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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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Last Updated: 08/24/2020 at 6:16pm
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Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 12:19am
You two broke up, you're not seeing each other, you're no longer in a relationship. Why would he purposely be looking for you to talk with?
skylerraber1234
August 11th, 2016 4:55pm
After a breakup men usually feel guilt. They know how much they meant to you and so they feel bad and guilty from breaking it off. Also, some men don't really feel the affects of it until later when us ladies already moved on.
dropwithus
February 15th, 2017 4:20am
He might need some time to cope with the breakup. Or he simply just needs some space, some time to himself.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 11:02am
Everyone has its own way of behaving after a break up, some persons just choose to be friends even after break up and some want to have no contact with their ex, that's why they deliberately ignore the ex, they might have certain hurtful or pent up feelings for that person .
joyousSalamander76
June 21st, 2017 1:26pm
Breakups are always a tough process. If you still want to keep in contact, it may be tricky. He may have to take some time to get through this.
boboshopo
June 29th, 2017 7:48am
This could be his way of coping with the situation as many people have different ways of coping with breakups.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:43am
Maybe he or she is tired of having relationships fail or having people disappoint them
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 11:38am
Unfortunately, this could just be because he is trying to move on with his life. He might not be doing this to try to hurt you in any way even if it seems like it. Chances are, he's trying to take care of himself and learn how to live life without you in it.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 6:17am
When people break up, usually both parties are hurt by it, whether they show it or not. A lot of the time an ex will ignore you because they are hurt and trying to get over a relationship. It's usually best if you don't try to contact them.
MajesticJoy95
May 27th, 2018 6:26am
Maybe talking to you brings him pain... Maybe he isn't over you yet, and he believes that ignoring you will be the best way to forget you and move on. Some people need to completely cut off someone before they forget about them
Detelinzy
August 12th, 2018 10:15pm
Maybe he still isn't over you and he doesn't want to hurt you or himself by communicating or spending time with you.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 6:46pm
Because after breaking up people sometimes choose not to talk to each other in order to heal from past relationship and make things less dramatic.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 7:48pm
People deal with break-ups very differently. Some people want to interact with their exes immediately and forge a friendship. Others will find that it's difficult to see an ex, as it brings a lot of feelings or memories. For these people, in some cases they will choose to ignore their ex altogether, maybe because it's too painful.
raindrop333
June 26th, 2016 3:11am
While we can't know for sure, it's probably because he thinks it's time you got some distance so that you don't make rushed decisions to get back to together if you're not ready to do so (either side).
CalmingLavender
June 30th, 2016 2:47pm
There are many reasons why people branch away from their old partners after a breakup. One of the many reasons is that they are trying to move on and meet new people. As hard as this is to deal with, it's an opportunity for you to follow his example and try and move on as well. Another reason is he may feel to awkward to start a conversation. Depending on who broke up with who, he might either feel as though you don't want to talk to him or that he doesn't want to start grow a friendship with you again until he is completely detoxed of his feelings.
ItsAlyssa
July 28th, 2016 11:00pm
He obviously moved on or is trying to move on just give him his space and try to keep yourself happy and dont let it affect you just value your self and who you are
Laks1
August 7th, 2016 10:23pm
After a break up some people still find it difficult communicating with their exes. Because once they are done with the relationship, they break ties with with you Sometimes they feel talking to their ex after a break up still makes it look like there's something or there's hope for you two to get back. Not everyone believes in friendship after a break up. When they are done, thats it for them
lightandsea
August 17th, 2016 11:06pm
I have found that people process breakups differently - a former boyfriend of mine needed a lot of space to sort through his emotions, and that turned out to be very good for him. It was really difficult at the time and easy to get into my head and down on myself about, but now looking back I know for sure that he was just trying to do what was right for him.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 1:25am
Breakups are traumatic to a person. It is quite close to dealing with death since you don't (try not to) see your ex again. Also, everyone takes breakups differently. And maybe your ex bf is taking it very hard and want to avoid you since it reminds you of the hear break.
JudyMoonshine
September 4th, 2016 5:14am
Everyone does something different when they breakup. Distance and "ghosting" seems to be the current trend, rather than confront the other person about the breakup. It is not mature, but it happens a lot.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 5:33am
He needs some alone time to heal from the break up just give him a bit of space ,he might come around .
Missionmagic101
September 23rd, 2016 10:16pm
It depends on many things. Some people ignore their ex's after a break up because they don't want to get hurt while getting in touch with them or want to distance themselves so it doesn't hurt that much. Others ignore because they are no longer interested in maintaining a friendship or even a cordial relationship with said person. It's not easy to understand the reasons behind some people's actions because everyone is different at their own way. But if he's ignoring you maybe you should do your best to move on and only focus on yourself so you don't get hurt. And that's my opinion.
FrantasticTea
September 25th, 2016 6:54pm
He most likely wants to have some time to himself for a while. When you break up, you end the relationship; you begin to live separately again. It is absolutely true that break ups are different for every couple just so much as it is different how each individual deals with the break up, and maybe this is his way of coping with it.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2017 6:06am
After a breakup it is very important for people to have 'healing time', it could be that he is hurt that the relationship has ended and it is very normal for the partner to ignore the other after a breakup as they think it will make the feel better
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 2:42am
It is common when people hurt one another to try to avoid their problems. People like this most likely want to avoid further conflict that will result in being hurt. We tend to avoid those that cause unpleasant memories and that is what he is trying to do. It is okay to take some time away from this person until you feel better.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2017 11:12am
If you're the one who end the relationship, well maybe he still loves you and he respects your decision about breaking up. And maybe that is his way to move on. Well, there is this time that you cannot be friends with your ex.
Ruek
August 9th, 2017 4:16pm
This could be due to different reasons. For instance, he could be hurt and needs some time to heal and recover from the breakup. He could be angry and needs some time to process the situation.
Sunset316
August 20th, 2017 3:17am
It's probably because after a breakup, people may feel withdrawn or awkward, not that he doesn't like you anymore. Maybe he's just trying to put things in the past and not feel awkward when he's around you. Time heals everything and he'll probably come around after a while.
Ross12
November 8th, 2017 12:42am
Generally when people experience a break up they need time and space. Perhaps you should utilise that time for yourself also.
TourmalineSkies
November 17th, 2017 1:12pm
Some people need time to think and most of the times that shows as ignoring. dont think too much about it and give him time