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Why do I freak out in relationships so easily?

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Last Updated: 03/20/2021 at 2:20am
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September 26th, 2020 5:14am
Managing not only your own emotions but someones else's in a relationship can be incredibly stressful. At times, it can feel overwhelming and cause us to make decisions we might not ordinarily choose for ourselves. Its understandable to feel this way, regardless of the negative or positive previous expeirnces you've had in relationships. With time, you may find more comfort in them, and acknowledging the stress they can put you under is a great first step towards finding that stability. Try to find kindness and patinece for yourself as you disocver your feelings- The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to face the challenging feelings that surface in relationships.
October 10th, 2020 10:44am
I see you freak out in relationships easily. This can be caused by an assortment of reasons. Are you unfamiliar with them, never been in one, or have trust issues? It is normal to be afraid because it makes you think about if it is best for you. How does it make you feel inside? Is there anything that triggers it? Is there anything your partners do that makes it better or worse? How many relationships have you been in? If the other person is truly for you they will be patient with you and help you through these struggles.
November 13th, 2020 8:23pm
Because I want to be seen from a very high standard. Intelligent-- that is. When I feel I do not come across as such I tend to have a bit of anxiety. My standards are usually very high on myself. Not meeting them leads me into slight sadness, in a way. However, with all this going on, I still try to look on the bright side of things. I try not to be so hard on myself because I know eventually I will get where I need to be one way or another. Simply forcing myself will mot be enough. I just have to keep learning and let time dictate my path.
November 18th, 2020 7:27am
This is a tough question that may require you to think through your life and everything you have experienced. Many times the way we interact with people is based on what we see in everyday life or experiences we may have had. Did you grow up seeing a healthy relationships? Did someone hurt you, which caused you to shy away from other relationships? Sometimes it is good to take a break from relationships and work on ourselves. Work on making ourselves more confident and comfortable in our own skin, once we have fully accepted ourselves and the traumas we may have been through then that might be the right time to get into a relationship.
November 20th, 2020 9:07pm
There could be a number of factors that contribute to this. First of all it is worth emphasising that a certain level of nervousness is normal - especially if you're new to relationships - but if you are finding it a consistent obstacle that is preventing you from connecting with us it's important to try and evaluate where this feeling comes from. Potentially it could be linked to the kind of relationships you were exposed to as a child, or a past experience with a relationship that influenced how you view future ones. If you can work out what it is that is scaring you and where it originates from, it could be the key to solving this problem.
December 9th, 2020 6:28pm
I think this really depends on the person but it usually has to do with past experiences. For example, have you felt like they could leave at anytime or fear that the relationship could change unexpectedly? From experience I found family life has a lot to do with this. This a challenge that I myself have trouble overcoming but I can tell you that relationships aren't ever easy. Your worries are completely valid and you are not alone. But remember that your significant other does care about you because they want to be with you. They wanted to date you and not someone else. So to answer this question I think its a combination of environment, experiences, and normal new relationship nerves.
January 3rd, 2021 9:27pm
Relationships are difficult because every person has different thoughts and ideas. Personally, for me, it has been difficult to not freakout in a relationship because I put all my emotions on that one person. My boyfriend is my everything and if I lost him, I would be in a very dark place. Knowing this is difficult as it makes me anxious that I might lose him. This is not the most healthy approach however we are both working on it. This fact alone makes every argument more scary than it should be, explaining why I freak out in relationships easily. For other people it may be similar, or it may differ in another direction. Comparing relationships to other relationships may also be a cause for freaking out. Social media pushes this perfect, nuclear couple that may not be the same as your own relationship. This is another cause of freaking out over little issues so easily. In the end, every relationship is build over its own set of bricks and maintained in different ways. These issues may not be directly other's reasons for freaking out however they are common within myself and many of my peers. Learning how to reduce these "freaking out"s will definitely be of aid in the future for building up that foundational relationship!
February 17th, 2021 1:58pm
There are many different reasons that this can be happening. One is that you may have trust issues. If you've been in a difficult relationship before, that may be a reason you're freaking out so easily. Another reason could be that you just aren't ready for that type of commitment. Maybe you should consider taking a break from relationships for a little and take some time to focus on yourself. It might help your overall mood and the way that you act in your relationships. But it is up to you, because only you know how you truly feel.
March 20th, 2021 2:20am
It can be insecurities from past.relationships. I was guilty of that and also my boyfriend does that sometimes but its something that we have observed and we are working on, so you are not alone. Also, the fact that you recognize that is a good start, take a breath and evaluate if it worth freaking out over. .