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Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?

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Last Updated: 09/03/2021 at 8:17am
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March 18th, 2018 10:35pm
Maybe she discovered something about you. Maybe somebody told her something about you that it's not true, or maybe she is having a bad time.
March 29th, 2018 2:53am
Sometimes it's not that easy. Partners may feel that their significant other is showing more anger specifically towards them when in fact they may be upset with themselves. I personally get extremely angry towards my boyfriend of 5yrs when things are bombarding my mind. I see it as venting where as he sees it as this mean spit-fire coming at him. I would say, sit down and try to talk about it. See what is going on in both party's worlds.
April 4th, 2018 9:29pm
Well maybe considering sitting down with her and talking about what’s wrong and see if u can work it out
April 5th, 2018 9:20am
This is something that cannot be answered unless she is the one to provide you with that answer. Ask her about it, don't stop after 'are you mad at me?'. You can always say that it feels to you that she hates you and that it makes you feel a certain way, that you want to clear the air and that you want to know what's bothering her.
April 11th, 2018 2:07am
I can’t tell you why because i don’t know. I can tell you that a sudden switch in feelings and behavior is not really about you, unless you caused hurt. I’ve had this happen to me; found out later that he was scared of causing hurt or having conflict and that took precedent over handling things in the honest way with me, at that time. Whatever her reason though, i hope you have more understanding very soon.
April 11th, 2018 10:36pm
Maybe she found somebody new she can’t suddenly stop loving you that’s if she ever did but if she didn’t then she stopped then maybe thers somebody new in her life
April 13th, 2018 1:25am
I don't think she hates you at all! I believe this may just be down to having a bad day or week. She may be stressed. It's important to not jump to that conclusion try to do some small things she might like and I'm sure she'll come back around and once she does you can talk it out and figure out what happened and know how to deal with and understand it in the future!
April 13th, 2018 10:01am
There could be many reasons behind this, women are tricky and many things could have angered her and it may even not be your fault. Talk to her, express how you're feeling and let her know.
April 20th, 2018 10:37pm
You have to think about your last time were together. What happened? What you say to her ? May be something happened and you forget about it
April 29th, 2018 6:37am
Maybe you have said or done something unknowingly that it hurt her because it may have triggered memories? Or she may just have a bad day or is stressed out lately. I suggest asking her about it.
May 3rd, 2018 11:57am
You can try to ask her why she hate you. Just ask her to discuss it and find a way to make things right
May 12th, 2018 5:42am
Sometimes people express their negative feelings on others because they are dealing with other problems. Calmly bringing up the topic to them might help both of you overcome the obstacle
June 15th, 2018 2:23am
Is it something you are sure of? Talking it out with her is a good way to find out if something had happened, and smooth out any misunderstandings that might have occurred.
June 20th, 2018 3:00am
Does she really hate you or is that just how your viewing the current situation between you and her? Are your feelings that she hates you based on thoughts you are having or actions she's made towards you?
June 22nd, 2018 8:28pm
You could most definitely ask her. The only true way to know is to ask. Think back to see if you've done anything hurtful or unkind.
June 24th, 2018 10:14am
Maybe it's something you did. Knowing or not knowing. Maybe she expected something from you or expected to act accordingly but you failed to catch it. Best guess is to go and talk to her. Ask her, what went wrong and how you can correct it. Trust me on this, always put the blame on yourself no matter what.
June 24th, 2018 12:23pm
Best answer I can give is to talk to her about it. Only she would know why and she would be your best source
June 24th, 2018 9:17pm
Have you asked your girlfriend? It is best to explore your feelings with your partner. There is probably something going that could be answered with a peaceful conversation.
June 26th, 2018 3:28pm
Often people don't shift character all of a sudden without reason, even if it may seem that way. It may be worth just facilitating a discussion and expressing your feelings about her attitude shift and how it makes you feel. This can also give her an opportunity to open up about concerns she may have, or a possible cause for this. The most important thing is to have a calm, rational discussion about it and both express how you feel so that you can resolve the issue.
June 28th, 2018 11:23am
1) I am not perfect, i did something wrong 2) she is not perfect, bear with it, must be a PMS thing 3) There is somebody else
June 29th, 2018 2:08am
it's because either she found something wierd abt you, or may be she likes someone else, whatever it's you have to fix it.
July 1st, 2018 5:49am
can't really answer that, only you can answer that. maybe you did something that she didn't like. remember, communication is key.
July 3rd, 2018 7:42am
Maeby she has something that she wants to tell you but just not yet know how to tell you . I would just inform het everyday that you love her and that she can always talk to you about anything .
July 8th, 2018 1:34am
It may not be "all of a sudden." Sometimes people keep things bottled up inside until the pressure becomes too much, and then it comes out all at once. Talk with her, gently but directly, about how she feels to find out if this is the case.
July 13th, 2018 6:42am
Have you tried talking to her. Maybe without realizing it you accidently upset her. Whether or not you did something, stay positive, hate is a strong word that we often don't mean.
August 1st, 2018 4:03pm
she may be angry about something from the past but conversing with her with all honesty will help solve this issue!
August 10th, 2018 1:39pm
Depends on the situation. Sometimes we do things that annoy others without realising, and the only way we can realise is by asking them. Communication is the best thing you can do in a relationship - and I would honestly recommend just talking to her. If you value the relationship, communicating with her about where it’s going wrong is the best thing you could do to salvage it. Maybe it’s also an external situation out of your control. Your girlfriend might be dealing with something and her being all “offhand” or “hateful”, might just be a way of dealing/covering up. In any case, you should still talk to her, because being a good partner means supporting her. I hope you can figure things out :)
August 12th, 2018 2:09am
I do not know. There are many reasons. But please talk to her and communicate not argue. Please I'm begging you. I lost my soulmate because of that. Please, you need to communicate. Stop the fighting. Hug her.
August 12th, 2018 4:55pm
girls can be complicated . The reason why girls act up is because you either did something wrong or she is upset .
August 16th, 2018 7:58am
First of all its imperative to know that in general people will always be people and how they feel towards certain things is not always permanent and therefore is susceptible to change. Its however also important to fully understand her present circumstances as that may also have a bearing on her feelings towards you. Many a times a sudden change of heart can be a result of bottled up feelings over a period of time which she might have been failing to express or let out. Nonetheless her past life is equally important to understand before you can start blaming yourself.