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Why does my girlfriend hate me all of a sudden?

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Anonymous
August 28th, 2020 10:32am
There may be a lot of reasons as to why you make feel like your girlfriend may be giving you the cold shoulder without any warning. Maybe she is going through some personal issues and that she isn't ready to share with you yet. Maybe she may have misinterpreted a situation or an action and is holding it against you. Or maybe she is having a bad mental health period and is overwhelmed with a lot of thoughts. Whatever it may be I would suggest approaching her with an open and warm mindset and being prepared for her to open up with you. If she requires space or your attention be ready to provide her with that. Good luck :)
sanjana1212
August 30th, 2020 7:00pm
Try to recall what your relationship has been like recently. If you believe her change in behavior was instantaneous, there may be some issue on your end. Usually, a sudden "hatred" can be fixed because it's not a result of things occurring again and again. The best and healthiest way to know is to talk to her however; it may be worse or better than you thought. Be polite, ask her if everything is okay, and if she tries to dismiss it, make it clear that you're worried and have no idea what is troubling her and you want to help.
gentleSun78
September 11th, 2020 11:53am
There can be multiple reasons that your girlfriend hate you all of a sudden. First of all, is she your real girlfriend or is just a girl who for who you use word friend in the phrase girlfriend? Sometimes it can be very hard to find out whether persons loves you genuinely or whether they just hang out with you till they find another partner. Maybe she got her love and now she wants to get rid of you and hating you all of a sudden can be one of methods of getting rid of you in oder to start be girlfriend of another man.
WoundedDeer
September 13th, 2020 4:33pm
Well, to answer this question, we need to know the circumstances. Without knowing them i can only advise one thing: ask her! The key in a relationship is the honest, opened communication. Ask her why her attitude changed towards you, what is her problem, and lastly, how can you help her. After she says exactly what the problem is, all is up to you. Your first goal is improve yourself, evolve, so your relationship could evolve and improve also. I don't know if it was helpful or not, but that is my opinion. Feel free to contact me for more.
Returncontrol2u
September 19th, 2020 11:25pm
You only have half of the responsibility and control in a relationship. You are not psychic and neither are they. As long as you try to keep in touch with other's feelings, you will come across times when you are not sure what you are seeing. The best way to check if you are detecting their feelings correctly is to ask them and listen carefully. When you ask, make sure you have opened their opportunities to say whatever is on their mind without criticism or ridicule. You know part of them, let them fill in the gaps and don't be afraid of the answer.
Secretivesunshine42
October 10th, 2020 4:11pm
There could be many reasons one of them being lack of interest. or maybe you did something to upset her? or maybe someone lied to her about you? this is something that you should try and talk to her about and communicate with her about so she at least understands your concerns and maybe you understand her reasoning as to why this was happening in the first place. Communication is a strong part of everyday life so if she refuses to communicate she isnt even worth the struggle but if she does deciede to communicate tell her your feelings and work to fix the situation.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2020 3:32pm
Remember it's not your fault, obviously it's something about himself that he does not like it's easier for him to hate you instead of working on his own problem. And you can do better if he wants to hate you then love you it's a relationship that you don't need, and don't need to be in. You're a good person deserves better. Don't take that move on, later down the road when he realize the best thing in his life he let go of, that's something that he will have to live with just remember it's not your fault it's his own and he has a problem with himself and he has low self esteem. Like I said it's easier for him to hate you then hate himself work on his own faults
Anonymous
October 18th, 2020 9:15am
You really need to analyse whether it's true or it is a reflection of something you are going through. I mean your feelings are completely valid but you also need to understand other person's perspective. Your girlfriend might be going through something and wasn't able to share the same. That can be one of the reasons for this behaviour. Sit and talk to her about this. Don't let this ruin your relationship. If this doesn't take you somewhere then just tell how you feel. How this whole situation is making you feel. Most of the problems can be solved easily by communication.
Arvindkaur
October 22nd, 2020 9:38am
Its not that someone hates you in a couple of seconds or minutes. It might be due to some misunderstandings or in any case if you knowingly or unknowingly hurted her. Moreover hatism is also if she might be not serious with you as a relationship so. Don't try to figure out much. Feelings are sometimes due to instant reactions. So if you really care about her. You can just think about the situation that what are the things that might hurted her or ofcourse if you haven't then it means maybe theres a misunderstanding which is created and caused this
colourfulBerry413
October 29th, 2020 6:06am
Before considering this, i would answer yourself a few questions. Did your expectations changed immediately? Is your behavior same as it was? Was it something i did and myself not familiar or vice versea? if there is a negative answer to these question so in your brain she is not changed all of a sudden but practically she is. Yes the only solution to the second problem is talking it out with empathy and love. try to rectify every problem, make sure you assure her not just conventionally how you have been doing, Try something new. Sometimes it also may not be hate we might be gauging it might be her sudden mood swings, make sure you also have love for it. you will get back more than you invest.
Demetri221
November 12th, 2020 5:50pm
She may not hate you but you may want to talk to her. Talking to her may show that you actually care about what's wrong. Just let her know what you are there. It helps if you two talk things out because, talking helps everyone out if you do it correctly. Let here speak her mind and make sure you listen to everything she says. You may start to understand why she is acting the way she is. There could be a big problem and if you hear her out you may be able to help her out just a bit.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2021 4:52pm
Well maybe she doesn't hate you but hate the way you act or something that you do. We tend to think if someone changes with us that this mean they hate us but if we focus it can be that something is bothering them so my advice is that you try to help her but also give her here own space. The best thing to do is to wait until she tells you what is the matter but if she don't talk try soflty to tell here that no matter what you well always support her and that it's okay.
heavenlyHug9328
March 18th, 2021 12:15pm
What has changed between you guys or your routine. There is a possibility that you have done something that has upset her or something either work related or personal is wrong and she wouldn't like to express her feelings and would rather not say what is bothering her. It would be best to create a safe place for her to be able to express herself without feeling pressure. Be patient and get her to confide in you about what is wrong and express your concerns that you feel like she hates you and what is it you can do differently.
yourhappyspace33
April 28th, 2021 9:37am
Well, what made you think she hates you? Because hate, my friend is a very strong word. She might be disappointed or might be just stressed with her own personal circumstances. Did you try to talk to her and ask her about what is she been through these days? She might be waiting for you to figure out and ask her, you never know. She well as might just be agitated with you not asking her about it. Have you lately been a lot busy? If yes, then you might have been not able to give her time. That may have made her feel a little neglected. Try talking to her on a deeper level and try to understand what she truly feels like. That may help.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2021 6:44am
Communication is the key. If you both haven't talked yet, sit and talk. Maybe things will sort out. She may have her problems, insecurities or maybe some misunderstanding. If you are really serious about her ,clear everything. Make her comfortable, make her feel safe. Even if , she refuses to talk and doesn't want to talk, give her space and time. But don't forget to think about yourself. In any relationship, both partners' wellbeing has to be taken into consideration. Take care of yourself too and your loved ones as well. Ups and downs are faced in every relationship . What matters, is how we deal them and keep them close.
bbtAndsushi
June 18th, 2021 10:27am
One of the reasons that your girlfriend may suddenly turn on you is the suppressed negative emotion. She may have consciously or subconsciously suppressed her anger, sadness and/or resentment towards you. This is most likely not intentional and could be because she is taught that expressing her negative emotions may lead to undesired consequences or she's never been shown how to express them. This may give you an illusion that she has the most accommodating personality while the resentment may be accumulating. When she does express her emotion, it may be abrupt and unexpected. Please be patient with her and listen without judgement.
ElisaBobbiT
September 3rd, 2021 8:17am
You should trying talking to her, ask her how she is. Make sure to not comment on anything until she is finished talking. If she does not want to talk, give her some space and wait until you think is appropriate. It might be hard at first, but if you truly care for her, you will succeed. If the reason is insensible and could harm you or your relationship with other people, please think thoroughly of the things that matter to you and decide what you what to do and how to act. Remember to put yourself first and be nice to others.
AdvocacyMan
January 13th, 2022 8:59am
This is a tough and very broad question. If you've done something that is considered to be something she doesn't like and you know what you've done then that may be why she dislikes you. (Hate is a very strong word) You should take steps in this case to make her feel less upset due to your actions. However, if you are assuming she hates you because she simply isn't talking to you and hasn't directly said she hates you (dislikes you) then you need to figure out some ways where you can change that thought pattern of assuming things. Assuming things can cause a lot of anxiety for no reason. Try to think of some ways to improve your relationship or yourself.
SmallSleepy
January 21st, 2022 2:11am
This is such a sensitive one. If you feel as if she hates you, that’s probably not the case. Outgrown? Possibly. Evolved? Definitely. People are under this impression that we as individuals will always feel the same about someone or some thing for ever. People are always shocked when someone finally says “this isn’t for me anymore.” The truth is we are changing constantly. Daily even. You likely don’t like your first favorite color or the bands you listened to as a kid. People are the same way. And I think if we could all collectively learn that humans outgrow one another solely because we are shedding our layers and growing ourselves, things would hurt way less.
Quinnhawkins89
March 16th, 2022 7:50am
Hello, I would first of all consider what you define as hate? People often exhibit strong emotions when they are under stress or feeling depressed and overwhelmed. Is it that your girlfriend is feeling frustrated with everyone or you. The most important thing to do in these situations is to have an open conversation with your girlfriend asking what is wrong? If you feel that she is feeling somewhat hostile to you, and you believe it is safe to do so, then speak to her frankly and explain how you are feeling. Relationships are based on trust and communication. Rather than allowing issues to build up, find a time and a place that is as stress free as possible, explain that you have noticed a change in her behaviors and explain how that is making you feel.
Sofia2323
May 6th, 2022 7:47pm
Firstly, I am sorry that you feel that your girlfriend has such strong feelings toward you. You are very valid to feel that way, but I hope you take some time to think about everything before you assume that she has these strong feeling for you. I always like to take some time to think about what lead me to think a certain way about situations, and when I am emotionally ready, then I think it is best to talk to the person involved. I would reach out to her and ask her if she could take some time to talk to you about how you're feeling. And I would address all your feelings on how they make you feel, rather than asking her "why do you hate me all of a sudden" as it implies assumption. I hope you get clarification.
Healtogether702
May 14th, 2022 4:14am
usually people express negative emotions when their needs are not met or they feel unappreciated, misunderstood, hurt or overlooked. it may also be that "hate" is not exactly the emotion the person is experiencing, but they don't know a better way to let the emotions out. Or, possibly, the person doesn't even fully understand what they feel. The best way to find out is an open conversation. Unless there is an obvious event in the past that caused the intense resentment in your girlfriend, maybe she is trying to communicate something else, something that you have overlooked in the relationship. Speaking calmly and asking questions would most probably be a good way to start.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2022 4:57am
Personally speaking on my behalf. their not much that can be done.Hatred is a heavy word.for me hatred is someone who is disgusted by your presence you as a whole person. When things have come to hatred use the nearest exit sign. And don't try and figure out what has caused hatred.it's not for you to figure out.I have come to the conclusion that they themselves have experienced hatred from another and felt the need to pass it on. Distance yourself from such a negative word and be delighted you no longer need to be associated with a hateful person that feels the need to hate