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He is probably trying to distance himself. Break ups are hard for both the person who was broken up with and the person who broke up with them. Sometimes it's takes a while to be able to shift from "significant other" to just being a friend again.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:43am
Maybe he or she is tired of having relationships fail or having people disappoint them
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 3:33pm
there are two possibility. first, because he love you too much. second, because he wasn't love you enough.
Everyone has its own way of behaving after a break up, some persons just choose to be friends even after break up and some want to have no contact with their ex, that's why they deliberately ignore the ex, they might have certain hurtful or pent up feelings for that person .
may be he is angry and dont want to talk at the moment give him time or may be he want to move on and dont want any communication
After a breakup men usually feel guilt. They know how much they meant to you and so they feel bad and guilty from breaking it off. Also, some men don't really feel the affects of it until later when us ladies already moved on.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 6:17am
When people break up, usually both parties are hurt by it, whether they show it or not. A lot of the time an ex will ignore you because they are hurt and trying to get over a relationship. It's usually best if you don't try to contact them.
Maybe talking to you brings him pain... Maybe he isn't over you yet, and he believes that ignoring you will be the best way to forget you and move on. Some people need to completely cut off someone before they forget about them
He may just need some personal space. People might need to distance themselves to think clearly and rationally on situations, especially traumatic or emotionally stressing ones. Give these people time.
Some people need time to think and most of the times that shows as ignoring. dont think too much about it and give him time
Maybe he still isn't over you and he doesn't want to hurt you or himself by communicating or spending time with you.
This could be his way of coping with the situation as many people have different ways of coping with breakups.
Breakups are always a tough process. If you still want to keep in contact, it may be tricky. He may have to take some time to get through this.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2017 11:12am
If you're the one who end the relationship, well maybe he still loves you and he respects your decision about breaking up. And maybe that is his way to move on. Well, there is this time that you cannot be friends with your ex.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 5:33am
He needs some alone time to heal from the break up just give him a bit of space ,he might come around .
It could be that he is trying to move on with his life and constantly seeing you and talking to you will bring back memories and also bring back feelings he is trying to put aside.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:25pm
You've recently broke up, he's processing it and trying to get over you. He'll come back around when he's ready if he wants too.
There are many reasons why people branch away from their old partners after a breakup. One of the many reasons is that they are trying to move on and meet new people. As hard as this is to deal with, it's an opportunity for you to follow his example and try and move on as well. Another reason is he may feel to awkward to start a conversation. Depending on who broke up with who, he might either feel as though you don't want to talk to him or that he doesn't want to start grow a friendship with you again until he is completely detoxed of his feelings.
He ignored me after breakup because he's also hurt. I was the one who broke off our relationship and I felt that he didn't want it, but he didn't stop me from doing so.
After a break up some people still find it difficult communicating with their exes. Because once they are done with the relationship, they break ties with with you
Sometimes they feel talking to their ex after a break up still makes it look like there's something or there's hope for you two to get back. Not everyone believes in friendship after a break up. When they are done, thats it for them
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 6:46pm
Because after breaking up people sometimes choose not to talk to each other in order to heal from past relationship and make things less dramatic.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 3:14pm
This is something a lot of people will do. It may seem painful right now, but it is going to help both of you regain a sense of self and learn to once again be responsible for your own happiness.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:31pm
Many times after a breakup people want to do their own thing and take a break and just be on their own for a while. It may not be ignoring but he may just be trying to take care of himself and you're viewing it as ignoring. Don't think too deep into it as it will only make you feel worse.
Guys are less emotional than women and I have been ignored after a break up before so I understand that. Men take a while to miss someone. He's ignoring you because he is trying to cover up his feelings. Or at least that's how I see it.
Sometimes space is the best healer. When I broke up with my boyfriend, even though I still cared about him and wanted to see him, I knew that talking or meeting up would either lead him on so that he felt we might get back together or make me feel sorry and decide to have another go even though I know that's not what I want. Being ignored isn't a sign that he's stopped caring altogether it could be because he needs to get over you .
While we can't know for sure, it's probably because he thinks it's time you got some distance so that you don't make rushed decisions to get back to together if you're not ready to do so (either side).
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 4:16pm
He is trying to get over you. It's not easy to talk to a ex right after a breakup it just means your still holding on. Its just his way of dealing with the breakup doesn't mean he doesn't wanna reply he just thinks it's best for both of you.
It depends on many things. Some people ignore their ex's after a break up because they don't want to get hurt while getting in touch with them or want to distance themselves so it doesn't hurt that much. Others ignore because they are no longer interested in maintaining a friendship or even a cordial relationship with said person. It's not easy to understand the reasons behind some people's actions because everyone is different at their own way. But if he's ignoring you maybe you should do your best to move on and only focus on yourself so you don't get hurt. And that's my opinion.
Break-ups can be tough! He may need a little time for himself, therefore if he is ignoring you he may be trying to figure out his own personal feelings and emotions with the events of the break-up. Be patient, allow him to have the time and space that he needs to figure out his next moves for himself.
Take this time out to focus on yourself, figure out your own emotions and feelings! Find your own next moves in life and always be the best version of yourself. Everything will work out for the both of you, and you will both regain happiness again!
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 11:05pm
It's either he really wanted you out of his life or he just feels better without you. It could also be that he has no intentions of getting back together
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