Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?

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Anonymous
April 13th, 2018 1:25am
I don't think she hates you at all! I believe this may just be down to having a bad day or week. She may be stressed. It's important to not jump to that conclusion try to do some small things she might like and I'm sure she'll come back around and once she does you can talk it out and figure out what happened and know how to deal with and understand it in the future!
Inesa707
April 13th, 2018 10:01am
There could be many reasons behind this, women are tricky and many things could have angered her and it may even not be your fault. Talk to her, express how you're feeling and let her know.
Joyfulsmile
April 20th, 2018 10:37pm
You have to think about your last time were together. What happened? What you say to her ? May be something happened and you forget about it
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 6:37am
Maybe you have said or done something unknowingly that it hurt her because it may have triggered memories? Or she may just have a bad day or is stressed out lately. I suggest asking her about it.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 11:57am
You can try to ask her why she hate you. Just ask her to discuss it and find a way to make things right
ktiger24
May 12th, 2018 5:42am
Sometimes people express their negative feelings on others because they are dealing with other problems. Calmly bringing up the topic to them might help both of you overcome the obstacle
PianoWhisper
June 15th, 2018 2:23am
Is it something you are sure of? Talking it out with her is a good way to find out if something had happened, and smooth out any misunderstandings that might have occurred.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 3:00am
Does she really hate you or is that just how your viewing the current situation between you and her? Are your feelings that she hates you based on thoughts you are having or actions she's made towards you?
Supportivestrawberry000
June 22nd, 2018 8:28pm
You could most definitely ask her. The only true way to know is to ask. Think back to see if you've done anything hurtful or unkind.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 10:14am
Maybe it's something you did. Knowing or not knowing. Maybe she expected something from you or expected to act accordingly but you failed to catch it. Best guess is to go and talk to her. Ask her, what went wrong and how you can correct it. Trust me on this, always put the blame on yourself no matter what.
Allears247
June 24th, 2018 12:23pm
Best answer I can give is to talk to her about it. Only she would know why and she would be your best source
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 9:17pm
Have you asked your girlfriend? It is best to explore your feelings with your partner. There is probably something going that could be answered with a peaceful conversation.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 3:28pm
Often people don't shift character all of a sudden without reason, even if it may seem that way. It may be worth just facilitating a discussion and expressing your feelings about her attitude shift and how it makes you feel. This can also give her an opportunity to open up about concerns she may have, or a possible cause for this. The most important thing is to have a calm, rational discussion about it and both express how you feel so that you can resolve the issue.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 11:23am
1) I am not perfect, i did something wrong 2) she is not perfect, bear with it, must be a PMS thing 3) There is somebody else
Anonymous
June 29th, 2018 2:08am
it's because either she found something wierd abt you, or may be she likes someone else, whatever it's you have to fix it.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 5:49am
can't really answer that, only you can answer that. maybe you did something that she didn't like. remember, communication is key.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2018 7:42am
Maeby she has something that she wants to tell you but just not yet know how to tell you . I would just inform het everyday that you love her and that she can always talk to you about anything .
GAddams
July 8th, 2018 1:34am
It may not be "all of a sudden." Sometimes people keep things bottled up inside until the pressure becomes too much, and then it comes out all at once. Talk with her, gently but directly, about how she feels to find out if this is the case.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:42am
Have you tried talking to her. Maybe without realizing it you accidently upset her. Whether or not you did something, stay positive, hate is a strong word that we often don't mean.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 4:03pm
she may be angry about something from the past but conversing with her with all honesty will help solve this issue!
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 1:39pm
Depends on the situation. Sometimes we do things that annoy others without realising, and the only way we can realise is by asking them. Communication is the best thing you can do in a relationship - and I would honestly recommend just talking to her. If you value the relationship, communicating with her about where it’s going wrong is the best thing you could do to salvage it. Maybe it’s also an external situation out of your control. Your girlfriend might be dealing with something and her being all “offhand” or “hateful”, might just be a way of dealing/covering up. In any case, you should still talk to her, because being a good partner means supporting her. I hope you can figure things out :)
comfortableRainbow89
August 12th, 2018 2:09am
I do not know. There are many reasons. But please talk to her and communicate not argue. Please I'm begging you. I lost my soulmate because of that. Please, you need to communicate. Stop the fighting. Hug her.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 4:55pm
girls can be complicated . The reason why girls act up is because you either did something wrong or she is upset .
courageousHope62
August 16th, 2018 7:58am
First of all its imperative to know that in general people will always be people and how they feel towards certain things is not always permanent and therefore is susceptible to change. Its however also important to fully understand her present circumstances as that may also have a bearing on her feelings towards you. Many a times a sudden change of heart can be a result of bottled up feelings over a period of time which she might have been failing to express or let out. Nonetheless her past life is equally important to understand before you can start blaming yourself.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2018 11:06pm
Did you ask her? Try to remember you did something maybe it's because of that. If you didn't do anything maybe you've forgotten something like a birthday, monthsary/anniversary. Remember that she probably have a reason to get mad at you. Some girls tend to be like that when they see you talking to other girls, your forgetting a special occasion, you did something that made them mad, she saw something that you did that she doesn't like, you said something very mean and hurt her feelings. To make her stop hating you maybe try buying her food and give her some love and support.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 2:02pm
Maybe she doesnt hate you. Maybe she is just scared or confused, but doesnt know how to channel these emotions. Try to assure her about your emotions and intentions. Ask her did you do maybe something unintentionally wrong, did you say something. Or, maybe, she is seeking for attention, for help in something but she's embarrassed to talk about it. Encourage her to tall to you. Maybe you will find out something new about her, or even about yourself, about emotions and struggles in your lifes. Noone cannot just hate someone all of a sudden. I hope it will end well, for both of you.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2018 10:12am
If a person is realizing a sudden change in their partners actions and feelings then they might want to talk to their partner about it. When talking to them, they should always ask if they are doing something to provoke them for feeling that way. If they claim that nothing is wrong with the other person then it might be a good time to ask if something else is going on that is upsetting them. Sometimes what happens is people will have alot going on in their life and take it out on the wrong person.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2018 11:42am
It is important what happened differently in recent times. If is a major change that you are being through of maybe you have a difficult discussion with her, that it is still unsolved. Also, it is important to ask her if she is going through a difficult time (a job/school/college). Maybe is hard to be patient and clam right now, but all of these will pass. Negative emotions are a normal part of life that you ahve to conform with, they could be constructive and with a positive outcome from all of these. Stay strong and remember it is all part of life.
fizzyPika
October 31st, 2018 4:22pm
The best way to find out the answer to this is to ask your girlfriend. Perhaps phrase it in a more positive light with the focus on how she is feeling or how you are feeling e.g. You seem angry lately, have I done something to upset you? You could also ask how she feels the relationship is going? Questions that show you are coming from a place of concern and love for her rather than accusations will help make her feel more open. If you find it hard to talk about then consider writing her a letter or even asking her close friends or family if they know anything.
Starswifty360
November 7th, 2018 3:12am
Do you really know she hate you or you assumeing why not tey talking to her to find out is there a misunderstanding i know you can do it just dont talk with anger.once you sit down and talk you might get a better understanding why it might seem that way and when you talk make sure not to trigger a debate that could throw the subject off hand and try to understand each other point of view because that make a good bond and also helps create a better relationship and main one let each other express themselves