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Why do I always think about him or her?

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Last Updated: 06/05/2020 at 2:44am
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June 11th, 2016 5:13pm
If we are always thinking about something it means we care about it. It takes effort to think and to pay attention to something you are intrigued by something. The question is what are you intrigued by?
June 15th, 2016 9:15am
It is a positive or negative toughts ? If it is positive, maybe it's beacause you love him! If not, don't give him too much attention ;) !
June 17th, 2016 4:27pm
It's infatuation, or your feelings for that person. It's completely natural. We all fall for someone or the other. What matters is, don't let these thoughts affect your day to day life.
June 22nd, 2016 11:19am
We all have that one person in our lives whom it feels impossible to forget or leave. No matter how much that person has hurt us or played with our feelings or left us. Everyday, those evenings,those talks, those replies, those talks, their zodiac signs, their likings and dislikings... eveything remind us of them. Its hard to forget. Its hard to forgive. And it is harder to move ahead in life. But pausing our lives because of him/her, is not what we're born for. It hurts more to the people who love us to see us this way. It kills them to see us emotionally broken. You are loved by this universe. If this universe has taken something from you, its only because it is making space for something much better. Believe me, Day has always followed night. Do remember.. You have to be happy because you're graced with your life which million of people are dying to have. You can't waste it for anyone, be it anyone.
June 24th, 2016 3:20am
Well, in my personal experience, you always think about a person because something about them may catch your eye. Its not always that you're in love with them, but perhaps because you think of them as a really good friend. It's always great to ask yourself what you think of a person, as thinking of them all the time is not always a direct indicator of love. :)
June 26th, 2016 7:46am
The most influential people in our lives occupy a great deal of our thinking space. We are human beings and we love.
July 3rd, 2016 1:51am
Because they make you happy! People who make you happy are great for your life! It's a good thing!!!
July 9th, 2016 10:48pm
Because you do care about him/her. It means that he/she's on your mind all the time. It looks like you have a crush on him/her.
July 15th, 2016 1:31pm
You have memories with them , Theyve influenced ur life & somehow it matters. Mostly u allow urself.
July 16th, 2016 4:10am
Maybe you miss them, or maybe your heart is aching because you love them. Love is a hard thing to ignore.
July 17th, 2016 9:31pm
because that person is an example of where you lost your happiness, and where you're not going to find it again. Nothing that took away your happiness is ever going to give it back without consequences
July 20th, 2016 7:03am
Honestly, I thought about him a lot because I liked him a lot. You can't but help to think about that person if they consume your thoughts most of the time.
July 20th, 2016 3:01pm
They make everything okay and its a safe and healthy alternative to somethinf harmful that would make me happier.
July 22nd, 2016 2:54am
Thoughts become feelings and feelings become actions. Do something that will challenge yourself. With positive actions come positive feelings and with positive feelings come positive thoughts! Get yourself out there and eventually, that person will be just a happy memory.
July 23rd, 2016 1:02am
Because you were so used to having this person in your life. It's hard to let that go. But you can.
July 23rd, 2016 3:36pm
I always think about him because he made me a better person,,,, by not loving me d same way as i loved him as this made me value all those people in my life who loved me so much more and i was not able to appreciate that before.
July 28th, 2016 11:22am
you make think about him/her a lot if you like that person. This person is someone you may want to be with and they are always on your mind because you find them attractive.
July 28th, 2016 7:14pm
You always think about him/her because you had a good bond with them. Something about them you miss.
July 29th, 2016 5:42am
if him/her had a big part in your life, or in your feelings its normal to always think abut someone who has impacted your life, they start to rub off on you and when they are gone sometimes it leaves a hole that is just filled with thoughts about them
July 31st, 2016 1:37pm
This person has emotionally effected u if it is consuming you get busy doing things - keep mind busy
August 3rd, 2016 6:48am
I always think about him because I loved him. I'm still worried about him with a countless petty things. I guess, you will never stop thinking about someone who has been or had been a significant in your life.
August 3rd, 2016 10:13am
if it is an ex maybe it is grief. if it is someone with no person past maybe you might be attracted to them in a type of way.
August 3rd, 2016 10:55am
May be you like her so much, and that's a good thing. People love, remember that. It's pretty normal
August 4th, 2016 2:42pm
There are good times and bad times that you may never be able to really forget. People are special and sometimes it is difficult to let some of those special things go.
August 8th, 2016 8:40pm
Because that person was most likely a major key in your life. Although no longer in that role, they will always be remembered.
August 10th, 2016 7:35pm
This is difficult and not sure whether my reply will be an answer as such but more of an insight. You're thinking about them all the time and you just need to think about why? and the situation surrounding it. Do you have a crush on them? Are they single? Do they already like someone? Have they recently gotten out of a bad relationship? these are things that need to be considered before action. If you know them, form a friendship first, it's the best way in my opinion rather than jumping in.
August 12th, 2016 9:48pm
Because you can't control your thoughts. Eventually you will move on,and you won't thing about them.
August 14th, 2016 2:51pm
Something about him/her always brings you back to a time where you feel like you were more whole of a person, or had someone you can channel your attention towards, but understand that that person, even though they are gone, you are still there and still alive, and still have a plathura of things to find out about yourself and the world
August 19th, 2016 5:12pm
Without more context the only reasonable conclusion that can be deduced from your question is the following. They are, for some reason, interesting enough for you to repeatedly think about them. Possibly as an idol, crush, celebrity, rival, mentor, etc.
August 21st, 2016 10:33pm
because he's in your heart,you do feel him close to your heartyour brain and mind don't let you forget him,you love him