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Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?

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Last Updated: 06/13/2020 at 8:33am
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Anonymous
October 26th, 2018 11:42am
It is important what happened differently in recent times. If is a major change that you are being through of maybe you have a difficult discussion with her, that it is still unsolved. Also, it is important to ask her if she is going through a difficult time (a job/school/college). Maybe is hard to be patient and clam right now, but all of these will pass. Negative emotions are a normal part of life that you ahve to conform with, they could be constructive and with a positive outcome from all of these. Stay strong and remember it is all part of life.
fizzyPika
October 31st, 2018 4:22pm
The best way to find out the answer to this is to ask your girlfriend. Perhaps phrase it in a more positive light with the focus on how she is feeling or how you are feeling e.g. You seem angry lately, have I done something to upset you? You could also ask how she feels the relationship is going? Questions that show you are coming from a place of concern and love for her rather than accusations will help make her feel more open. If you find it hard to talk about then consider writing her a letter or even asking her close friends or family if they know anything.
Starswifty360
November 7th, 2018 3:12am
Do you really know she hate you or you assumeing why not tey talking to her to find out is there a misunderstanding i know you can do it just dont talk with anger.once you sit down and talk you might get a better understanding why it might seem that way and when you talk make sure not to trigger a debate that could throw the subject off hand and try to understand each other point of view because that make a good bond and also helps create a better relationship and main one let each other express themselves
Anonymous
November 8th, 2018 5:42am
It all depends, sometimes we have break ups but you may have a make up. Maybe rumours went around, maybe she feels she needs time apart. No madder what it always turns out right, if she breaks up that just means you will find some one else that loves you even more! But always no you could kinda be wrong, you can't say she hates you without proof, I mean your pro bully right but maybe your a bit off maybe something happened in her home life that does not involve you and she needed some time alone, no matter what I can't tell you for sure what the answer is.
optimisticRainfall33
November 9th, 2018 12:17am
She may be in the process of disconnecting and trying to find something wrong with you. Some people tend to break up with someone in their minds before doing it verbally and physically. She may be on the brink of telling you and just doesn't quite know how to say it because she knows it will hurt you. Try asking her why she's suddenly changed how she acts towards you, or if there's anything specific that you may have done to make her react this way. Communication goes a long way. Its better to talk to her about it than to sit and continue to wonder.
SamEdge69
November 11th, 2018 11:47pm
This is a difficult question because it depends on the situation. It could be because of many reasons, you could have cheated, you could have been dishonest, you could have said something wrong. Another reason could be that she is going through things, girls tend to clench up and be very moody when they are going through issues. Don't take it personal, also hate is a very strong word I wouldn't say she hates you, I would say that she is either in two states: she doesn't like you anymore, or she is having a bad time. Some girls like it if you try to help them when they are going through hard times, but some will get very annoyed and even more angry or depressed. With girls its best to just let them work it out on their own unless they ask for help.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2019 4:56am
Depending on the reason it's so sudden, she may be feeling down about something you did, or something that's bothering her and the emotions are coming out aggressively on you. She may not know how to feel and she's conflicted inside, naturally making her appear hostile. Have you tried to talk to her about it? Is there a reason why your girlfriend would feel this way, that you aren't acknowledging? There are so many reasons that cause a person to suddenly act out, but I think if you analyze the situation, you can probably pinpoint the root of the issue.
ChrisToListen
April 25th, 2019 5:05pm
I'm sorry to hear that. There could be a lot of reasons she could be acting the way that she is, but I can't imagine she hates you if she is still with you. I recommend talking with her if she's willing to at least do that and do you best to give her time to open up if to you and express your willingness to work on whatever issues there are if there are any. Sometimes it's difficult subject matter and it may take her time to open up, one of the best things you can do is show a willingness to solve the conflict, show that you care about her, and show that you respect her space and her feelings. Though this answer is convoluted, I hope it at least helps give perspective and I truly hope that you can solve whatever problems you two are having.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2019 7:14pm
i dont know you or what you have done but i do know that u should talk to your girlfriend about this. what do you think youve done to her to make you think that she hates u? was you texting another girl? or was you talking to her bad? there are different things that she couldve gotten mad about but because i dont know her or you there isnt much that i can say about it. im not supposed to give advice but i really thing you should ask ur girlfriend about this information that you told me
LJames
June 6th, 2019 5:39am
It may not be you. She could be stressed about external factors in her life and taking it out on you. Talk to her and ask her why she feels this way suddenly. Usually she will be willing to talk about it and you're more likely to be able to find a solution or common ground on which you both can stand and figure out "what next." She also may need space, sometimes all people need is space sometimes or maybe you're giving her too much space. The only way to find out what is truly bothering her is to talk to her about it.
cheerfulHUMAN
July 7th, 2019 4:30am
I would like to answer this by saying "People are complicated". Perhaps first of all you should try to find out if you said anything which she didn't like. If that's not the case then it might be possible that she is going through some rough phase of her life(maybe depressed) and she might appear cold and distant which may make you think that she hates you. It can be possible that there is a miscommunication between you and her. But if she really means it "the hatred" for you even when you did nothing wrong after you have analyzed and contemplated about the situation then I think it is not your fault. You should consider talking to her about all this and why she has these negative emotions for you but at the same time make sure you don't over-pressure her. Trying to be a good listener is going to help you and then asking follow-up questions in such a way that make her realize about her irrational and sudden dislike for you.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2019 9:42am
I have been through a similar experience and know what you’re going through. Most of the time it is us (you and me) thinking ourself that our boyfriend or girlfriend may hate us, when in reality they really don’t. Maybe you’re experiencing anxiety or self confidence issues and are seeing things that may not be true. Or maybe you are experiencing depression and you are shutting yourself down and not living in reality. I myself have been through the same thing and I know that it can be hard to cope with. But just know that she most likely does not hate you and there is always someone available to talk to.
calmingJewel2421
August 24th, 2019 3:32pm
Relationship issues are often complicated, it may not be that she hates you, but maybe she has something on her chest that she can't seem to say, maybe she feels she'll be too much, or that you can or will not help her with whatever it is she is holding back. It could also be very normal issues like late night sleep, bad things at work, parent issues, lady problems or just general frustration. In most cases like this there is something unsaid or unspoken. Even though she expresses anger or discomfort with your current relationship, it may not mean that she hates you.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2019 5:40pm
You assume your girlfriend hates you and you were not expecting her to. What is she doing or saying that leads you to believe this? All is speculation until you speak with her directly. No one can know for certain why anyone does anything except the person themselves. If you truly did nothing in your view to hurt her, approach her calmly and request to listen to what happened. It's possible there was a misunderstanding, or you are internalizing some emotions she is showing about something else. At worse, you did something to upset her and cannot see what it is, which doesn't mean it isn't still a big deal. You won't know until you speak with her. If she refuses, give her some time. If she is being abusive, set boundaries. Consider how she can better express her anger in the future, and how you can better respond to it. Compromises and communication are key. Be well.
Anonymous
October 18th, 2019 6:03am
this is really subjective! for all you know, your girlfriend could display 'hatred' towards you without realising it herself! or perhaps she was just feeling a little emotional or perhaps a little disappointed and/or displeased at something that you did. it's hard to really read someone's mind and understand what they're thinking. if you're sure of this relationship and you want to work things out, communication is perhaps one of the most important components of a successful relationship! talk things out with her. if you've talked things out and she has verbally said that she hates you, ask her why and i believe that'll answer your question more accurately and quickly! all the best.
KateInWV
November 8th, 2019 7:34pm
She may be feeling anxious or stressed. It may have nothing to do with you in particular, but her anxiety and stress may be manifesting itself as anger/annoyance and possibly directed toward you because she is comfortable with you. Has she had any big life changes recently? A new job/loss of job? Maybe a personal loss of some kind with a family member or a friend? Have you asked her if there is anything that is stressing her out that you can help with? That may involve you giving her space if that is what she needs to heal right now.
wishfulBeauty4775
January 23rd, 2020 2:17pm
May be because you may have hurted her unknowingly and didn't even realize it.or she may have various reasons for hatred. She may be having mood swings or channeling her angry on someone towards you . She might be frustrated about her work ,health,family,friends etc . She may be expecting something from you and giving you hints which you are not getting. You could have been misunderstood . She might be possessive about you. She might be expecting love and care that you haven't noticed. These are the above cases if she loves you and you are not attentive. If it's not from above list then it can be a prank or she really want to break up.
ElizabethBella
January 24th, 2020 4:53am
Honestly there could be logical reasons why she seems off lately. I think first, you should talk with her about it. If she is upset about you asking, try to analyze her life lately. Has she been going through a lot? Is she experiencing some sort of stress in her own personal life? Be open and talk with her privately. Make sure she knows that you're there for her and love her no matter what as well. If she doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about her problems right now, just give her the space she needs. Be supportive! It may not be a YOU problem. :)
Anonymous
February 1st, 2020 1:26am
Love is the most complicated human emotion out there. When others do not love us in the way that we love them it can destroy our trust and self confidence. It might be that your girlfriend does not know that you feel this way. She may be irritable due to stress in her life from school, work, friendship problems, etc. There is only one thing you can do to find out how she really feels: Ask her to talk about how you've been feeling on a 1:1 basis. Doing that will be hard but it the only way to come to a resolution that works for everyone.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2020 12:26pm
I understand that you are feeling confused. when I was in this situation, I asked myself what may have caused this situation.talk to her about how you feel about things happening in your relationship. talking to her can really help the situation. talking about this can reduce the amount of confusion you have been feeling. I believe that you can handle it better. if i was in your shoes, I wouldnt have handled as great as you are doing right now! what makes you think that she hates you? or what kind of changes have been occuring in her behaviors?
Anonymous
April 18th, 2020 1:14pm
this question depends on the situation and what happened and i guess only you both would know the answer to that so openly communicate with her if you feel this way and find out why if you feel like something is up. Communication is really important in relationships and if you feel like there is something not right it is better to confront her about it. Hope things go well for you and get better. Keep positive and do things you like to keep yourself in a good heads space. You might want to try doing some journalling as well.
YourBoiGray
April 25th, 2020 8:09am
There are many variables to emotions. She might not hate, she might just be dealing with something that is painful and is causing her to lash out. If she is verbally abusive or physically abusive, then seek help. But if not, I suggest asking her yourself. There's no harm in asking if anything is wrong. But be kind, and supportive. In the end, it's her who know her best and you who knows you best. Look within yourself if you think it has something to do with how you are or aren't acting. Every person has room to improve. Even the "best" people.
txalant
May 17th, 2020 6:08am
While it might seem like a partner distancing themselves from you or reacting in a way you may not know them to do usually means they're feeling animosity toward you, this isn't always the case. Have they gone through a major life change? Is friction popping up in their other relationships with friends and family? Open the lines of communication with her and talk about any stressors that could be affecting your relationship and/or ability to connect with her. She'll likely be thankful for your thoughtfulness. If you express your concern rather than holding it inside, you'll feel much better in the end.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2020 1:11am
Hate is a strong word, and I don’t think there is an easy or one “right” answer for this question. However, in my experience if there is a sudden relationship change, analyze the past and see if there is an event that correlates with the change. Maybe she is mad because of a misunderstanding, but rather than bringing it up she doesn't because she may think you already know your transgression. No one is a mind reader but people tend to think that everyone thinks the same way they do. In other words, If you see an event from one point of view, try and take yourself out or the situation and see how your point or view changes when you are detached from the emotional side of the event. And if all else fails, ask her what is up! Maybe it has nothing to do with you and she is having a hard time at work or school or with a friend! She will be glad you cared enough to notice, and to ask. Just, don’t ask in an accusatory way; you could say: how have you been feeling lately, you seem a little update or irritable, what can I do to help?
safeshoulder2CryOn
June 13th, 2020 8:33am
A relationship is like a seesaw, there are two people tightly coupled together so that the moods, feelings n desires of one affects the other. Very often, when one partner feels elated n joyful, it is at the expense of the other. The other partner may not share the same sentiments but had to compromise in order to make the other partner happy. A balance or equilibrium is very hard to achieve because it involves both parties watching out and checking what the other is really feeling. However, many a times, couples take each other for granted and do things based on their assumptions and expectations without bothering about the feelings of the other.Hence, little by little, things add up and what seemed like a trivial event suddenly escalated n exploded to an argument, a fight or possibly breakup. As such, nothing happens suddenly.Hate does not appear overnight, it arises from a number of events that fuels the feeling. Finally, you may find that your partner expressed hate towards. And due to your own "busyness" you failed to spot the signs of her unhappiness and felt that her hate appeared out of nowhere. In reality, this feeling of hate has existed for some period of time.