Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It's just natural that it is weird to talk to someone after your relationship changed, it is new for both of you to be in this role, to not be the boyfriend/girlfriend anymore. And there is probably some negative feelings involved because of the breakup, and the fact that you two have a lot of history.

Because sometimes you might still love them but in another kind of love and it is hard to see someone that got away

If there was a lot of hurt feelings involved in a breakup, there may be a lot of hurt between you. Depending on the reasons for the breakup, it can feel as if there's an unbreachable gap between the two of you.

There could be many reasons, but mostly it happens bcs you have something to share, memories, feelings. You've been bounded to each other mentaly, and that makes you more than two random people. Someone takes it easy, someome has to suffer. Move on, be patient and everyting will be fine

It's probably difficult to talk to an ex because it ended poorly, or even if it didn't, you just feel awkward after it ends.

because there are so many raw emotions that you had with that person and i believe if you truly love someone you will always still care for them regardless of what has happened.

Because we used to know them as our significant one but now they aren't significant anymore to us. And it makes everything awkward and strange.

When someone used to be a big and important part of your life, it can be difficult to share or open that part of you again after the relationship is over.

it's so hard to talk about an ex-lover because it just seems unnatural to talk about regular stuff when they still know so much about you, it's hard to treat an ex pretending nothing ever happened between you two.

Most of the time, when you are over someone or they have done you wrong. It is harder to reconnect with them. Especially after you have healed

It's hard to talk to them because there is a lot of painful memories and nostalgia left, and that can be triggering for a lot of people.

Feelings from the past begin to surface, and it may lead to unwanted emotional confusion, even if one felt perfectly fine minutes before the chat. Now, they may feel as though they need to re-enter the relationship, even if they felt previously content without the significant other.

I believe some people may find it hard, this could be because they are scared they may start catching feelings for their ex. Or, it could be the fact they caused you emotional scarring that you have not yet healed from.

I have no idea. I thing is like, we were so close to that person that when we break that connection is like everything is different. You cannot kiss his/her lips again, you are not dating You cannot tell him/her about your day, they don't care You cannot have sex with him/her again, you broke up. You cannot tell him/her about your worries, they don't care. If they broke our hear it is even worst. The person we loved more is hurted us. They broke our trust on them. I think is because we use to be so close to them that now we have no idea how to deal with the separation and our minds just tells us to avoid eachother until they are healled, but they are never fully recovered, so you never talk again

Built up frustration, hurt, anger. Self doubt. A lot of things play in to why it is so hard to muster words to those who hurt you or who you've hurt.

As a listener I see that you are wanting to open that box back up that you want to connect again. Maybe it’s hard to talk to them because you feel like they will use the knowledge that they have known of you against you maybe they’ll say things that hurt you because they know how to get to you or maybe it’s just really hard because you had that person in your life one time and you never truly let go so you still have that little little cherry seed in your heart for them

It is hard because you have a negative history, and many of the relationships didn’t end well. The negative history is always there and is easy to remember in the wrong times

As we do had a mutual relationship where we share personal lives of each other and since it is broken and the heart is like a rice becoming a porridge after being slit half or failed down then it will surely be hard to talk to them as it includes deep and hurting emotions

It is never physically hard to talk to anyone. Emotionally - Only if you hold emotional pressure: It might mean that you have some unresolved issues, you may want your ex to aknowledge the pain they caused, or the pain of break up. It is a very personal thing, but at the end of the day, if you want to talk to someone - just call them. Talking to people with an open mind solves ALL communication/interpersonal problems.

You two shared a connection that couldn’t be shared with just anybody. When that goes, there isn’t really anything to talk about. You loose that spark you both once had and now it’s like you’re strangers again.

I think it's hard because we always have some feeling there; whatever it is, something remains still

You may be remembering when you were with them and afraid it might be awkward to talk to them. Or maybe you are afraid they’ll think of you differently. Maybe you might be afraid people might think you’re trying to get back with them even if you aren’t. People are so judgemental these days that it seems hard to just be friends with anyone you want. If you’re having a hard time try talking to your friends or even a listener on here! It just takes time and courage to talk to them again Once you do start talking to them, don’t mentoon the breakup unless they do! Hope this helped!

Because it reminds you of all the good and bad times you had with them. If you are broken up with them, it is probably for the best, and talking with them may trigger unwanted or hurtful feelings. Whenever I try to talk to an ex, it feels like I am re-living the time when we are dating, and this can sometimes make me anxious. It also may be hard because either you or they have moved on, and you don’t want to have to think about the dating situation again. The worst part though, is if you’re not over them :(

It really depends on your previous relations with your ex and how it all ended , was it on good or bad terms , it makes a big difference in the end. Not all people have a hard time dealing with their former partners a lot of them stay in friendly relations after the brakeup.Those people who have a hard time talking with their ex are those people which relationships ended on a bad note , so there are still a lot of unresolved issues or some emotional scars/attachments that haven't yet been healed.To sum it all up some people have a hard time talking with their ex because they get reminded of their bad breakup conditions from their past!

Sometimes rejection or fear of further rejection can make talking to an ex so difficult. The sphere can cause us to avoid ex and even hypothetically answer for them without even speaking. Our minds and our thoughts get the best of us and prevents us from speaking to our ex. Also, the willingness to forgive is sometimes difficult to do. Is important to remember that forgiveness is not about our RX and what they have done to us but instead to allow ourselves to move on. When we forgive we free ourselves and sometimes opening up allows us the chance to talk to our ex.

Breakups are tough. Especially depending on age and how it ended. Relationships are intimate and you become vulnerable with that person. How do you talk to somebody after you opened up your heart, feelings, and possibly even body to? that’s a personal thing to do! Baring everything you got brings your emotional connection to another level. So, how can you talk to that person on the same level? You may still always love that person to some degree. There might always be some connection. Maybe it will be awkward because you gave it your all or you just know he/she saw you cry, saw you vulnerable physically/emotionally. It can also depend how you broke up. If it was a mutual break up it could ease the awkwardness but it may still make it hard to talk due to the fact that the next time you see he/she, you won’t be running into their arms for a kiss. In plain words, it just can be awkward due to the fact of your chemistry that became lost or anger of the person due to one thinking certain things or a bad breakup. Relationships are hard and the breakups that can follow are brutal. Your connection you had to that person you had/thought you had even, will always be there.

Many people find it hard to talk to their ex because they feel awkward. It is common that people will not want to talk to their ex boyfriend or girlfriend because they went through so much together and the it ended. It is totally fine to not talk to them because once you both thought you had a special chemistry with each other and now you both do not think that. You may not feel awkward, it might just be you two had an argument and fell out. Which is all normal and natural to feel between each other. Hope this helps

Flashbacks. When you look at them, you not only see their face but also your failed relationship, memories jamming your brain cells. You are also sometimes disappointed by the way they treat you, stripped off of all the affection ad love that used to be in his/her eyes. The reason and who called if off also matters. The nastier the break up, the harder it is to confront. Some people also feel guilty for breaking up, in that case talking becomes harder because throughout the conversation you would be more self conscious than ever, thinking whether your ex hates you, whether they want you back, are they irritated, etc making you run out of words.

It can be so tough talking to an ex because we are afraid of the unexpected! We are afraid of hurting ourselves again and possibly opening up to old habits. We are afraid of rejection or getting our feelings hurt. I think that being vulnerable in some situations can be a good thing, but can get us into trouble in others. I think it's important to establish boundaries and stick to them. Remember, the person that hurt you cannot be the person who fixes you! Stay strong in your beliefs and stick to your values. What's meant to be will be!

Talking to an ex can bring up all the past emotions we felt when we were with them, both positive and negative. Being in that emotional space makes us vulnerable. Feeling vulnerable can be healing, but it also leaves us open to feeling hurt again. If positive emotions come up, we might not know what to do with them. Do we try to be friends? Do we tried to find some closer together? How do I move on? Trying to answer these questions ourselves during a conversation with an ex can leave us confused. It’s okay to be confused and vulnerable, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate these interactions.