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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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Last Updated: 08/24/2020 at 6:16pm
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Top Rated Answers
annakx
July 20th, 2016 2:25pm
It depends on the way you guys parted ways. It can be possible that he is doing it because he is trying to get over it, trying to move on. Maybe you should think that his behaviour is for the best too. Think what's going to bring you more happiness x
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2016 2:56am
Because you guys have broken up and both of you need time to move on. Holding onto an already finished relationship doesn't help anyone. If you guys have decided to break up, give yourselves time to get over it before you guys choose to come back as friends again, if you guys still decide to.
exquisiteCreature95
July 24th, 2016 7:55pm
They're could be many reasons as to why this is happening such as, his way of getting over you, if you broke up with him he could just be hurting, fear of saying something that might hurt you or it could just be simple as needing his space. Don't stress it.
uniqueMango45
July 27th, 2016 1:11am
Everyone copes in different ways. Depending on who broke up with whom, he may be feeling a bit wounded or overwhelmed. Just relax and focus on getting yourself better and happier.
peacefulDancer4
July 28th, 2016 11:24am
If you ended on a bad breakup it would be obvious as to why he is ignoring you or dosen't want to be friends as it would be awkward. If you ended civil then I would be concerned as to why he isn't talking to you.
shoshho
July 29th, 2016 11:57am
you see, sometimes it's not easy forgetting the fact and once you face reality that you cant be with that someone in the same way as the past, It can be hurtful so we usually avoid the package altogether to help mend on the inside.
BestMotivationer
July 31st, 2016 12:51am
Maybe he just needs time to fully adjust to the situations, and maybe he doesnt really feel comfortable as yet to see you.
TiffanyLauren
August 3rd, 2016 6:52am
He ignored me after breakup because he's also hurt. I was the one who broke off our relationship and I felt that he didn't want it, but he didn't stop me from doing so.
freshFriend18
August 3rd, 2016 1:50pm
He wants to move on, maybe still hurt, take your time to focus on yourself and start looking around.
Nicechatter
August 4th, 2016 4:48pm
There are lots of reasons.Maybe he wants to be alone.Maybe seeing you hurt him.Be patient also you need to move on.There is a big life in front of you.Good luck dear !
steelnerve
August 4th, 2016 7:15pm
People(not player guys and girls) fall in a pit as soon as they break up. They need time to recover from it. Such situations are best left to cool down first, then try to salvage what's left of it and building it up again.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 5:04am
Some people find it really awkward after breakups, he probably just needs time so dont take it personally. Need to vent? I'm here to to help: http://www.7cups.com/13895086
ListenerToHelp
August 6th, 2016 12:33pm
He may be angry, or just not wanting to talk. He may want some space or time to think. The breakup may have been harsh for him.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 4:43am
He might be ignoring you because he's hurting and wants to get over you. After all, the best way to get over a breakup is to avoid contact with your ex so that you don't think about them. Or he's just rude and wants you to feel bad about the bad about the breakup. Either way, you should be focusing on yourself right now and not your ex.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:52pm
Depending on the length of the relationship and who broke up with who he might find it hard to deal or with you or face you again.. If he broke up with you he wants it to be over and he wants to move on, let him. If you broke it off he might still be hurt and wants to protect his pride. He lost you and he wants to get over you by doesnt know how to. Rest in the fact that it's over
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:15pm
It is quite general.. people do ignore after breakups and perhaps its for your own good. Maybe he is ignoring because u should move on too
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 6:28pm
He probably just wants some space, to think things over. Wait a couple of days then message him. Don't message him too often too.
frenchiek
August 13th, 2016 12:36am
It's possible that, because you broke up, he is trying to work on getting over you and moving on with himself.
Therhythmofheart
August 17th, 2016 6:53pm
He might be ignoring you because may feel awkward now. Aur there may be something else. Give him some time to overcome the awkward situation.
LinaIsaza
August 24th, 2016 10:33pm
Probably is the way of your ex partner to deal with the breakup, just take yur time alone to heal :)
bellarose1102
August 25th, 2016 2:42am
Sometimes after a break up people need to distance themselves to heal and learn how to cope without the other person around
DRSamWilliams
August 25th, 2016 2:56pm
If you break up with someone then it is best to move on. Continuing to focus on them will only make you less likely to be happy and to be able to find someone that will really treat you with the respect that you deserve. Thank you.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 3:44pm
Depends on the guy and the reason of your breakup. If you want to talk, leave me a message. We can talk about it.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 4:14pm
Maybe he just needs a space and it's better to talk as a normal friend than being awkward by ignoring eachothern
XsetarehX
August 28th, 2016 2:52pm
Maybe it is his way of getting over you. Maybe by ignoring you, he can cope with the break up better or maybe is mad.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 11:30pm
He probably isn't or wasn't as interested and invested as you were in the relationship so he has "moved on". He would probably come back when you get over him...
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 6:26pm
There could be many reasons behind someone ignoring their once significant other. It all depends on how the breakup occurred. Perhaps one of the reasons is that he is hurt and seeing you only makes him feel sad because you are not in his life like before.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 1:57pm
Probably because he wants to forget about the past and forget all the memories you two had together. You cannot expect him to keep seeing you forget all those memories all together.
WaltDisney
September 1st, 2016 3:39pm
There are lots of potential reasons this could be happening. 1. He is ignoring you because maybe he finds it difficult to communicate with you are such an event especially if you were fiends beforehand. 2. He may be generally rude and in this case you deserve better. Nobody deserves to be ignored and ghosted x
spreadlove9618
September 1st, 2016 7:42pm
Are you sure he is ignoring you? Maybe he is just trying to move on after the break up? Or maybe he's giving you the space to move on? There are a million perspectives to everything. Talk about this with him, if you want to stay in touch.