Why do I always compare myself to my ex?
Last Updated: 05/10/2016 at 3:05am
Cynthia Stocker, LCSW,
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
My approach is direct, kind, honest & collaborative. My clients appreciate that I help them in a way that cuts through the jargon and gives clear explanations.
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Because in some way, we all want to feel like we are doing better, like a emotional competition. We want to prove that we are doing better even without them, and at times we tend to use that against ourselves.
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Because my emotional co-dependence only allowed me to be happy if she was happy. I happy forgotten to make my happiness my priority.
I think it is mostly because deep down you are hurt by that person and you wonderwhat you did wrong, when you probably wweren't the problem. You try to make yourself in the same image as your ex but what you should do is just be yourself.
Its because we see a bit of ourselves in them but also the fact that the person you loved has the qualities that you want but also the qualities you percieve you have .
You find your ex to be an admirable person, which is a great trait to look for in a partner, so it's understandable to occasionally compare yourself to them, especially since you share a commonality with them. It's ok to look up to a person, to admire them and to appreciate their skills or whatever else it is that you like about them. But you shouldn't compare yourself to them, or to anyone else for that matter.
I may do that because in the back of my mind I see him or her as a better of the two. Feel insecure?
It could be because of low self confidence. Remember confidence is based on how you carry yourself and difference is good. Why would u want to be like some1 else. If everyone is the same life will be boring.
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