyone due to past bad experiences of letting wrong people in and later finding out the repercussions. We remain closed until we’ve decided who are the right people to let in. Here are some of the reason why people find it hard, to impossible, to open up Insecurities and lack of trust. One may be ashamed of something and have fear of being judged and misunderstood. You are hurt and feel nobody cares, even if you opened up they wont listen or understand you, you feel they might hurt you even more since you consider what you’re afraid open up to as your weakness. Upbringings. Might be some life events, could be something happened to you which taught you and made you all closed up. One may have grown up in a family where none talks much or opens up or they did and you never liked it. Being the only child may have taught you or gotten you used to keeping to yourself and doing things ‘one man army’
It sounds like that you are uncomfortable around other people and even shy to be around other people. These two factors make it hard to open up to others.
It really just takes time and trust. The more that you trust someone, and the more comfortable that you are around them, the more likely that you will decide to open up at some point.
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