Why do I always struggle with blaming myself?
Last Updated: 06/15/2020 at 2:02pm
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That's probably because you think that you are bad. But that's not true. You are a good person. More than half of the times, its not our mistake (and this is a fact). But we end up blaming ourselves even though we know that blaming doesn't help. To overcome a bad situation one needs to make efforts to rectify the mistake done by you or someone else. Blaming doesn't solve problems; efforts do.
Because sometimes we are sensitive and we want to help everyone . Sometimes it's easier to blame ourself for something that we are not responsible. But we need to take some distance and the strength to leave the problems our the struggles to other. But we can always listen.
As humans we are naturally self-centered beings. We have a tendency to pay extreme attention to ourselves and how we react with our environment. Because of this we feel as though we have an influence on all that is around us. We believe that we are the cause to all that happens because we do not know how to accept that some things just happen, whether or not there is someone or something to blames. Once we get into this pattern of blaming ourselves for events that happen, it gets harder to accept the fact that we are not to blame.
This is a problem that a lot of people deal with, and for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, it's a self-confidence issue; we don't think we're ever good enough, so why -wouldn't- it be our fault? Other times, it's due to outside, situational factors, like chronic stress or disease, or even guilt for past wrong-doings. Ask yourself this question-- you can answer it much better than anyone else ever could.
It could be from self esteem or that you hurt easily on some things more then others. I tend to do it to. Be extra confident if you can.
Because I know that I could have done better and I deserve better! When I avoid a chance, I take it as a sign of not being able to improve myself.
Because we always wan't to be someone else. Be yourself , Everyone else is taken. and Original is worth more that a copy , Stop hating yourself for everything you aren't and start loving yourself for everything you are.. Positive thoughts always ! :)
Instead of blaming yourself, use your energy for something positive instead. Maybe like how to solve the issues that is faced or what you can learn from your mistakes instead.
Perhaps blaming yourself is a sign of low self-esteem and maybe a lack of self-confidence. You need to understand that everyone makes mistakes, and it's okay! :) You should really work on your personalized growth path, and soon, you'll be on the path of happiness! :)
Blaming yourself is an emotional way to take control of something that has probably gotten out of control or that you could not influence the way you had originally hoped. Because things in life are uncertain, it's impossible to oversee and ensure every single detail goes according to plan - BUT, we really want to! When it all falls apart we feel like we have lost control. We feel like we have failed. We feel like if we had done something different, maybe things could have turned out better. The blame is a way of absorbing that control back in an emotional manner and gives us some relief because we think that if we can change ourselves, if we can improve ourselves, if we can just learn a few more skills, everything in this life will go better. It will go according to plan, it will all work out how we expect it should. Obviously, no matter how well educated, how well trained, how well prepared we are - things are always going to go wrong; life is full of unavoidable pitfalls. We will want to blame ourselves to find some reason, some relief, some detail to hyper focus on in hopes that if we can control it - we can control how the rest of our lives will play out. Self blame can become a dangerous path of negative thinking that creates a self fulfilling cycle and adds to depression. You can feel like everything you do goes wrong, it's always your fault and the more you try to control things, the more they are utter disasters. Cognitive Behavior Therapy addresses how to approach a lot of these blaming cycles and negative thought patterns. There's a number of free worksheets online to look at and access if you are interested in learning more about breaking some of the habits of self blame.
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