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Sometimes after a break up people need to distance themselves to heal and learn how to cope without the other person around
Anonymous
August 25th, 2016 2:56pm
If you break up with someone then it is best to move on. Continuing to focus on them will only make you less likely to be happy and to be able to find someone that will really treat you with the respect that you deserve. Thank you.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 3:44pm
Depends on the guy and the reason of your breakup. If you want to talk, leave me a message. We can talk about it.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 4:14pm
Maybe he just needs a space and it's better to talk as a normal friend than being awkward by ignoring eachothern
Maybe it is his way of getting over you. Maybe by ignoring you, he can cope with the break up better or maybe is mad.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 6:26pm
There could be many reasons behind someone ignoring their once significant other. It all depends on how the breakup occurred. Perhaps one of the reasons is that he is hurt and seeing you only makes him feel sad because you are not in his life like before.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 1:57pm
Probably because he wants to forget about the past and forget all the memories you two had together. You cannot expect him to keep seeing you forget all those memories all together.
There are lots of potential reasons this could be happening. 1. He is ignoring you because maybe he finds it difficult to communicate with you are such an event especially if you were fiends beforehand. 2. He may be generally rude and in this case you deserve better. Nobody deserves to be ignored and ghosted x
Are you sure he is ignoring you? Maybe he is just trying to move on after the break up? Or maybe he's giving you the space to move on? There are a million perspectives to everything. Talk about this with him, if you want to stay in touch.
He needs some space, everyone needs to grieve and its easier to get over someone when they aren't in your life. Its a selfish thing but a matter of life.
Maybe he just doesn't wanna get into that relationship again and hes scared, dont let it get to you.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 12:18pm
People find it hard to deal with a breakup and many feel like it's easier to just pretend like all of it never happened and pretend they don't know you as it's easier to deal with the feelings. As ignoring someone stops the memories coming back and causing upset.
For some individuals, separation from the stress source is the only way they can cope. It prevents good memories from turning into bad ones and allows them to move on.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 1:00am
He may just be ignoring you because he feels not only himself but you need to heal and take the time to get over this. In this situation if he was giving you attention it may be hard to take the time to process the breakup and a lot of mixed emotions could play out in the way of this. He may be ignoring you know but give it sometime and you can either be friends or better off without him
Anonymous
September 18th, 2016 4:36pm
From my personal experience, he is perhaps ignoring you for one of three reasons. Either he is trying to give you space to move on, he feels hurt by things ending or he is trying to give himself space to move on.
He is probably hurt too. If you want to talk it out, you should give it some time and then approach in a calm, relaxed manner. Just talking can really help.
He could be hurt, and needing some time to actually understand that things are over, have you tried to give him a little bit of space, and see how he feels?
It really depends from situation to situation and individual differences, but often times, people ignore because further communication after a break up is simply too painful or uncomfortable. Thus, the best way to ease these emotions is to avoid. With no doubt, continuous interaction with someone after a break (especially one that is fairly fresh) can be a reminder of something you've lost, or a drastic change. People deal with losses and changes differently.
Well, it is possible that he is either scared that you will be very mad at him or maybe he thinks you are avoiding him so he doesn't want to get involved with you because he thinks that you don't want to get involved with him.
It takes time for people's hearts to heal. I know you want to talk to him, but give him time to heal, which to be honest will hurt and feel like forever but you also need toI me to heal and I know you may not want to but will help you get over the breakup and stop obsessing over it.
Dear friend,
I'm not familiarized with the details of your life, so it would be reckless of me to make wild guesses.
However, I can understand that you might be feeling overwhelmed by all of this, but rest assured that things will get better.
How do you feel about taking this time alone to focus on yourself and discovering all the great things life has to offer you?
Let me know what you've decided to do. I look foward hearing from you.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 3:03pm
maybe he is uncomfortable with me.he cant be happy with me.Spending time with me will make him remember the good days we together had.that will make him sad.
There are several reasons he might be ignoring you after breaking up. He may be hurt, and being in contact with you will only remind if of this hurt and prevent him from moving on. He might be angry with you and not wanna see you because of that. Maybe he is worried that he will regret the breakup and get back together with you.
Anonymous
October 12th, 2016 12:20pm
Why do you think he is doing that? Don't be sad, just try to relax and calm yourself down, I know this is hard but you have to stay strong
If it was messy, then maybe to heal, if it was him breaking up then probably to give you space to move on.
Based on personal experience I have ignored my significant other after a breakup because I am trying to sort out my feelings. It might still be too fresh of a wound for him to talk to you again. That's perfectly okay as some people do need their space after breakups, don't sweat it!
He could be ignoring you in order to help himself move on. Talking to you may be hard for him to get over you, so instead he chooses to ignore you until he is moved on.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 3:49am
Sometimes after breakups people need time alone, away from their old partner, it's difficult to explain but that's how it works sometimes, it's different for everyone.
It may be tempting to want to maintain contact after a breakup, especially if you're the one who has been broken up with, but taking some time and space will be good for both of you if what you're interested in is maintaining a friendship. It's not easy to have healed well for either person immediately.
Some people are not as resilient and strong as you are. Breakups usually mean a break of commitment and time. This is devastating for some, and relieving for others. As for a solution, my love, there may not be a way to fix that. Time is your best friend in relationships, or so my friend once said. It helped! Good luck, dearest.
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