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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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ComfortablyNumb7676
January 12th, 2019 9:50am
Because he needs time to heal as well. It hurts for you, or maybe you're ok and don't need the time away. But often, both people need time to get over it. It's a shock when a relationship ends, everything changes, you go from spending a lot of time with that person to just not. And you're used to sharing your day and your thoughts with them and it's over so you can't do that anymore. Sometimes the easiest way to move on is silence and I have noticed that a lot of people use this as a means of coping. Once he's healed, if he wants to be friendly, he will talk to you again.
Ross12
November 8th, 2017 12:42am
Generally when people experience a break up they need time and space. Perhaps you should utilise that time for yourself also.
Imfluffy
November 20th, 2016 3:50pm
He may be hurting. He may feel guilty about breaking up with you, or upset if you broke up with him. There are a myriad of reasons, but if he cares about you, he will talk to you at some point in the future. Sometimes after time passes, feelings get cleared up and both of you will be in a better state to talk, discuss and gain closure. Just give him that time to process.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2019 12:05am
If your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is ignoring you after a breakup, this could be because he or she feels uncomfortable talking to you. They may feel too upset about the breakup, then avoiding you in a hopeful attempt to forget it. Breakups can be difficult for both parties and the other person may feel differently about the breakup than you do. The other person could find it too painful to continue having a friendship or having casual chat occasionally as it could be a reminder of what you used to have together. This usually happens after a recent breakup, time is a great healer, if you want you can wait a few weeks and they tend to get in touch them selves or may feel ready to talk when you contact them.
Skittlemonster96
October 19th, 2016 2:55am
Guys are less emotional than women and I have been ignored after a break up before so I understand that. Men take a while to miss someone. He's ignoring you because he is trying to cover up his feelings. Or at least that's how I see it.
Lottielou19
October 18th, 2016 7:33am
Sometimes space is the best healer. When I broke up with my boyfriend, even though I still cared about him and wanted to see him, I knew that talking or meeting up would either lead him on so that he felt we might get back together or make me feel sorry and decide to have another go even though I know that's not what I want. Being ignored isn't a sign that he's stopped caring altogether it could be because he needs to get over you .
raindrop333
June 26th, 2016 3:11am
While we can't know for sure, it's probably because he thinks it's time you got some distance so that you don't make rushed decisions to get back to together if you're not ready to do so (either side).
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 3:14pm
This is something a lot of people will do. It may seem painful right now, but it is going to help both of you regain a sense of self and learn to once again be responsible for your own happiness.
Easylistener
December 15th, 2017 8:42pm
People ignore after a breakup because of many reasons. They are uncomfortable with how it ended, they may be sad or unhappy about it, or they are sorry they hurt you and don't want to give you any hope that it might not be over. It's normal to experience this, and remember, it's not about you, it's always about them.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 4:16pm
He is trying to get over you. It's not easy to talk to a ex right after a breakup it just means your still holding on. Its just his way of dealing with the breakup doesn't mean he doesn't wanna reply he just thinks it's best for both of you.
Missionmagic101
September 23rd, 2016 10:16pm
It depends on many things. Some people ignore their ex's after a break up because they don't want to get hurt while getting in touch with them or want to distance themselves so it doesn't hurt that much. Others ignore because they are no longer interested in maintaining a friendship or even a cordial relationship with said person. It's not easy to understand the reasons behind some people's actions because everyone is different at their own way. But if he's ignoring you maybe you should do your best to move on and only focus on yourself so you don't get hurt. And that's my opinion.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 11:05pm
It's either he really wanted you out of his life or he just feels better without you. It could also be that he has no intentions of getting back together
kindButterfly20
July 19th, 2020 7:56am
Break-ups can be tough! He may need a little time for himself, therefore if he is ignoring you he may be trying to figure out his own personal feelings and emotions with the events of the break-up. Be patient, allow him to have the time and space that he needs to figure out his next moves for himself. Take this time out to focus on yourself, figure out your own emotions and feelings! Find your own next moves in life and always be the best version of yourself. Everything will work out for the both of you, and you will both regain happiness again!
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:31pm
Many times after a breakup people want to do their own thing and take a break and just be on their own for a while. It may not be ignoring but he may just be trying to take care of himself and you're viewing it as ignoring. Don't think too deep into it as it will only make you feel worse.
GAddams
July 8th, 2018 1:11am
He may find it difficult or painful to be around you, especially if the breakup wasn't his choice. Even if it was mutual or his idea, he may be struggling with the change. Give him time to handle his feelings, and perhaps with time you two can return to a friendlier situation.
FeelingTheSpace
June 10th, 2018 1:02am
Breakups are emotionally taxing and confusing in many level. It takes time to figure out your emotions and trial and error could be a way to do this. Also, people sometimes need space to heal.
ListenerToHelp
August 6th, 2016 12:33pm
He may be angry, or just not wanting to talk. He may want some space or time to think. The breakup may have been harsh for him.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 4:19pm
Because maybe he is hurting too, and that's his way of coping up with the pain. You both got hurt, maybe different levels of pain and you both have to deal with it separately this time.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 1:02am
depends on the situation. he may need some space right now.
lightandsea
August 17th, 2016 11:06pm
I have found that people process breakups differently - a former boyfriend of mine needed a lot of space to sort through his emotions, and that turned out to be very good for him. It was really difficult at the time and easy to get into my head and down on myself about, but now looking back I know for sure that he was just trying to do what was right for him.
SitaV
June 14th, 2018 9:20am
It is hard to know for sure why others behave the way they do. It is more worthwhile to focus on yourself and your needs. Feeling lonely and wanting to reach out to an ex is perfectly normal. Remind yourself why you two have separated and shift the comfort and support that you may be seeking in him to your friends and/or family.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 11:30pm
He probably isn't or wasn't as interested and invested as you were in the relationship so he has "moved on". He would probably come back when you get over him...
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 1:25am
Breakups are traumatic to a person. It is quite close to dealing with death since you don't (try not to) see your ex again. Also, everyone takes breakups differently. And maybe your ex bf is taking it very hard and want to avoid you since it reminds you of the hear break.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2019 1:26pm
Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup, it must be hard for you. If you did something wrong, leading to the breakup, he might be still mad at you, thus he isn't talking. Or it could be him needing to sort out his feelings after the breakup. Feelings can be pretty messed up after breakups and I'm sure you and him need time to think things out. Maybe he just isn't a talkative person. For example, I've met people in my life who would only talk when necessary. But i do not know your boyfriend, i believe that among us, you know him best. I trust that you'll find out why soon and i believe in you. Hope things get better.
GreenShades
June 18th, 2018 9:22am
Firstly undestanding the fundementatl of a 'break up' is very important. When you break up with another person, another person breaks up with you, or you agree to break up, you have no intention (at the time) to continue the relationship. The relationship is over. Perhaps there can be friendship but the relationship there once was is done. You do not intend to continue seeing each other romantically at all. And to manage break up, rule no#1 : you have to completely CUT TIES. You should not meet/ talk/ keep any contact with your ex till you have moved on. Rule no#2 : Dont engage in any activity that tempts you from looking at him or his memories either on social media or any other medium. You have to take care of yourself. In order to truly heal from a breakup, you need to focus on bettering yourself.
EmmaGraymd
March 29th, 2018 3:08am
If he initiated the breakup, it may be that he wants to move on in his life and he feels it best to ignore you to either hide from the emotional damage he is enduring. By ignoring—out of side, out f mind, he is masking any feelings he attaches to your past relationship.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:02pm
He may need space to get his thoughts together and that's exactly what you need to give him. He will come around.
JudyMoonshine
September 4th, 2016 5:14am
Everyone does something different when they breakup. Distance and "ghosting" seems to be the current trend, rather than confront the other person about the breakup. It is not mature, but it happens a lot.
Anonymous
October 18th, 2019 6:08am
it really depends on individual! after my previous partner initiated a breakup, he ignored me and all my attempts to reconcile or get a closure. it has been months and i'm still equally confused, but i believe it's that he just wants to end everything with me. but there are other possibilities where perhaps your ex just wanted to get over you and ignoring you could be his way of doing so. it's confusing for you, definitely, especially if he wasn't acting like that before the break up. but perhaps you should also figure out what you want to do now after the break up! all the best.
shepppie
March 21st, 2018 8:23pm
He is probably trying to get over you, especially if you're the one who broke up with him. It's not the best way to move on, but it's common.