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Will I ever find someone else to love me?

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Bellas2423
October 17th, 2018 8:18am
Of corse you will! things may look hopeless and pointless at this point in time but I promise someone will come around and love you for you! I really like quotes and I have one that I really think works for this question - you must make a decision to move on. It won't happen automatically. you will have to rise up and say, I dont care how hard this is, I dont care how disappointed I am. I won't let this be my life. I am going to move on with my life- this quote was posted anonymously but I think it is a great quote
avalongo2023
October 24th, 2018 9:15pm
Yes, everyone finds love in some way. It can be female, male or whatever. It can be short or forever, a summer fling. But once you find the one you will know, you will know that this person won't cheat or lie. Whether you get married or not or have kids doesn't matter. I don't know when you'll find that love of yours it could be at the first day of your life or your last. I believe in love at first sight, if you see them and you feel like you're a giddy teenager at there first dance. So yeah you'll find love and it might last a life time.... stay true to yourself.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2018 11:16pm
This was one of the hardest lessons I personally had to learn in my life. The only person that NEEDS to love you is you. If you continually work on loving yourself, taking care of your body: physically, mentally, and emotionally, then everything else will follow. You don't need to depend on anyone to love you if you love yourself. You'll generally be a happier person because you'll know your worth and then a person who will match your energy will find you. This was kind of a general question but yes, you will find someone who will love you...don't focus on that too much though. Focus on thriving on your own.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2018 9:18am
The answer to this question is always yes. Love, theoretically, is not rare. In fact, it is extremely and beautifully abundant and shows itself in a variety of ways. Ie: family, friends, significant others. To make a quote, "Man is a social animal". We cannot live comfortably without human connection. Combined with our primal need for relationships, here's a fun fact: there are approximately 7.3 billion people in this world. At least one person out of that big number will love you. However, I would advise that you don't forget about yourself. Self love is the most important of them all.
SerendipityStormracer
November 17th, 2018 6:55pm
Yes. Even if 99% of the world hates you, the one percent is made up of 745470000000 people. You'll find someone out there for you, and your family and friends love you and would definitely notice if you disappeared off the face of the earth. It's never too late to fall in love. When you meet the right person, who you know for sure you love, be it a guy, gal or nonbinary pal, fear becomes irrelevant, and everyone likes different things. Just because it seems like no one loves you doesn't mean no one loves you, be it as a friend or family member or lover. Don't let your want of romantic relationships hinder your formation of platonic relationships.
BritishListener
November 18th, 2018 1:40pm
Yes! and you already have! Friends, family, neighbours, internet friends, someone cares for you. To minimise to love to purely romantic is to miss out on the beautiful platonic relationships you already have. And to love yourself is more rewarding than it all combined. As for romantic love, i understand how difficult it is sometimes to be single, but in order to find the right person, you need to be the best you that you can be and happy being single, i truly believe that. So spend time treating yourself in the way you'd care for a partner, buy yourself presents, give compliments, watch films alone and appreciate your company. you're amazing.
anxiouslybeautiful2
December 13th, 2018 1:19am
Everyone is loved. Regardless of who they are. There will always be someone out there to love you. It will come in many shapes in sizes. Love is everywhere. I can assure you that there are so many people who love you right now. I love you. Strangers all around the world love you. You are great and you are worth everything. Never forget that. But why ask if you will ever find someone else to love you? That person will find you to love. They are out there looking for you right now. One day they will come. And it will be natural. Don't ever lose hope.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2019 11:56pm
Absolutely! The way you say someone 'else' sounds like that you've had someone who's loved you before. If it's happened in the past, that's solid proof that it's possible. And if it's possible, who's to say it won't happen again? Life can change in an instant, you could meet the right person tomorrow and instantly know they're the one. Or, more likely, you'll form a close relationship over time that's built on trust and affection. The point is that (I believe at least) there is someone out there for everyone. I know, kinda cliche, but hear me out. There are literally billions of people living on this earth, and everyone has their own unique personalities, and chances are that you'll find someone whose traits match or complement your own. Don't give up, but don't rush or try to force something that you don't feel just for the sake of feeling affection.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2019 11:23pm
Yes, you will. Always, in one part of the world one person is waiting for you. And you family loves you unconditionally. So be happy, the loves makes the world spin. Everything is gonna be alright, i know it seems hard right now, seems like nobody loves you or like you, But sometimes the right person is in front on you and you don't even notice. I hope you see soon that you're special, you are important. you are loved, you are a really great person and you can do great things. Have a nice day, i hope my words can help you a little bit.
NordligSno
January 10th, 2019 3:41pm
Of course you will! There are 7.7 Billion people in this world (2019). From that, you can only assume how many kinds of personalities, appearances, and more there are out there waiting for you. All you have to do is be patient about it. Because the more you rush feelings or a relationship, the stronger the chance is that it'll be wrong for you, that you end up in something abusive and more. In the meanwhile, you can focus on yourself. Show yourself self-care, get any potential help you might need and make sure your future is as bright as possible. (This is more for you than it is for them) My point is, don't lose hope. You'll find someone eventually. :) I believe in you.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2019 9:09pm
Of course, you will. You are a very strong person who has a kind heart and a great personality. Someone who will appreciate you for who you are and what you do will come to your life and make you feel all warm inside. That person will love you forever. Every heartbreak leads to the person who is meant to be with you and cherish you. Just keep your chin up and look on the bright side to everything. The right person will be there soon, and you will be happy with them. Just wait a bit longer. Patience
Anonymous
February 9th, 2019 7:25pm
I am a firm believer in the fact that everyone has someone out there for them. I've been single my whole life and i know its because i havent found the one and people can be cruel. When you are down or suffer mental illness it can be really difficult to find self-worth and when you dont respect or love yourself you can let others off with behaviour that is disgusting and not the way anyone should be treated. Someone was created for each person on the earth and there is no rush to find the one for you.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2019 5:15pm
Well, that is a very tough question to answer. What I can tell you is that if you love people in return they will love you back. I would say don't go around looking for love but allow love to find you. Be nice and kind to everyone and you never know if one of those people you are being kind to want be your future lover or spouse. Love is every where the problem is that we can not always see it because we allow other distractions to get in our way and it prevents us from finding love. I hope and pray that you find the love of your desires in your heart.
handyhippie65
March 29th, 2019 7:58am
You wonder if you will ever find another to love you, and be loved in return. This is normal. We morn for the loss, and wonder if we are deserving of love again. Know that everyone is deserving of love and companionship, and if you remain open and caring, you will surely find it again. Love usually comes when we least expect it. Think of how it found you last time. Did you seek it out? Were you actively hunting for your mate? Or did the universe bring it to you? Think of places that you can meet like minded people. Put yourself out there, and when you are ready, you will find it again. Trust yourself.
chillGrace14
April 28th, 2019 3:11am
The short answer is yes. Sometimes, relationships don't work out. Sometimes you even pour all you have into loving a person and they seem to not want that love back. If you love them and they don't love you back, then they don't deserve you. But there is hope. Someone is out there that appreciates your love. Some people aren't meant for romantic love, and that may or may not be you. If you are, then your person is out there. I promise. If you aren't, then there are still people to love you. Find a family member you're close to or a best friend and pour into them instead. If they're the one, then they'll pour right back into you.
rxgdxll
May 1st, 2019 3:29am
Yes you will. I understand how you feel with this question because I’ve been in your exact spot before myself. I went through countless relationship because when I was single, it didn’t feel like someone loved me. And I simply wanted that love. But don’t force it. Let a relationship go at its own pace when you find someone. It may start out a simple friendship or it may start with you both flirting and progress to more. But don’t rush anything. Or expect the very first person you come to be the perfect person for you. Nothing is ever perfect on the first try.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2019 1:10pm
Everyone has someone out there that was made just for them so yes I believe someone else will love you. There are like 7 billion people out there. I guarantee there are soo many people out there who can love and support you. There is someone out there who needs you just as much as you need them. You might have met them once, maybe you won't meet them for a while or maybe they are your best friend whoever they are they are waiting for you just like you are waiting for them. You just need to hold on a little longer and stay strong because I promise they are out there
Kimowp52
June 26th, 2019 10:20am
My mother always told me that you fall in love at least three times in your life once when your first-born you fall in love with your parent again sometimes within the middle of your life and if that doesn't succeed you got another try always believe that you can fall in love various time and there will always be someone to love you so yes you will find someone who loves you and you mean not know it at first but love is found in the most unexpected places just don't push yours let it happen naturally good luck
sweetnsoft
August 2nd, 2019 9:53pm
Love is complicated. Sometimes you seek it out, other times you trip and dive headfirst into it. There are many people who may admire you, even ones you might not expect. It's normal to be unsure at first. I fell in love with my now girlfriend a few months ago, it started off a a simple crush but I found the courage to ask her, and it turned out that she returned those feelings. Of course, this may not happen to everyone, but love can blossom from the smallest things. It's alright if you feel lost or skeptical at the moment.
hope786
August 8th, 2019 12:00am
Of course you will. It may take longer for different people but in the end you will get there! You may feel otherwise and down but remember there are many many people out there, some whom feel the same way you do. I understand that it may be upsetting and frustrating but in the end you will find someone as a result of your commitment. Feeling this way is very normal but never forget that there are many people who love you without you knowing. So don't worry! If this feeling continues feel free to talk to one of our friendly listeners. :)
SoulfulButterfly
August 22nd, 2019 9:35am
Yes, you will. When my first relationship ended, I didn't think I'd never find someone else to love me, but I did. It wasn't always long term, but the love was there and it helped me realise that there are multiple people out there who will love me. There are also multiple people out there who will love you. You just need to be patient and give it time. Rome wasn't built in a day, and you won't find love in day. While you wait for someone else to love you, don't forget about all the amazing people in your life that already love you (even if it's not in the way you want).
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2019 11:01am
You will. There are so many people on this world. There will be someone who loves you for you. Treasure you for your smiles and your love. If someone left they weren't the right person for you. Something better is coming. After my heartbreak I took it hard. But I realised I would have lost myself being with that person. It happened for a reason. I learnt things, I made memories. But that wasn't the right person. I will be with someone born for me. Love is endless. The right person will come along one day just have to wait.
AmethystRayne96
September 25th, 2019 4:14am
Yes, you will find someone else to love you. Sometimes after we have loved someone and something comes in between the relationship, we feel that there may be no one else out there that loves us the same way. There is most certainly someone else out there for you, and you will find your way to each other. It is totally normal to feel this way, and I have been there myself in the past. Just remember, you are not un-lovable. The right person is out there, and they may even be wondering the same thing that you are.
ZR07
October 12th, 2019 11:49am
You will find love it just takes a while sometimes you know see it as a journey you rise and you fall but as long as you stand back up you will reach the end of that journey and at the end of that journey you will find what your looking for 😊you really will. And he/she will be perfect for you and only for you. The longer you have to wait the more amazing he/she will be. Just never give up, always stand back up cause he's/she's out there waiting for you and that person is also looking for you. Remember that😊 keep strong, keep fighting and never give up cause you'll find what your looking for.
MsKendra
October 24th, 2019 8:18pm
Loneliness can be incredibly debilitating. I've found it to be a heavy pressure that is hard to find the light in. When I have wondered if someone will ever love me, I used to think that meant I needed to find someone to love me. I don't think that anymore. When I feel lonely and find myself wondering if someone else will ever love me, I use that thought as a reminder that I need more self-love. It's my own love for me that is lacking when I start to feel deeply isolated, lonely or unlovable. I do things that are loving toward me. That could be pampering, taking a bath or painting my nails. It could be taking a stand for myself with someone else and being assertive, and that shows me more self-love. I value myself and the breath I am taking and the deep lonely feeling fades away.
Yourlifeisworthy
October 24th, 2019 9:57pm
You will! I'm sure of that, but that's not as important as loving yourself, if you love your self first of all, you will be able to identify more easy unhealthy realtionship/friendship and run away from it. You won't have to do so much effort to love someone if you love first. You will know exactly what you want in all your relations (romantic or friend type) and what you don't want at all, what you deserve, what sacrifices are you be able/willing to make, what things you can bear and how much support you can give. Also, you know your boundaries and know how to talk about them in an assertive way with other people. And the most important thing, you won't never feel lonely again because you always have yourself, you are the only person that will be you all the time and never be apart, so if you are be able of become your best friend, you won't need anybody else, you will choose them to walk with you through the life path but you will know they are free to change their path and not accompany you anymore and that's okay, some person will walk you forever but even your love partner can choose other path away from you (or the life can choose it for him/her) and you will be okay
Anonymous
November 13th, 2019 11:53pm
Time will tell. Love isn't always the answer. Who knows? Somebody you like may like you to? And Yes, you will find someone. Someone very special. If you have a crush, put yourself out there no matter how shy you are. Take the chance and the worst thing that will happen is a 'no'. Stay strong is my ego. I may not be strong but I love myself for who I am. Love yourself for who you are. You'll love someone for who they are, not how hot or attractive they are. That is true love. Love takes time and patience
Wannahelp1319
November 14th, 2019 6:52pm
Yes I guess we can. There is no time and age for love to happen. I feel if you still fee that you have not found a right person who really loves you and cares for you then I guess you still have a chance. Life is full of surprises and we really don’t know what's gonna happen with us tomorrow. So I guess there is still hope that we can still find someone else to love you. We should always be positive and then only positive things will happen with us. So lets just keep our fingers crossed and wait.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2019 5:51am
There are many people out there who probably love you right now. Not all love has to come from a partner. The love of friends can be just as, if not more fulfilling than the love of a partner. But to the point of finding love with a partner, don't force anything. Love comes naturally, and often where we least expect it. Live your life to the fullest, find love yourself in small things, and when you do meet that person with whom things click, you'll know it. Love will always find someone more than once, you just have to be willing to see it, and accept it, without forcing it.
BrotherK999
January 15th, 2020 4:42am
Yeah definitely, just cause it didn’t work out with someone doesn’t mean u won’t find the perfect person, trust me the right one for you is out there and there looking for you too just don’t give up hope and be yourself there’s over 7 billion people in this word just cause one or two relationships didn’t work doesn’t mean that any other one won’t work either you just gotta find someone that you can be yourself with and that you can share memories and have a good time with and I believe in your and your journey, good luck