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Why do I freak out in relationships so easily?

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Last Updated: 10/08/2021 at 2:59pm
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April 10th, 2016 9:51am
There might be a lot of stress working on you from previous relationships. Did anything go wrong with your relationships in the past? Is this your first relationship? You might just be nervous.
April 16th, 2016 12:16pm
its normal to feel a little scared when youre in a new relationship. but i would suggest trying to take a few deep breaths and calming down whenever you feel yourself starting to freakout.
April 22nd, 2016 2:15am
Sometimes you are afraid to commit to the relationship and that makes it seem scary, you have a choice between fight or flight and if you're scared you'll pick flight every time
April 22nd, 2016 4:52am
Jealousy, you could be protective and get jealous easy, i know i have... But domt let kt get to you.
April 23rd, 2016 12:23am
You may be nervous around your significant other or you may truly not be interested in that person
April 24th, 2016 6:34pm
You mostly freakout when you are uncomfortable with relationship, so trust yourself, your partner and be confident about your relationship.
April 28th, 2016 5:47pm
The reason might be because you have been hurt in the past and your just keeping your guard up so that it doesn't happen again. Perfectly normal!
May 1st, 2016 3:44pm
It could be because you are afraid of commitment which it's not something bad. You might want to take some ME time and analyze yourself to decide what's making you freak out in relationships
May 5th, 2016 7:54pm
I think you freak out in relationships so easily because you may worry that he is not the right guy for you but not everyone is prefect.
May 12th, 2016 6:29pm
It's normal to freak out, you're mentally invested in a relationship. You trust the other person with everything you got; doubts, secrets,... You probably want to build a future with this person and when something happens or you think could happen that would change that, then it scares you. It's okay to freak out sometimes, but do talk about it with your partner.
May 13th, 2016 2:02pm
It depends on the situation, your past and what the guy/girl is like can affect the way you behave in a relationship. Perhaps you may have commitment issues which is quite common.
May 18th, 2016 4:04pm
You may not be stably ready to have a relationship with someone yet or still in the friend zone. ...
May 20th, 2016 2:37am
I tend to freak out in relationships so easily because I'm afraid of losing that person and I don't want to say something that will make them leave.
May 20th, 2016 1:42pm
Ppl freak out for different reasons! Some because they feel insecure about something or because they care too much or maybe worried that maybe thi gs won't go the way you want it to but rather way you should not worry about that just try to calm yourself down and talk to the other person
May 21st, 2016 10:59am
Being alone is completely different when compared to station of being in a relationship. You will never hate yourself but in a relationship you are afraid of making mistakes that freak you out.
May 21st, 2016 9:07pm
It's probably due to last experiences, which is okay! It can be understood by everyone why. Don't think as it weird or bad.
June 1st, 2016 10:55am
Personally its because of previous experience but for a lot of people its a trust issue and the uncertainty of not knowing how someone will react to certain things
June 4th, 2016 11:34am
Relationships mean opening up yourself to another person, and sometimes that can mean potentially getting hurt. This can cause for us to become protective. Nobody wants to get hurt. At the same time, we often form relationships with people that we deeply care about. These people are really important to us, and when the relationship is strained, we can often freak out instead because we are scared that we are going to lose this valuable person. I guess what we can work towards is controlling the manner in which we express our personal fears and concerns so to prevent freaking out, but that's not always the easiest thing to do. It's perfectly normal to freak out in a relationship that matters, so don't be too harsh on yourself if you do. :)
June 4th, 2016 11:26pm
Perhaps because feelings are a scary thing for some people - a relationship is allowing yourself to be vulnerable to another person and that is difficult for some, especially if they had bad past experiences
June 5th, 2016 4:56am
you could be afraid of commitment with a person, or affection in general. in this situation, it's best to look back at childhood and your childhood relationships with parents and friends.
June 9th, 2016 1:43am
Maybe it's because you're scared of the uncertainty of the future, of possible breakups, of unknown threats, because at times when something good happens to us, bad things might follow up and we aren't prepared for them
June 9th, 2016 7:03pm
I think its quite simple actually, when you are in a serious relationship, you usually care a lot for your mate, and having them leaving your life would be something that would damage you, therefore you are afraid of losing that person or messing up in any other way. It can also have to do with your self esteem for example. One's lack of confidence can always make them really anxious when in a relationship.
June 9th, 2016 8:58pm
It could be down to trust or commitment issues. Think about your past relationships how long have they lasted and why have they ended try to analyse them and figure out what the common thing is.
June 10th, 2016 9:07am
After this first few weeks of things going well, I begin to doubt the legitimacy of the relationship. Maybe he is secretly stringing me along, or doesn't mean what he really is saying. It's a trust issue that really isn't based on anything, and I've found the only way to deal with it is to talk about it with them, no matter how difficult...
June 10th, 2016 11:15pm
It can because you are afraid of putting yourself in a vulnerable position with someone, due to being hurt in the past or being afraid of letting people in.
June 11th, 2016 9:38am
You freak out in relationships for many reasons. You could have trust issues. You might not be comfortable with yourself . You might be picking the wrong people.
June 11th, 2016 5:29pm
Being in relationship is never easy,you're just worried about getting hurt if you fall in too deep just relax and trust others
June 12th, 2016 5:52pm
It may be that you are nervous and afraid of loosing someone, or if you had some bad experience with relationships in the past it is reflecting on this.
June 15th, 2016 4:07am
Maybe because we are sometimes scared of commitment. We think as life has been uncertain to us we might not be able to keep a promise to someone. We want to take it as it comes so that we get an easy way out! But we must know every relationship has a cycle it starts and ends so no need to freak out and just make the best out of it as we all can.
June 16th, 2016 2:00pm
Perhaps it's based on an insecurity. Have you talked to your significant other about your relationship lately? Trust and security are two major parts of a relationship. If you are not sure of yourself, or your partner, you may need to communicate more.