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Why can't i move on after the break up?

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Last Updated: 04/19/2021 at 4:17pm
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February 4th, 2016 3:26am
Maybe you miss their presence? It's good to remember you are just as whole now as you were before they entered your life.
February 7th, 2016 4:06am
It can take a long time for someone to heal after a breakup, so don't worry. Just remember that everything happens for a reason, and you'll move on when it's time.
February 12th, 2016 7:59am
In a relationship, both parties have committed to each other and thought of each other as a main. Its hard to let go because of the past memories and all of the things you've done for each other but this is what kept my head up after a horrible break up, if she/he wasn't meant to be in your life the first time then he/she isn't God already made future plans with someone better! :D
July 26th, 2016 2:35pm
because it takes time to heal the wounds in your heart. and forgetting someone you care deeply isnot easy
April 19th, 2015 7:53pm
You will ..and everything takes time it takes for me as well. It is not always easy you feel depressed but then you realise you moved on was best solution and get going in your life.
September 7th, 2015 11:11pm
Sometimes you can get very emotionally attached... There will always be someone along the way to help guide you though :D Never feel alone.
November 10th, 2015 2:38pm
After the break up the hardest part is to let go. Just always remember that you gave 110% and it didn't work out so its not a total lost. And after you have let go it will be easy for you to find other loves in your life be it human or other things.
November 27th, 2015 9:02pm
When you are used to something or someone for a while, and then suddenly, you can't talk to that person anymore, due to a break up or something. It is normal to feel like you don't want to let go and such. But things will get better, it might not seem like it right now, but they will do eventually. You will get over it, find new people and all. Try to go out, try new things, make new frinds, change the routine, stay away from things that will remind you of them.
November 30th, 2015 4:44pm
Maybe you have not gotten over the other person yet, or you need to see him/her one more time. when I broke up with my boyfriend i never got over him
January 13th, 2016 11:33pm
if someone really cares for someone letting go is even harder. first make sure your okay and get everything under control. then try and find what you lesrned from the relationship.
January 14th, 2016 3:24am
There is never a set time, be patient with yourself. Take tiny steps even if it seems so little and praise yourself every time you make progress
January 20th, 2016 12:17pm
We all have experienced some kind of emotional pain. It hurts. I get that. But what you do with that hurt is probably more important than the hurt itself. Would you prefer to get back to being an active liver of life? Or do you prefer to ruminate endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed?
January 28th, 2016 7:00am
Because you're emotionally attached to that person. Only time will heal your broken heart. Hope everything is okay.
January 29th, 2016 7:22am
You're so used to all the love andoing affection that when it all ends you can't get past that, or you're still in love with your ex.
January 29th, 2016 11:31am
Moving on takes time. Everyone's different and so are relationships. Take your time and it will come.
January 29th, 2016 6:30pm
Well, I think it is very difficult to get over someone after you have had a relationship with them. But, the first step to move on after relationship, is to want to move on. I know it may be difficult, but, you have to be over your past before you can move on. I would talk to someone about it. Like a close friend.
January 30th, 2016 7:52pm
You went through something and it's going to take time. It's ok to be sad or angry, or even a bit depressed. A break up in a big thing. Some things need time to be sad over. Just remember to take care of yourself, and remember that things WILL get better. Time will do much of the healing..
January 31st, 2016 6:57pm
Moving on takes time. It sucks but it really does take time. It is like weaning yourself off a drug. Focus on daily activities, keep yourself busy. Putting away any photos or memorabilia might help and also avoiding contact with the ex. These little things could help.
January 31st, 2016 11:03pm
You can move on...maybe your just not ready and your still holding on. sometimes you just have to realise that a certain person wasn't right for you and you have to remind yourself that you deserve better. You have to take it at your own pace though because letting someone go can be a hard process especially if you were particularly close
July 26th, 2016 10:22pm
It's normal to feel this way after a breakup. Moving on is difficult, but it can happen. Important things to do are to realize that you are struggling with emotions and you should not avoid them. If you feel like you're going to cry, then cry. Let it out. Next thing to do is to realize that if gf/bf was serious about getting back together with you, then you would still be together. They're an ex for a reason.
December 28th, 2020 4:04am
It is hard to just move on from a break up. You have so many feelings attached to this person plus so many memories. It is almost impossible to just immediately let go of all that. You need to provide yourself time to process. You have to allow yourself to heal. There is no certain time limit on how long it will take for you to go through the grieving process, so try not to put any expectations on yourself. It will get better with time and you will notice yourself getting better and getting through the pain. It is a hard time to go through, but you will get through it.
April 19th, 2021 4:17pm
There are many reasons why people can't move on and hurt themselves this way. They might feel they have no other place to go. Or they feel they will never find someone so right for them again. Perhaps they choose partners who can never love them the same way in return, and yet can't accept that finality. Some just simply take longer than others. If you're taking longer to get over it than you have in past breakups, start by being kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up for not moving on faster. you got this, and there are people here for you