Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?
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Anonymous
December 25th, 2019 8:02pm
Well if you want it from a random someone's girlfriends point of view then the following reasons are possible.
1. You are talking to a girl she doesn't like.
2. You did something wrong.
3 . You changed .
4. You forgot a special occasion that is dear to her .
5. You did something that she hates with all her heart but never told you so you aren't at fault but you have to suffer the consequence .
6. She has some problem with one of your family members.
7. She think you are cheating on her even though you aren't .
8. Or she just found someone else .
And if you can't relate to any of these then yours is a special situation and I wish you best of luck .
It could feel upsetting when you experience hate from a loved one suddenly , understandable how the suddenness is making you feel confused. Human mind jumps to drawing conclusions and making assumptions , but perhaps it is a better idea to communicate our feelings and ask the person involved itself as to what might be making them act in a certain way , there's a possiblity they are bottling some feelings and acting out in a passive aggressive form , an initiative for a conversation would also help them share what's bothering them and probably y'all could then talk it out and reach a common ground together . What do you think about it ? Is communicating with them a feasible option in this moment?
Honestly there could be logical reasons why she seems off lately. I think first, you should talk with her about it. If she is upset about you asking, try to analyze her life lately. Has she been going through a lot? Is she experiencing some sort of stress in her own personal life? Be open and talk with her privately. Make sure she knows that you're there for her and love her no matter what as well. If she doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about her problems right now, just give her the space she needs. Be supportive! It may not be a YOU problem. :)
From my personal experience, it could be that your girlfriend is pushing you away because she’s hurting or is feeling insecure. I had the same issue of never feeling like I was enough for my significant other so pushing him away was a way to counteract being hurt. Let her know how much she means to you and bring up the conversation. Say what you feel that will be best for the situation. There’s always a possibility she was informed bad news and is taking it out on you. Whatever is happening in her life whether she decides to confide to you, be there for her!
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 2:02pm
Maybe she doesnt hate you. Maybe she is just scared or confused, but doesnt know how to channel these emotions. Try to assure her about your emotions and intentions. Ask her did you do maybe something unintentionally wrong, did you say something. Or, maybe, she is seeking for attention, for help in something but she's embarrassed to talk about it. Encourage her to tall to you. Maybe you will find out something new about her, or even about yourself, about emotions and struggles in your lifes.
Noone cannot just hate someone all of a sudden. I hope it will end well, for both of you.
I don't believe things occur all of a sudden, there are things that would have been happening around you and her that might not have been noticed, but when it toll on her she would have started disliking you. Did you notice and evaluate your responsibility and your contribution to the relation, if not take some time out to do that, you will surely get the answer to it. Or maybe something in her own life would be going on which triggered everything in her life and that's why she has been reacting in this way. Try and talk to her, things will get better.
I'm sorry to hear that. There could be a lot of reasons she could be acting the way that she is, but I can't imagine she hates you if she is still with you. I recommend talking with her if she's willing to at least do that and do you best to give her time to open up if to you and express your willingness to work on whatever issues there are if there are any. Sometimes it's difficult subject matter and it may take her time to open up, one of the best things you can do is show a willingness to solve the conflict, show that you care about her, and show that you respect her space and her feelings. Though this answer is convoluted, I hope it at least helps give perspective and I truly hope that you can solve whatever problems you two are having.
This is something that cannot be answered unless she is the one to provide you with that answer. Ask her about it, don't stop after 'are you mad at me?'. You can always say that it feels to you that she hates you and that it makes you feel a certain way, that you want to clear the air and that you want to know what's bothering her.
Depending on the reason it's so sudden, she may be feeling down about something you did, or something that's bothering her and the emotions are coming out aggressively on you. She may not know how to feel and she's conflicted inside, naturally making her appear hostile. Have you tried to talk to her about it? Is there a reason why your girlfriend would feel this way, that you aren't acknowledging? There are so many reasons that cause a person to suddenly act out, but I think if you analyze the situation, you can probably pinpoint the root of the issue.
This is a difficult question because it depends on the situation. It could be because of many reasons, you could have cheated, you could have been dishonest, you could have said something wrong. Another reason could be that she is going through things, girls tend to clench up and be very moody when they are going through issues. Don't take it personal, also hate is a very strong word I wouldn't say she hates you, I would say that she is either in two states: she doesn't like you anymore, or she is having a bad time. Some girls like it if you try to help them when they are going through hard times, but some will get very annoyed and even more angry or depressed. With girls its best to just let them work it out on their own unless they ask for help.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2018 12:17am
She may be in the process of disconnecting and trying to find something wrong with you. Some people tend to break up with someone in their minds before doing it verbally and physically. She may be on the brink of telling you and just doesn't quite know how to say it because she knows it will hurt you. Try asking her why she's suddenly changed how she acts towards you, or if there's anything specific that you may have done to make her react this way. Communication goes a long way. Its better to talk to her about it than to sit and continue to wonder.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2018 5:42am
It all depends, sometimes we have break ups but you may have a make up. Maybe rumours went around, maybe she feels she needs time apart. No madder what it always turns out right, if she breaks up that just means you will find some one else that loves you even more! But always no you could kinda be wrong, you can't say she hates you without proof, I mean your pro bully right but maybe your a bit off maybe something happened in her home life that does not involve you and she needed some time alone, no matter what I can't tell you for sure what the answer is.
Do you really know she hate you or you assumeing why not tey talking to her to find out is there a misunderstanding i know you can do it just dont talk with anger.once you sit down and talk you might get a better understanding why it might seem that way and when you talk make sure not to trigger a debate that could throw the subject off hand and try to understand each other point of view because that make a good bond and also helps create a better relationship and main one let each other express themselves
Anonymous
October 31st, 2018 4:22pm
The best way to find out the answer to this is to ask your girlfriend. Perhaps phrase it in a more positive light with the focus on how she is feeling or how you are feeling e.g. You seem angry lately, have I done something to upset you? You could also ask how she feels the relationship is going? Questions that show you are coming from a place of concern and love for her rather than accusations will help make her feel more open. If you find it hard to talk about then consider writing her a letter or even asking her close friends or family if they know anything.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2018 11:42am
It is important what happened differently in recent times. If is a major change that you are being through of maybe you have a difficult discussion with her, that it is still unsolved. Also, it is important to ask her if she is going through a difficult time (a job/school/college). Maybe is hard to be patient and clam right now, but all of these will pass.
Negative emotions are a normal part of life that you ahve to conform with, they could be constructive and with a positive outcome from all of these. Stay strong and remember it is all part of life.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2018 10:12am
If a person is realizing a sudden change in their partners actions and feelings then they might want to talk to their partner about it. When talking to them, they should always ask if they are doing something to provoke them for feeling that way. If they claim that nothing is wrong with the other person then it might be a good time to ask if something else is going on that is upsetting them. Sometimes what happens is people will have alot going on in their life and take it out on the wrong person.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2018 11:06pm
Did you ask her? Try to remember you did something maybe it's because of that. If you didn't do anything maybe you've forgotten something like a birthday, monthsary/anniversary. Remember that she probably have a reason to get mad at you. Some girls tend to be like that when they see you talking to other girls, your forgetting a special occasion, you did something that made them mad, she saw something that you did that she doesn't like, you said something very mean and hurt her feelings. To make her stop hating you maybe try buying her food and give her some love and support.
First of all its imperative to know that in general people will always be people and how they feel towards certain things is not always permanent and therefore is susceptible to change.
Its however also important to fully understand her present circumstances as that may also have a bearing on her feelings towards you. Many a times a sudden change of heart can be a result of bottled up feelings over a period of time which she might have been failing to express or let out. Nonetheless her past life is equally important to understand before you can start blaming yourself.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 4:55pm
girls can be complicated . The reason why girls act up is because you either did something wrong or she is upset .
I do not know. There are many reasons. But please talk to her and communicate not argue. Please I'm begging you. I lost my soulmate because of that. Please, you need to communicate. Stop the fighting. Hug her.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 1:39pm
Depends on the situation. Sometimes we do things that annoy others without realising, and the only way we can realise is by asking them. Communication is the best thing you can do in a relationship - and I would honestly recommend just talking to her.
If you value the relationship, communicating with her about where it’s going wrong is the best thing you could do to salvage it.
Maybe it’s also an external situation out of your control. Your girlfriend might be dealing with something and her being all “offhand†or “hatefulâ€, might just be a way of dealing/covering up. In any case, you should still talk to her, because being a good partner means supporting her.
I hope you can figure things out :)
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 4:03pm
she may be angry about something from the past but conversing with her with all honesty will help solve this issue!
There could be many reasons behind this, women are tricky and many things could have angered her and it may even not be your fault. Talk to her, express how you're feeling and let her know.
Is it something you are sure of? Talking it out with her is a good way to find out if something had happened, and smooth out any misunderstandings that might have occurred.
Sometimes people express their negative feelings on others because they are dealing with other problems. Calmly bringing up the topic to them might help both of you overcome the obstacle
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 11:57am
You can try to ask her why she hate you. Just ask her to discuss it and find a way to make things right
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 6:37am
Maybe you have said or done something unknowingly that it hurt her because it may have triggered memories? Or she may just have a bad day or is stressed out lately. I suggest asking her about it.
You have to think about your last time were together. What happened? What you say to her ? May be something happened and you forget about it
Maybe she found somebody new she can’t suddenly stop loving you that’s if she ever did but if she didn’t then she stopped then maybe thers somebody new in her life
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2022 4:57am
Personally speaking on my behalf. their not much that can be done.Hatred is a heavy word.for me hatred is someone who is disgusted by your presence you as a whole person. When things have come to hatred use the nearest exit sign. And don't try and figure out what has caused hatred.it's not for you to figure out.I have come to the conclusion that they themselves have experienced hatred from another and felt the need to pass it on. Distance yourself from such a negative word and be delighted you no longer need to be associated with a hateful person that feels the need to hate
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