Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It is so hard because you have loved this person once. It doesn't matter what happened, but you can't just switch off feelings. It's so hard at all because there are still and there will be always feelings for this person, even if it isn't anymore love.

I guess its so hard because, even though you might have been friends before, its just not possible to get back on that friendship level, at least not right after the breakup. So you two try, and maybe for one of you it's easier cause they were the ones who broke up, but you can't just switch off those feelings for them. And suddenly you don't even know how to talk to them anymore, is it okay to compliment them? Can you still call them by their nicknames? Is it weird to say good night and sleep well, or not? I think you were just so used to talking to them in a certain way, that its hard to just change that from one day to the other, and its hurting you, because talking to them in a neutral or friendship kind of way just reminds you of your loss.

It is hard, because for a while after a break up there has been a break in trust. It is possible to stay friends, but you will need a little space and time to heal. A potential friendship is possible because you likely had things in common which brought you together romantically. However, there is no pressure either way. Usually these things have a way of working themselves out.

There is always going to be memories, be it good or bad. Seeing an ex or hearing their voice tend tends to bring those feelings and memories back to the surface.

Because when you speak to them you can easily be reminded of your past with them, and may miss that. You may see the things you used to love in them and want them back, or just be reminded by your breakup and any hurt you've had because of them.

It all depends on the way you broke up. Your going to feel hate towards them if they cheated. You’ll feel regret if you dumped them. Multiple answers to your question.

One of the main reasons in my mind to talk to an ex-significant other is due to the memories. When you see that person you either experience happiness from looking back at what you had and you wish you had it again, which in turn makes it hard. Or you could experience pain or sadness from bad memories that really hurt you and you want to distance yourself from.

its hard to talk to a ex because you may still have pent up aggression towards them and after a break up you may want to still fight and argue with them

Its hard because 1) You may or may not still like/love them. If you do still love them it makes it nearly impossible to look in there direction(if they left you)if you left, its out of embrassment. 2) Awkwardness. Love or hate, you two are awkward.

In my opinion, I would find it hard when there are unresolved tensions or breaking up on a bad note. Also, I find it difficult if there were years spent together with that person and seeing them would bring back memories, good and bad. I feel once I gained more experience and more self awareness, it made things easier for me to be civil with an ex.

It is hard only when you still have feelings for them. If you don't have any feelings left, I believe you can talk.

I think this depends on the situation you have been in with this person, If it has been a difficult relationship then being friends with someone after a bad breakup is very very hard, but there is things that can be done, you have to be sensible with one another, and discuss the break up in detail how it made you both feel its like having closure on the situation so you can then move on.

When you have shared so much of yourself to someone and you end up getting hurt, you feel betrayed. It becomes difficult for you to open up again to the person who hurt you.

because you have had memories together that you loved and when you loved him or her or them it was a special time

It's so hard to talk to a ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend because of how close we once were. They know about everything about us. We get choked up from the time we start to talk to the time we stop talking, finding it hard to have a steady conversation. The best thing to do is to wait for them to come to you

There may still be feelings or hidden anger/confusion (depending on the breakup) sometimes it's easy to be friends with an ex and sometimes it's hard

It's only hard to talk to them when feelings are still involved. If you feel you have completely moved on from them, then there are no strings attached. But if not, then it is difficult because you still care deeply of that person in more than just a friendly manner. I have felt this pain more than once. My ex in high school ended things because he wanted to go to the Navy and didn't think it would work out between us. I was crushed and hurt every time he reached out to me.. but over time once I healed and got over it, it was so much easier to handle. Time heals all!

It can be hard to talk to an ex because of multiple reasons. It could be that you have never really fully dealt with your feeling towards that person. If you didn't allow yourself to have any closure, by the time you meet them again, all the feelings that were locked up resurfaces and it's difficult to get pass that so you'll have a hard time thinking about talking normally when you hold some grudges. It's possible that you had closure and that everything seemed clear, but even though you're fine in your current life, exes are reminder of the past, the good times you've had and the mistakes that you've done in your life. The lines are always blurry because those are people that you loved for some reasons. The breakups were also there for a reason but when meeting them, you want to make sure the line stay clear so that's why it could be difficult to process while talking to them.

It is often incredibly hard to go back and have a conversation with an ex partner if you ended on bad terms and have not been talking since. This is because your first interaction with the person will bring back all your memories of the person - both good and bad - making your first conversation back with the person definitely awkward. This can be avoided by hanging out amongst a group, so the pressure is kind of taken off both of you to hold a conversation and allows both of you to remain quite if the conversation stalls without it getting too awkward.

It is hard to talk to them because you once loved them. You may still love them and they just don't know it.

One thing that really comes to mind is the fact that you might just end up doing one of two things. One thing you might do is fall back in love with them and they end up, most likely wanting to get back together, which if rushed could end in another heartbreak. Another thing that might happen is the fact that you could just be ending up being more mean or rude to that person to the point that you will try and continue to be rude and disrespectful to them. Another odd is you just do not know how they are going to reply to you!

Because of the feelings lost. It could be painful because of all the good memory's overpowering the senses so it becomes scary to repress the emotions from someone once loved.

In my persona experience the fact that you used to be so close with someone (exboyfriend or girlfriend) makes it way harder to set up new boundaries or the simple fact of you having to accept that the relationship its over while you still have feelings for that person can make it way harder than it should be.

I think people may find it hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend because it reminds you of what you were, what you had, and who they were. Since it’s an EX, remembering them by talking to them would make you relive that hurt again. That’s if it ended badly. So it’s hard to talk to them, maybe you don’t want to get attached to them again so you’re afraid to talk to them again. Most times it’s not healthy to talk to someone you’ve ended a relationship with, mainly if it’s on bad terms, but if you feel you can fix the broken relation, then it may be worth talking to them again, lots of couples have break ups then get back together and end up being married.. So who knows..

You're attached to what they once were. Your memories are better than the actual person. Personally, my heart breaks every time I talk to an ex-girlfriend, because I remember what we once had.

Talking to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend can be difficult because breakups are often painful. If the break-up was recent, feelings of anger and disappointment, among others, may still be quite strong, making having a normal conversation quite challenging.

Talking to an ex-boyfriend takes courage. When u talk to them after time has passed it can open wounds you thought were closed already and it won’t be easy. It can make u realize maybe you are still not over them but they are. It is hard seeing someone you once loved; you once thought was “the one” be happy without you but u gotta trust life will get better and you don’t need them to be happy. You will get to see how strong you are. Talking to an ex is not an easy task but sometimes in order to move on we need closure.

Well i think because your scared to go back to where you just lost from that you dont know how to deal with the pain before.

Because you once had feelings for that person. And if you talk to them maybe the feelings will come back. It will feel good again. So we are afraid. That with those feelings the hurt will come back too. And we don't want to feel that type of hurt again. And sometimes we overthink what if you catch feelings again and the other person don't. What if they have already moved on. Again it hurts. Also sometimes we are scared because it makes us relive the good times and we want it all back. But we can't live in the past. So it makes us sad. So we avoid.

It depends on who chose to end that relationship or why it ended, but mostly people find it so hard to talk to thier EXs because he or she didn't or couldn't move on yet.