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Why is it so difficult to stay without them? You need them all the time when its finally over and feel helpless.Why does the love never fade away?

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Last Updated: 08/09/2016 at 12:32am
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Anonymous
November 27th, 2014 6:55pm
Love does fade, if you let it. It takes time, but soon the wound will stop hurting quite so much and you slowly learn to live with the pain you have been through. One day you find that you can wake up and get dressed without crying; a few days later you might find that you can listen to your loved one's favorite song all the way through. The love will always be there. That experience is yours forever. But you slowly start to live with the pain as it becomes a more distant memory. If you are willing to let the pain go and become distant to you, if you do not hold it close for fear of losing it, you can live with the pain and learn to love again.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 2:05pm
Well? To be honest its not the "love" fading away, its just a lack of scheduled activity that's causing a void, all the time you used to spend with the beloved or thinking about them
lanabo
November 29th, 2014 11:41pm
Sometimes a breakup can feel like addiction withdrawals, your body and mind struggles to adjust as you deal with the separation.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2014 2:30pm
Because, possibly, mentally you have not made the decision to let go. You need to give yourself some pampering and have fun time.
wonderfulPurple52
December 9th, 2014 1:56pm
Because people always curious and think what would happen if i did not leave him, Can we worked it out and stay together etc. So it always hard to let that curiosity go and also the love for them. It just need time and patience . Let time fix everything.It will be fixed just take a little while to forget.
MissLeriss
December 23rd, 2014 6:59am
Love doesn't fade because it is an emotion. An emotion that one inflicts in another and even though we get over our past relations we always feel something
Anonymous
January 7th, 2015 10:21am
You have go use to the routine of your life with them and as long as you focus on that, then it will take longer for you to move on.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 4:32pm
I believe because as humans, we are vulnerable; dependent on each other. When we open our heart to someone, it's like giving them the chance to control our lives with us. The more we love someone, the more we put time, effort and 'personality', which we, unconscionably, appreciate. Giving someone time from our lives is the biggest sacrifice, because once you waste time, it can never be brought back, however; this sacrifice is what we call "love". It never fades away because this is what you believe, you believe it's unforgettable; yet once another person comes, with better qualities, you may let go, and finally breathe again
petiteprince
December 22nd, 2015 3:37pm
We should all go through a healing process in order to get our feelings in place. It's important to express them instead of shutting them down. Time and self care will be the key for healing.
compassionateEyes50
March 7th, 2016 10:05am
Because you're habituated to them. You've been with them for so long and after it's over for a long time you'll always find an empty space in your life where they resided.
Greatlistener87
March 21st, 2016 3:30am
People leave foot steps in ur heart. No matter how many come and leave their memories and times will always remain. People are put and taken away from your life for a reason. Is all about seeing the bigger picture and accepting where you are now and how can you move forward with all the memories and times in a positive direction.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 7:54pm
Maybe because it was there so long that you're now so use to it, and it causes you to miss it and want it back.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2016 12:32am
It is difficult because you find them so intriguing. It will be difficult, but over time, you will learn to accept the challenge. The love will always be there, but you can control how large it appears. In other words, you will always love them the same, but you will eventually move on (even if it feels like you never will) and then the love is hidden away.