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Why do I get over people so easily?

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Last Updated: 01/16/2022 at 3:08pm
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April 6th, 2018 4:10pm
You do not need to take a long time to get over people. The fact that you get over people quickly shows that you are more stable within yourself. You love yourself and you are confident that this universe will provide you with more, and better people to love. Why dwell and hang on to what has died, when one can look brightly at what is ahead.
June 16th, 2016 4:11pm
Because maybe you lack the emotional attachment due to the fact you've built walls to protect yourself?
July 8th, 2016 2:37am
Because you are strong, and don't fully depend on others to take care of your every need. Once they let go, you realize that they are just a person faster than others.
June 17th, 2016 4:21am
There are many factors that could make you get "over" people easily, but most likely, it's not something to worry about because everyone is different. Perhaps you were prepared, whether consciously or subconsciously, to part with them and refrained from getting too attached. Or maybe you simply have a different way of coping with break-ups.
January 18th, 2017 4:44am
Chances are you've probably been hurt or have had your heart broken a lot in your lifetime which sometimes makes us less sensitive to losing people. After a while you start to grow stronger as a person which makes it easier to forget and get over people who have either wronged you or upset you in some kind of way. It's a coping mechanism that is honestly good to have because a lot of people like to use those who are hurt easily and can't get over others quite as easily to their advantage. Your a strong individual.
August 7th, 2016 4:30am
That's a very hard question to answer. It might be because you don't really care about people to begin with. Maybe you've been keeping a certain distance between others and yourself so that when they leave, you don't get too upset which might be due to being badly hurt in the past. It could also mean nothing since we all deal with loss differently.
August 18th, 2016 3:45am
You may know that they aren't right for you and you deserve better. I'm that way too. I get over people easily most knowing that they aren't for me. And that there's someone better
December 22nd, 2016 6:28am
Some people get over people easily. It may be because it takes you longer to develop strong feelings, it may be because you had been losing feeling for that person for awhile. It's not a bad thing that you may get over people easily :)
April 28th, 2017 12:48pm
Personally I think that is a sign of strength. If you can tell yourself that you are better off without that person, for whatever reason, and you feel you don't need time to cope or recover, it makes much more room for happiness and for people you do care about.
July 23rd, 2016 5:27pm
it's probably because you never really love them or think they'll never actually stick around so you don't put your whole heart into the relationship. For me, I feel that way too, because I know people eventually leave, & it's always easier to not depend fully on anyone, hence when they leave, it's easier for me to get over them.
November 15th, 2017 6:55am
If you are getting over people easily it usually means that you were not truly in love with that person. You may have not been truly very serious. It may have felt like the most serious relationship you have ever been in, but in reality it is rather basic. You will find someone who you will be more serious with. You will find someone truly worth fighting for! Do not give up or blame yourself!! It is not your fault.
July 23rd, 2016 1:27pm
Some would be so happy about it. but I know how it feels to feel like you're somehow superficial or something because you're able to move on so quickly. I don't think something's genuinely wrong, maybe it's just a matter of personality and how strong the echo of past events is on ourselves.:)
December 13th, 2017 10:32pm
Most of the time it is because you didn't really love them. Sometimes it's because you know it is best for you to not obsess over them since it will hurt you even more. With my last relationship I moved on in less that a week. That is because when he broke up with me he showed me that we were not meant to be. Sometimes you know it is best for you to just forget them, like I did with my ex.
July 27th, 2016 3:04pm
Because you don't let yourself get attached. Because you're too scared of getting left, so you force your heart to leave them first.
October 12th, 2016 7:17pm
Because there was nothing really attaching you to. You let them go because you never really liked them and it is not your fault either.
December 6th, 2017 11:50pm
maybe because it wasnt true love or maybe because you are a strong hearted individual or it could be that you have a good life with lots of positivity around you so you never get down or dishearted as you have plenty of other things to keep you occupied or it could just because its the way you are its not a bad thing right!
March 29th, 2018 8:58pm
People grieve relationships in different ways. A lot of people might see that as "wrong", but it is normal. It happens all the time and to a lot of people. It's okay. Some people even have the theory that maybe you weren't as close to that person as you thought or maybe that it wasn't a healthy overall relationship and you sorta feel better by being out. And this doesn't just apply to romantic relationships either.
August 3rd, 2016 9:29pm
Because, the are always selfish. They don't care about us. Maybe they do but they don't show us that. So we just get over them.
June 16th, 2016 2:11pm
Honestly, everyone moves on and copes differently. Some people(such as myself) have difficulty moving on and never truly do. Others find it easy to come to terms with the end of a relation(friends, dating), and can move on very quickly. If you find that you never truly had a "long lasting spark" maybe you just haven't found someone you really connected with.
June 15th, 2016 4:39am
Some people deal with things & emotions differently from others. That's fine because if you were the same as everyone else then wouldn't life be boring. Its good that you find it easy to let go and move forward.
September 4th, 2016 7:49am
Any number of reasons.. but instead of writing you a list of them, I'd like to ask you to question yourself behind the why 1. Did you feel anything for them? 2. Did you feel release when you get over them? Did you feel a rendering pain before this time? 3. Did you feel on edge when you were with them? Do you think you really loved them? And do you think that you getting over them might've been because of relationship phobia?
October 13th, 2016 1:02am
People deal with things in completely varying ways. While some individuals have extreme difficulty getting over people, others do not. This does not make you strange, and it is not wrong. It makes you human. We all process situations differently and there isn't always an explanation for this.
May 26th, 2018 5:31am
Personally, I think this happens only when you like that person and not in love with the person. Therefore the attachment between the two people involved is not as strong as expected.
June 16th, 2016 8:47am
You may not have had a strong connection with them, you may not have gotten to personal with them or cared for them a great deal to truly go through a healing phase. Or your healing phase is jumping back quickly and getting past it as quickly and as easily as you can.
July 29th, 2016 6:38pm
Perhaps it's a subconscious defense mechanism or maybe your coping mechanisms are more highly-tuned than people who cannot get over other people so easily. It's not necessarily a bad thing.
November 11th, 2016 9:15pm
The reality is that no one person is the same. The amount of time it can take to get over will vary depending on factors including how long you were together etc.
November 22nd, 2017 9:26pm
Those people aren't as important for you as it seems. There's nothing wrong with that. I get over people easily too. Those people I don't consider important enough to run after them and beg them to stay
February 7th, 2018 6:14am
You have reached that maturity in your life, where you know what is good for you and what just isn't . That is a good thing , I am the same way, and I am also proud of it. If they were meant to be in your life, they'll come back. If not, then you made the right decision .
March 30th, 2018 4:31pm
Because you know that you never really cared about them and they never really cared about you. This is ok!
June 24th, 2016 1:29pm
Is it possible that you haven't connected to them in the first place all that much? If so, maybe consider why that might be?