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Why do I feel so alone in my relationship?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2022 at 9:58am
Why do I feel so alone in my relationship?
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everyonematterz
April 16th, 2021 12:06am
Feeling alone in a relationship is frustrating. When two souls share time together one would imagine reciprocal love, support and commitment. Sometimes when my expectations are too high or too low in a relationship I examine what’s working, what has worked and I communicate my needs to the partner. We aren’t always aware of others needs and needs are just that - a necessary component to a successful relationship. Consider your thoughts and take some time to formulate what you’d like to say and have an honest chat with your partner. See how this goes. If progress isn’t met, perhaps you will need to remember your worth and move on from this relationship that isn’t satisfactory.
frostyRose25
April 23rd, 2021 3:22am
Feeling alone in a relationship where you are supposed to feel accepted, loved, and celebrated is not normal. Usually, a person feels alone in a connection if their needs are not being met by the other person. This could be if for example your partner decides to spend time with their friends over you, they do not listen to your thoughts or comments about important decisions, or they belittle you if you express disagreement or discontent about something they have done. A romantic relationship is a connection that is supposed to add to your life and not detract from it. If you are feeling too alone and neglected with your partner who is supposed to be chief supporter in life, then it's time to think about whether this connection is meeting your needs.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2021 4:19am
Sometimes a partner doesn’t give us the level of attentiveness we need to feel secure and cared for. Often times this is due to a lack of independence on our parts, and the need for validation. Other times it may be a sign that our partner is disengaged in the relationship and we might need to introduce this issue into a discussion to express our emotions. Regardless of the reason, the key here is communicating your feelings to your partner and making sure that they know how you are feeling, because we’re not mind readers. Communication is key, always .
starryRose5308
May 9th, 2021 2:13pm
This is a touchy topic for me because I’m currently going through this right now. Feeling alone in a relationship occurs the most when you and your partner are on different pages. And feeling alone is the first thing that occurs because your partner isn’t there as much as you expect them to be. This feeling could also occur when you’re not getting enough attention that you desire. Sometimes your partner doesn’t notice the loneliness because they have other things going on and sometimes don’t pay attention as much. Changes in a relationship could cause this as well. In a relationship, I feel like you shouldn’t feel alone.
Anonymous
May 14th, 2021 1:16am
Communication is key. It is completely normal. Don’t ever think it’s your fault. You can be in a room full of 1,000 people and still feel alone. Have you tried talking to your partner about this situation? Often loneliness in a relationship stems from a lack of connection, a lack of effort in the relationship, or a lack of individuation—or some combination of these factors. Having other support systems to listen to you is amazing. If the feeling of loneliness keeps growing in your relationship, I would recommend a therapist. There are many different kinds of therapist that will help you with your problems :)
75Ktea
June 10th, 2021 12:00am
Sometimes it happens when one has a different perspective about how the relationship should be vs the person you're with. For example when one wants to see that person everyday but for some reason the other person can't and they don't feel like they need to see you everyday even though they do love you very much. It's just different needs. Is your case different needs? you might want to think about it, if you find out it is, you might want to talk about it with your partner. This has been what has often happened to me, and we have figured things out.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2021 11:05am
Communication I think communication has a huge role in any relationship. It is the key to improve the understanding between people. Do you think you and your partner are not speaking frequently and no longer investing more time with each other? Tell your partner that you feel disconnected from them, ask them if they too feel the same. Then arrange some time to meet and catch up on things. It is possible your honeymoon period just ended. The honeymoon phase is an early part of a couple's relationship where everything seems carefree and happy. When we experience things at first, it seems the world is revolving around other people. It's all-new. We experience diverse kinds of emotions. But as days go by, we come to the point that we know everything about the other person and have experienced how it's like to be with them. It's pretty ordinary! Don't stress that much. You two can always try new things out and explore new places and explore each other more. Talk to the other person about it. It's going to be okay!
YousefFrisca
December 30th, 2021 9:45pm
I believe you might need to re look at the whole story of your relationship from the beginning and think if you really need to continue or maybe to stop to start a new happier page, and it doesn’t mean to directly start a new relationship, no .. sometimes you need to take sometime alone understanding yourself more, loving yourself more until you feel that you are ready to love, and you are ready to be in a proper healthy relationship so you don’t repeat the mistake again and to feel lonely in the other relationships, love is life and you should feel the person with you is filling your entire life
CoffeeAddict07
March 3rd, 2022 11:34pm
You might feel alone in your relationship if your partner is not showing you sufficient attention or even if you feel as if your partner is not showing you enough attention. If the scenario is the first one then it would be best to distance yourself from your partner and find someone new to rely on for emotional support. However, if it is the latter then the reason that you feel so alone is most likely due to a psychological reason. More often than not children who are left with proper emotional support as a child do not feel as if they are getting it even when they are an adult despite their partner doing all the rights things.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2022 3:29pm
Because maybe you should talk and Express it feelings to ur parents if not then nothing will change try to talk with him more clearly and explain him why u feel like dis and what is ur target in dis relationship and wat u want and ofc if he really really loves u then he will do his best to keep u and make u happy so never feel like u are alone everything gonna be ok and be happy and never feel alone coz feeling in dis way is actually useless just try to Express and attempt for ur future and ur goals
spicyvaish
March 17th, 2022 4:28pm
I think that if you're feeling alone in your relationship, it is important to talk to your partner about it. Chances are that you're in a one-sided relationship. If your partner is not reciprocating your feelings and actions, then they do not deserve you. They should make an active effort to change or it is best if you leave them. It is also important to remember that you can be lonely even if you aren't physically alone. If you are facing any serious issues with loneliness, isolation, and similar feelings, please talk to a professional and seek help because it could be an indicator of more serious problems.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2022 6:34pm
I think when you feel alone in your relationship you should take a step back and find out where the disconnect is coming from. You can try to figure out what it is you need want and need for that matter. Once you are able to figure that out, the next step is communication. Consider talking to your partner about how it is you feel. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but it is vital for the two of you to know where the other persons head is at. If nothing changes often times, when you feel alone in a relationship your partner may not be the person you need at that time in your life.
Rosealyn
April 13th, 2022 6:26am
This is a great question, and one that I believe can be answered by taking a look at your love tank. We each have different needs to fill this love tank, and it can take time to discover which needs fill your tank best. Check out this article about the Love Tank Theory: https://yourauthenticpersonality.com/how-full-is-your-love-tank/. Take some time to determine what fills your tank, and make sure to talk with your relationship partner. This theory relies on both parties being aware of their distinct needs. Remember, this takes time to figure out, and may take some soul searching. It's ok to determine that your percentages differ!
AttentiveAlly00
May 13th, 2022 4:51am
relationships go hand in hand. Both have to give their 100% to each other. If you feel alone in your relationship, maybe it's because you don't get the support, the feeling of someone being by your side when you are sad or happy. Take time for yourself and understand what's going on maybe you can find a solution. Maybe your work pressure or his/her work pressure is not giving them time to work on your personal life. Communication is the key to all the problems, talk to each other and come to a conclusion. You will find your answer. Hope this helps everyone who feels alone in their relationship.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2022 9:58am
The communication may have broken down, and it feels like you are alone due to a lack of communication. Try to tell your partner how you are feeling and listen to how they feel and try to rekindle that connection by taking the time to listen. Maybe do a ativity together and see if the spark is still there. If you still feel alone and your partner is not listening, maybe unfortunately the relationship should come to an end for your own happiness and wellbeing. Make sure you have a strong support network around you at this time so you arent alone.