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Why is love so unfair?

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Last Updated: 03/05/2018 at 6:10am
Why is love so unfair?
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December 5th, 2014 5:22am
Love can sometimes be unfair, just like anything else in life. I had to go through a multitude of different relationship until I found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and I learned that love, like any relationship, isn't always 50/50. Sometimes, love is 60/40, or 70/30. People change throughout life, and sometimes we don't always know exactly what we want. Sometimes we feel like curling up in a ball and shutting out the world, whereas other times we just want to reach out and hug someone. Love is about understanding, and being there for the person you love even if they're not giving you their whole heart in that very moment. It's part of the human experience, and it's part of growing up. (:
December 5th, 2014 4:52am
Love is not unfair, the time is not appropriate. We all need love and companion to spend life together. We always look for someone to give our hearts with an expectation that someone will never break our hearts. When our expectations are broken, our lives fall apart. This love is conditional. But real love is unconditional. The truth of life is that we never know when someone enters in our lives and never go or someone enters in our lives to break our hearts. Those who promise more hurt more. Coincidence decides to whom you meet in life. Your heart and mind decide with whom you want to stay in life. But only destiny decides who gets to stay in your life. If someone is unfair to you, disrespect you and your feelings, then you don't deserve that person. Just let go. You will get a person you deserve the most. Be open, considerate and move on.
July 27th, 2015 10:24am
I do not think that love is unfair. It is the best thing in the world. However, people are. They make you fall, then leave you hanging. So let's not confuse ourselves. Love isn't unfair, people are.
December 30th, 2014 6:02pm
Love is unfair because sometimes the people we love, don't love us back. Love is an emotion and we cant force people to feel a certain way.
December 5th, 2014 2:43pm
Because it deals with hearts, not just the mind. The mind is rational and logical. The heart follows instinct. But to love with all your heart is the only way to love.
December 23rd, 2014 2:01pm
Well, love is love. You can't really control it. It takes time to find the right person. Just believe in yourself.
December 5th, 2014 9:22am
Everybody has different feelings. It is obvious that sometimes our feelings don't match with others. You shouldn't count that as unfair, it is just the way it always happens. Try to find someone who loves you for who you really are, that will make you understand that actually love is fair.
July 20th, 2015 8:09am
Why is life so unfair? Life is all about lessons that make us stronger individuals. Every obstacle in life is for us to gain knowledge about others and ourselves. Everything happens for a reason. What doesn't make sense today makes more sense tomorrow. Yes love can hurt and everyone who has truly loved someone has felt that pain. It does get better with time as time heals all wounds. Best of luck!
December 23rd, 2015 12:52pm
Love becomes so unfair when you love someone but never love you back. Love becomes so unfair when the love we gave just not enough for them. Love becomes so unfair when the person we love, love someone else. All of these are the reasons why love is so unfair. It's up to you if you will let yourself get hurt. Give yourself some respect and love before you pour out all of the things that builds you.
July 28th, 2015 2:03am
because love isn't always the same amount with both partners. it's because it's from the heart ,
November 9th, 2015 7:19pm
Because love is never enough. All sorts of other things come into making a relationship work - trust, a common goal, things you can do together, a good sex life. It's only when everything is in perfect balance that love will last.
December 22nd, 2015 4:58pm
Love if unfair because it brings pain, but it is also fair because it brings you closer to meeting someone you deserve the most.
August 1st, 2016 8:50am
Love is unfair because it requires us to get out of the mindset of putting ourselves first, and put the other person's needs and wants before our own.
December 8th, 2014 4:33pm
Love is not unfair. Love is just tricky, and you have to learn everything HE wants to show you in order to get to the "one".
December 18th, 2014 3:43pm
Love is a tricky thing. Its wonderful and amazing. But it is also nasty and mean. What makes it unfair is we have zero control over how others feel about us.
April 25th, 2015 11:58pm
Love can be wonderful, life affirming, and enriching to all of us, but without the low points, the high points become meaningless. Don't let the low points skew your view of love.
December 21st, 2015 3:52pm
Because not everyone is as big hearted as you may be people are all different and you need to find the person that you want to be better for not who wants you to be better.
September 21st, 2015 1:08pm
Ever heard that saying "Everyone can buy crystals, but the lucky one gets the diamond". That's how love is. Pretty rare, and when you do get it, it stays. And the people who fight for it really hard, it breaks. Just like the crystal does.
June 21st, 2016 7:13am
Love isn't unfair. It's the expectations arising out of it. We tend to expect a lot from the person we love. However, when they don't get fulfilled, it hurts us.
March 5th, 2018 6:10am
Sometimes, love is not what we expected to be. As in fairytales and movies. love is not always going to be as we want it to be. its just matter of finding the right person.
April 12th, 2016 5:43am
Love is not unfair, its just choices that people makes that makes love unfair. We are all entitled to feel and have love. But how we handle the love and use or show it is entirely up to us.
November 7th, 2016 4:57pm
Love is not unfair, it's this generation that doesn't actually understand what love. To them it's all drama about youngsters that need to fulfill their emotional and sexual demands. They simply make relationships to meet their growing wants which are triggered by running hormones. You need to find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated, and you should both understand how and what relationships are. Much love!x