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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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Last Updated: 08/24/2020 at 6:16pm
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ListenerToHelp
August 6th, 2016 12:33pm
He may be angry, or just not wanting to talk. He may want some space or time to think. The breakup may have been harsh for him.
FeelingTheSpace
June 10th, 2018 1:02am
Breakups are emotionally taxing and confusing in many level. It takes time to figure out your emotions and trial and error could be a way to do this. Also, people sometimes need space to heal.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2020 6:16pm
There can be several reasons why an ex ignores you after your breakup. He might feel abandoned, lonely or maybe even relieved. If the breakup was something that he didn't expect, he would need time to clear up his mind and forget about you considering that he might still like you. He will obviously avoid interacting with you if he still likes you and therefore the person that get hurts is himself. He might need to get you out of his head which requires time in order to forget you. On the other hand, if the breakup was something he had anticipated, he might feel like your two's relationship is completely over now and might want to find new people to talk to.
porsxh22
July 12th, 2018 12:19pm
Because he is obviously hurting and can’t stand to see you at the moment, if you still love him maybe don’t give up just yet!
Anonymous
October 10th, 2018 8:33am
He may be hurt and trying to get over it. Give him space and maybe he’ll stop ignoring you but don’t keep pushing him to talk to you, give him time and space
BobaTea3
September 14th, 2018 2:09am
It really depends on the reason you both decided to break up. It could be out of embarrassment, him thinking he's not much of a man and is too embarrassed to confront someone that doesn't think highly of him, or it could be that he's still in love with you or just because it's too awkward to confront after a break up. I mean, any regular person would really ignore after a break up, it wouldn't be expected you'd become friends again the next day unless you always had that bond. You wouldn't expected to become friends the next especially if you were in a long relationship.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2020 7:07pm
A break up is a very difficult time in two people's lives. After being together for a long time and understanding the other person at such an intimate level, there are a lot of conflicting feelings that come when you break up. That being said, it is important that both people in the relationship take some time for themselves in order to focus on themselves during this difficult time. He is probably ignoring you to do just this. He wants to not only be able to focus on himself but also be able to move on and develop his relationship with others.
Red1088
September 1st, 2018 10:37pm
Sometimes after people get out of a relationship, they need space. It could be that the relationship ending was a dramatic change for him, clearly affecting him deeply. If I were you, I would let him be for a while so he can get his head together. Eventually, he will come around and start to warm up to you again. Time heals all. Especially breakups, so just remember that he time and space. I know it can be hard to let someone have space but trust me, it’s for the best and if you do, all will come round 😁
Anonymous
August 29th, 2018 8:12am
Some people react to break-ups very differently. Some are quick to get under the next person, and others need a bit more time to heal. There are also the people who need to cut you off, clean turkey, in order to fully get over you. I have a few possible explanations for you: (a) He’s realizing the role you play in his life has changed and he needs to put some distance between the two of you. Sometimes you find that it’s easy to fall back into old habits, when you don’t give yourself space. (b) He’s hiding something. I have a friend who was dumped abruptly. Her ex became stone cold, and started giving her the cold shoulder. Only to discover that he was seeing another woman, THE WHOLE TIME! A married woman for that matter! (c) He probably feels guilty for breaking up with you abruptly.
Kayaondra02
May 5th, 2018 1:05am
Give him some time to cool down. Break ups are hard. Depending on what happened, he may not want to talk to you right now.
CursesAndMagic
May 18th, 2018 1:35am
Sometimes people need total break of contact after a breakup. It’s often difficult to remain friends after a breakup but in time this is sometimes possible. Maybe he needs space to process thoughts, feelings and emotions.
SupportiveSockMonkey
May 19th, 2018 10:44am
It might be because he's dealing with the information. Sometimes it's best to give eachother space as it can be a big change in someones life. They may also be hurting or trying to cope with the situation. Some individuals after a breakup cannot remain friends and maybe that's could be how he feels.
jrdraft
May 28th, 2020 4:05pm
There are many reasons people ignore one another after a break up. Sadly, many times they ignore us because they feel guilty. Perhaps they feel like they didn't handle it in the right manner, hurt your feelings, or wasted time. Sometimes, they simply feel awkward and aren't sure how to act around you until a new "normal" can be established. Other times, there are hurt feelings and the feelings are just to raw right afterwards. Communication is key; tell the person you're just not ready to talk and it may take some time for you to feel comfortable enough to get to that point.
Samantha1717
June 3rd, 2020 7:16pm
Breakups are never easy for either party, and it doesn't matter if an individual wanted to breakup or not. Sometimes individuals who just broke up need some time to heal. This will include distancing themselves from the other person both physically and emotionally. This will require not connecting with the other person in-person and virtually. Although this may be a big change from when the two of you were together, it is a good method to dealing with a breakup. Now is a good time to connect with friends and family. Reach out to them as I'm sure they will be there to support you.
Positivityiskeyalways
August 3rd, 2018 1:45am
He might just need space to think about the situation. Best thing to do is give him time to clear his head instead of constantly messaging and calling him.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 6:19am
He is ignoring you after a break up probably so as to give you both time to move forward. Also not give you false hope that you will get back together.
FelixLlyod
July 20th, 2018 7:59pm
For some people ignoring is a step for moving on. That way they think they might stop loving that person.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 2:43am
He may still be trying to sort out his feelings after the breakup and he thinks some time alone will help the process.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2020 1:19am
Perhaps he needs time to heal after the breakup. Maybe he needs to realize what has happened between the two of you and learn how to heal himself. Talking to you after the breakup may manifest feelings within him that would make it harder for him to move on. He may also need time to collect his thoughts so he can speak with you in a way that does not hurt the both of you and leads to an effective conversation. He may also believe that the time apart may benefit you in your healing process. He may be reflecting on how to better himself for his own purposes or for you.
Nini108
December 26th, 2018 5:47pm
Some people find it difficult to talk to someone they were in a relationship with soon after a break up. You are essentially grieving the loss of a relationship and people deal with grief and loss differently. He might be processing his emotions and the easiest way for him could be by spending some time alone. He probably isn't ignoring you to be cruel but he may need space. Even if your way of healing is by perhaps talking to him, his way of healing could be the opposite to yours. This is a hrd time for both of you.
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 25th, 2018 11:13pm
Maybe he is ignoring you after the break up cause he needs to process this. Maybe he feels keeping in touch with you is hard on him to move on and heal. I don't know this answer as only he does.
xcharlottex45
July 17th, 2020 2:18pm
He might just be overwhelmed with all of the emotions he is going through after the break up. Everyone is different, so people will cope differently to one situation then a other. Don’t get offended if he doesn’t talk to you after the break up. Give him some time and he will be back to his normal self again. For now you can get control over how you are feeling and take care of yourself and not worry about how he is feeling, this moment in time. I am sure he will message you when he is ready. :)
MissCarmen
August 10th, 2018 9:51am
There could be several reasons, but most common are 1) he wants to avoid guilt and 2) he wants to move on with his own life and wants a fresh start.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2020 9:09pm
He could be ignoring you after a breakup as a way of coping with the loss of the relationship. He might not want to feel sad and by doing that he thinks ignoring you is the best option. In my personal experience, an ex-boyfriend stopped answering my texts, calls, anything of us on social media, etc.. He later on said he did that because he couldn't handle the loss of the relationship and did everything he could to not think about me. Some people deal with situations by avoiding their feelings and/or cutting ties quickly. A breakup is incredibly challenging, but it gives you more time to think about your worth and focus on what you want to do.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2020 1:42am
Depending on the circumstances of the breakup he may either be hurting or needs space to heal. Breakups are hard in general so sometimes space is best at first. It is important to focus on healing and doing things that are right for you and will help you. After some time has passed maybe you can reach out again to check up on him as a friend and maybe see if that is something he would be interested in. If he does not want to be friends then, of course, it will sting but ultimately you need to respect that.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 8:30am
He most likely doesn't want to know news about you anymore or he's trying to not miss you it's best if you ignore your ex's so you won't miss them
hnthalia
August 10th, 2018 5:39am
I've been through this and I'm done with the self loathing and blame I put upon myself. I realized that it's not necessarily anyone's fault. Sometimes people need time to heal and the best way to do it is to distance themselves. It's okay.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 9:41am
I think he's ignoring you because he needs some time for himself, and to move on. Break-ups are bad for both parties usually and can be damaging to people who were really into the relationship. Maybe he just thinks that avoiding you would help him move on from his past.
Reddy
June 25th, 2020 1:58am
Because you broke up. Not being harsh at all but sometimes when a relationship ends, people need time to themselves to re-evaluate their life, their goals and that can take time. And sometimes while in an ideal world it would be nice if we could all stay friends with our ex, its not always the same for everyone. Maybe its too painful, maybe they just need to move on - everyone is different and handles the ending of a relationship differently to how we would like. There are so many different reasons why people react to whatever situation they are in (or have left) and it may or may not be the reason we think and that can hurt but more often than not - its unintentional, they have moved on. And that "moving on' process is different for everyone.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2020 12:35pm
Probably because he doesn't want to face any emotions and he is scared of remembering the happy moments he had with you. I don't want to build my argument on stereotypes but it's pretty common that guys have more difficulties in facing emotions than girls. It'll probably take some time for him to be ready to face your past together. Take thinks slow and wait for him to work on his feelings and thoughts. I'm pretty sure he will feel ready eventually, just wait and see. In case he doesn't come back to talk eventually, it means that he's still a child in his mind.