Why do we breakup with someone that we love?

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Zinnia
May 17th, 2015 4:44pm
Because sometimes we feel as if our happiness is running out, or feel as if we're trapped. It's quite normal, but it's painful.
goldenLight64
March 1st, 2015 1:24pm
Just because we're in love doesn't mean we are good for each other. Sometimes we can be toxic and bring out the worst in each other even though the love is there.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:44am
People breakup with someone that they love because somewhere deep inside them, that person knows that the relationship won't last and. They know that they won't be happy with the person that they are with and they don't want to hurt that person. But there's always someone waiting o love that person but they just don't kno
kingdom20
July 4th, 2017 3:27pm
Sometimes the fact that you love the person is just not enough for you to stay in the relationship! If you don't work out together you don't work out, life can just give you so many reasons to leave
Wonderest
July 2nd, 2015 7:37pm
Sometimes love is not enough. Relationships are built on effective communication, trust, respect, effort and so no. One aspect cannot exist without the other for the relationship to be successful. Both people need to be on the same page.
amazingSound20
November 9th, 2015 11:58am
Sometimes although we love someone and they love us a relationship can become destructive and will not do either partner any good. Couples may not always be compatible and find themselves disagreeing constantly and arguing. Communication may break down and all channels to improve this may not work. In my experience sometimes the other person may want different things in life that are not in keeping with the other partners. It is very difficult to let someone you love go.
sereneRiver46
February 26th, 2015 3:15pm
Sometimes there are things that we need to do and experience without a partner in order to learn and grow.
Nera
March 28th, 2017 3:41pm
Sometimes we realize that the people we love aren't good for us. You can love a person though they are not something that will be a positive effect on your life. It doesn't mean it's an easy choice or an easy path. It's going to take time, patience and a lot of courage. If you've decided to end a relationship, despite you, loving that person. You've made a wise choice.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2017 6:47am
It's either that we fall out of love or we feel that our partner has changed drastically and has become everything that they weren't supposed to be.
JessieAnderson
May 23rd, 2017 4:55am
Because love is never enough. There is wayyyy more to a relationship than just love. Trust, understanding, compassion, attitude, so much more. Sometimes we leave because to leave is the only thing we're left with.
NicholasW
April 28th, 2015 12:24pm
Because we think that we can't handle it any more and wanna find someone new that cares about us. That's all
lovelyFireworks62
May 22nd, 2015 12:07am
It is more painfull to stay in an inadequate relationship then to stay and loose yourself, your dignity and your self esteem
Rasenchidori
September 22nd, 2015 4:56am
Sometimes they are simply not the right person. You lose interest and that love might fade and eventually lead into a break up. Love is a very fragile and often transient emotion.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2017 5:40am
Sometimes when we love someone it could hurt us because it's for all the wrong reasons. Other times there is something we can't overlook that they have done and we just need our space to think. Maybe they wanted to be set free and you let them be, maybe they love you and you loved them but your family disagreed. Whatever it is, when you love someone, sometimes bliss can be imperfect.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 4:35am
somethimes this relationship can be very toxic and its hard to keep a forward going life with, toxic
CaringDemon6
September 22nd, 2015 1:56am
With love sometimes we feel like we may not be able to give them exactly what they need. Some relationships are tocix so even though the two are still in love their love is destructive.
sweetOasis16
March 11th, 2019 7:24am
We breakup with people we love for many reasons. They may no longer be the same person, personality wise, or we may recognize that, even tho there is love and its mutual, that sometimes relationships are to toxic to maintain sustainability. There are many factors to consider when deciding to end a relationship, and while love is a big factor, there are to many other factors to just focus on one. You can be in love, but unhappy. You can be in love, but disillusioned by infatuation. As the old adage goes, if you love something set it free, if it returns it was meant to be. As cliche a statement as that is, it holds true, even to the most basic forms of relationships.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 11:27pm
Because if you love something the best thing to do is to let it go.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 12:59am
Because the relationship is hurting one or both of us more than it's helping. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me ostensibly because I was a "burden" and she couldn't support me anymore, but she also knew she was abusing me, and the part of her that still loved me knew that she had to stop doing that.
Brittneym101
August 4th, 2015 1:04am
There could be a lot of reasons as to why we breakup with someone that we love. I feel like we breakup with the one's that we love because we want for them to be happy and we feel like we may not be able to give them exactly what they need/deserve.
courageousBeauty49
November 2nd, 2015 9:15pm
Sometimes we breakup with them BECAUSE we love them. Love is a funny thing and we can't choose who makes us feel certain ways. In my opinion, in order to have a lasting relationship, love is just part of the equation.
shutteredsilence
November 3rd, 2015 2:57am
Sometimes, even though we may really love someone, we realize we are not the best possible fit for them. We may lack compatibility in certain areas, or we may believe we are holding them back. Sometimes we work better as friends than in a relationship.
bratgurl14
November 18th, 2015 1:20pm
because the people you love might you the same. And they might love some one else i don't like getting hurt but that happens sometimes
Wolverineclaw
December 28th, 2015 8:12am
It is for our own good sometimes, that we have to take hard decisions. Moving on is possible if we look ahead... :)
LifeOfDecept10n
May 24th, 2016 1:59am
Sometimes it can become overwhelming to put the past behind us. For example, sometimes people have had enough and they want to move on. It could be anything from abuse to cheating to change in personality that could cause a breakup. Sometimes a couple may decide it's best for them to breakup and move on because of major obstacles that have come their way. But other times it could just be the past getting in the way because sometimes, some tragic events can be very hard to forget. It's very unfortunate for all this to happen, but I hope I answered your question :)
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 9:47am
Sometimes its for the best for your lover. Even though you may not desire breaking up, it may be the better result for the lover
Annaxelia
October 25th, 2016 6:55am
Sometimes it is something we need to do. Although we love someone very much we may just not be the right fit for one another. Relationships are not always easy to maintain and if we are unable to get along or communicate effectively with our partner things may fall apart.
Em12321
January 17th, 2017 10:52pm
We break up with someone for a number of reasons despite the fact that we love them. Sometime we want the best for them and we think we aren't the best or that someone else can make them happier. Other times it's because love isn't enough in a relationship or you both want different things. Ultimately I don't know the exact cause for any specific relationship but sometimes a breakup is for the best and just try to stay positive and move on.
SpreeSpirit13
May 7th, 2018 2:18pm
There are a million reasons for that. But if you have reached a point where you had to break up with someone that is a reason to be taken seriously. Because we don't what can affect anybody to which level.