Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

Every breakup goes 50/50. No break-up is entirely one persons fault and it isn't just one persons duty to fix all the issues occuring in a relationship. Usually, guilt must go both ways. Now, apart from this, I guess taking blame on youself can be a sign of multiple things: coping mechanisms learned in early childhood from gaslighting type of situations, or maybe it can be a sign of lowered self worth - maybe you should look deeper inside yourself and see what exactly makes you feel that way, or maybe it can even be some sort of attachemnt style related issues - maybe you pick the wrong partners according to a certain type that is not fitting your own.... all these are things to think about... But there is also something more I could add, not every breakup is a bad thing - freeing ourselves and liberating our souls can as well be parts of break ups! It's all part of your growing process, remember that!

No matter the circumstances, on some level we blame ourselves when a relationship ends. We take it as a personal failure. The sorrow of heartbreak is not just about loss, but about self doubt. When rejection is involved in the breakup, it triggers primal rage which we turn against ourselves, beating ourselves up. Insecurity is one of the issues people attack themselves for. Some feel their insecurity is what drove their partner away. They feel shame. They suddenly focus on all of their personal defects, believing that it was their lacking, inadequacies, faults, deficits, and negative behaviors that made them unworthy of someone's love. They feel as if they've been condemned to eternal aloneness as a punishment for these shortcomings. sometimes we just have to sit down and reassess what went wrong, what we can do better next time. pick out the lessons and make up your mind to move on! blaming yourself won't change anything but get you sad.

When you’re undergoing a breakup, it’s typically because things don’t work out between the two of you. However, because it’s hard to not love someone, people will regret when they actually make the decision to withdraw from the relationship, thinking back to why they breakup. This in return results in anxiety and self-blame; it’s uncontrollable but when you love yourself just enough to love another person, self-doubt stops and you’ll find your life less in pain. Always love yourself before you love others because when you do, you will find it easy to move on since life is about you making decisions best for yourself. Life is yours and so live with your flaws, embrace your mistakes, and live the hell out of it.