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Why did she cheat on me?

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Last Updated: 07/07/2020 at 10:10pm
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Top Rated Answers
February 15th, 2015 8:45pm
Maybe she just didn't love you or maybe she was just a thot, sometimes we fall for the wrong people and don't notice it until it's too late.
September 6th, 2016 2:44pm
It's her fault that she couldn't identify the better one for her. Life is better than a cheater. I am so much better than her. i deserve someone special not a cheater
May 7th, 2015 10:18pm
I cannot tell you why she cheated but I can tell you that people do stupid things for all sorts of reasons but there is nothing wrong with you and you aren't to blame
May 17th, 2015 5:53pm
because u let her to.get out of the sales rack and sit where the sparkingly items are kept :) not everyone will know ur worth.but the one who does,will stay.she cheated on u because she didnt deserve u.
June 7th, 2016 11:29pm
You need to speak to her if you're really worrying that she may be cheating on you. If she is, make sure to find out why and maybe you can fix it
December 6th, 2016 12:54pm
I used to believe that there always had to be a singular and perfectly reasonable cause for things. The truth is, however, that life is much more complicated. In some instances, a person feels drawn to a different person. In such an instance, no matter how bad it might feel, communication is the key to avoid cheating. In my mind talking about such things openly is the best solution.
February 20th, 2017 7:27pm
Remember that no matter what, it is not your fault. It was her choice entirely and it wasn't fair for her to do that to you. It can be hard to find a reason for someone betraying your trust like that, but again, don't blame yourself.
October 3rd, 2017 12:51pm
Having experienced a similar experience in the past, I think the important thing to remember is she made the decision to do wrong, not you. You may feel like it's your fault, or you did something to cause it, but ultimately, it was her choice, and in my humble opinion, cheating is never acceptable. So while you may be blaming yourself, or feeling down, remember, you still have your integrity and self, and you can find someone who will treat you better.
April 11th, 2015 8:20am
Do you think that you may have triggered for her to do something like this? E.g. Have you had a fight recently?
April 26th, 2015 5:03pm
It may be the cause of some insecurities to herself or she's just not ready to commit into a serious relationship yet.
August 25th, 2015 8:30pm
There is no way for someone to know why they were cheated on. All you can do is ask the person who cheated on you "why" they did it and hope that they will be honest and tell you that answer. If its something that you think you really want to know and hear. Nobody should ever be cheated on. The best thing to do is discuss the things before one feels the need to reach that point. But we cannot control anyone else's actions but our own. Therefore do your best to talk with the person who did that to you and try to get your answers there.
August 30th, 2015 4:26pm
It is a good start to ask her first why did she cheat on you. In this way, you would know what had caused her to look at another man and possibly discover something you might have done (or not have done) that resulted to her feeling like there is something missing in your relationship. Of course it is not always the case, there are those who simply do not really love you at all that no matter how much you wanted to make it work; if your partner will not work with you as a team, then the relationship would not survive. There's a difference between the two and it is wise to ask first before jumping into conclusions.
September 19th, 2015 6:12pm
Women build strong emotional connections really fast. It’s easy for them to get close to a guy and confuse the bond with love.Besides,women fall in love fast. They fall in love too fast with just about anyone who shows affection. They try playing hard to get, but almost always end up becoming really easy to get for potential girlfriend stealers.They’re confused about their feelings almost all the time. A girl may love her man generally, but her mood swings ebb and flow like the tides of the sea. She likes her man sometimes, and she bitches about him at other times. Add another man into the equation and it’s a teen sitcom.Futhermore,a woman may cheat and get over it after a heartbreaking while. But a few months later, the drama starts all over again. Women just like the constant rush of falling in and out of love all the time.
November 26th, 2015 4:24pm
You can't really know why she cheated on you unless you ask her. It's said that women fall in love fast, but really when you think about it... If she fell in love with someone after you she obviously wasn't truly in love with you. That's why they always say if you fall in love with two people you always pick the second cause if you were in love with the first then you wouldn't have fallen for the second. It hurts and unfortunately that's how it works out. It always leaves someone hurt.
December 19th, 2016 10:02am
I think people cheat on themselves first. When you love who you are, you have a kind of self confidence and self control that keeps from acting in ways that are unbecoming on a mature person. So, my thoughts are that tis person felt helpless and was unable to communicate their needs.
January 31st, 2017 4:22pm
There is never a 100% answer for this. Ive heard of numerous reasons that a person would cheat. Sometimes its as simple as the just wanted too, other times its because they felt that something was missing in their current relationship and found it else where. No matter the reason it is a hard thing to deal with. The best way to get a reason is to ask the individual why they cheated, and if they can't take responsibility for their actions then it would be best to move on.
July 7th, 2020 10:10pm
I feel you are too good for her.Focusing on yourself should be your first priority be positive always and be happy and love yourself .that would be the best love you can ever give . Focus on your career health and family and friends and other relationships in which u really care for. Never cry over something which does not value you . Always have a feeling that you are one step ahead of what you actually think you are. Learn new skills and always keep yourself engaged . If any feeling if hurt or missing ,I would say its quite normal. Always happy to help