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Why do realtionships and break ups always ruin friendships?

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Last Updated: 01/15/2018 at 3:30pm
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October 26th, 2015 3:38pm
Of course not. Relationships could even start friendships. I am still friends with my ex. Best friends, actually.
May 2nd, 2015 4:26am
Relationships are more complex then we imagine and when breakups happen, things get worse. It affects everyone around us.Sometimes when a friend is directly involved in our relationship, friendships go down hill.
May 6th, 2015 12:20am
Relationships and break ups always ruin friendships because sometimes when you break up it hurts to much to see that petson or sometimes things can't go back to normal and has to change
October 11th, 2015 5:13pm
Relationships tend to end because both parties aren't able to come to an agreement, or things just don't work out. Therefore, as friends, there tends to be tension about things that had happened during the relationship or things just are awkward. Breakups are difficult and one person may need time on their own to figure things out and move on.
November 16th, 2015 4:57am
It's hard to remain friends with someone who you have had or still have feelings for. Having a romantic past can sometimes make friendships complicated.
November 16th, 2015 10:54pm
Depends on what do you mean by friendship here. If you mean friendship as in friendship between you and your ex partner then it's mostly because of bitterness, staying friends after breakup is hard and often doesn't work out. It's possible to stay friends but I've noticed that it's either because you never really loved each other or you still love each other. If you mean ruining friendship as in your relationship with someone ruins your friendship with someone else then I'd blame envy or simply not having enough time due to being in a relationship which takes priority over other friends.
November 26th, 2015 8:55pm
Relationships can ruin friendships either because the person in the relationship can't balance their time between their friends and their lover , or because their lover was their friend . Breakups can ruin friendships because it's too awkward or complicated to stay as friends , OR , they were already friends and can't see each other as " just friends " anymore because of their romantic past .
December 14th, 2015 3:39am
Relationships start off as friendships and sadly once those end we can only think about the reason why it ended and that ruins the friendship.
February 2nd, 2016 8:23pm
Not always, but they do have an impact on them a lot of the time. It can be difficult to remain friends with someone when people have leftover feelings. Relationships rarely end mutually. The best way to be friends with someone after a relationship is with time, when it can be assured that there are no romantic or emotional feelings that can impact a friendship.
October 25th, 2016 7:35pm
It depends on the relationship of the two people involved. Some couples used to be good friends then it turns out that they broke up, some people don't like to be friends with their exes especially when they haven't moved on yet. It might be very heart breaking nor depressing. Some people choose to get over the memories they had and the person they made it with. So that's why most of us prefer to be friends with the person we want to stay rather than to build a relationship with him that might have consequences and risk or chances that they might go away from our lives.
January 15th, 2018 3:30pm
Sacrificing things is possibly essential to those who make a move in their Life. If I would refer to myself, I had friends who drifted away from me as they pursue on their Loved ones but I kept my door open in chances they may return and ask for help.
May 14th, 2015 12:11am
Sometimes certain relationships aren't meant to be. Though it is not a reason to not be strong! love
May 21st, 2015 8:27am
My breakups have rarely been equal, there was in inequity in expectations and emotions before the break up and afterwards. It's some times too hard to salvage something when the boundaries and expectations are so confused, and some times a person needs a lot of space to reform their heart and life and in the end they come out such a different person friendship isn't possible. Some times people are just so hung up on 'what they had' they can't see what they could have. Or a relationship was so hurtful they don't want anything to do with it any more. I think you can be great friends with an ex, but it's not always possible.
July 21st, 2015 12:22am
I don't think they do. At play in cases where this does happen are hurt feelings, of course. Humans are emotional creatures and when you hurt someone emotionally, even if it's the right thing to do, they can hold onto that hurt.
August 24th, 2015 7:27am
Probably because they do not feel comfortable talking to one another after everything you have experienced with them.
September 8th, 2015 3:05pm
Breakups don't always ruin friendships. Sometimes, if you are good friends with them before dating them, when you break up, it is easier to remain friends. Granted, it may be awkward for a while, but it gets better. I am friends with the guys I broke up with, mostly because we were good friends beforehand. But in the case where you aren't good friends before dating, yes it can sometimes ruin your friendship with them. Mostly because by dating, you give a piece of your heart away and they get to know you on a more personal level, so remaining friends is hard at first and awkward.
May 24th, 2016 1:46am
I feel this is because relationships can change a person. For example, if you have a good friend that you always hang out with, he/she might start dating and won't be able to hang out as much...or much at all if they're really attached. This creates a gap between you and your friend, which may cause you two to drift apart and maybe lead to further conflict. For example, if my good friend was turning me down all the time and not being able to hang out I might react negatively..etc. In terms of breakups, if you used to be friends with someone before you dated them and there's a breakup, most times people can't move past what happened. The cause of the breakup could be a tragic event or maybe something(s) that caused a lot of conflict between the two, which may lead to the end of a friendship. I hope I answered your question :)
March 27th, 2017 9:42am
In my personal opinion, that happens because friends take sides instead of finding out everything. we tend to run to our friends and tell them what happened instead of giving it time and coping with what occured. We involve others and sides are taken and friendships and broken and torn apart because of it.
March 28th, 2017 9:45am
Relationships and break ups ruin friendships because it affects the person emotionally. It may cause the breaking of trust and faith. People may feel like they are not loved anymore