All of my friends make fun of me all the time, and brush it off as a joke even when I'm visibly upset, and I don't have the courage to tell them to stop. What should I do?
Last Updated: 04/06/2021 at 12:39am
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
Life can be messy. Sometimes you need a little support to make your way through it. I love to help guide people through their challenges & to find the beauty in our messes.
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Are they truly your friend/s when they make fun of you and ignore your suffering? Sometimes we hold onto people for fear of being by ourselves. It is ok to be alone, that does not mean you are lonely. You can read, play a game, draw, go for a walk, watch a show, make cookies, do a puzzle, call your mom/dad/granny or even become a listener on 7Cups to help someone else find the strength to let go of things which cause more pain that joy. So, do you need to tell your friends they really aren't friends. That is up to you. Sometimes, there is power in silence and walking away from things that don't bring you happiness. You get to decide how you want to do this. Sending you some smiles and fortitude. You are pretty awesome!
Believe it or not, THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. There are a lot of people who want ot be your friend, who are actually kind, and who respect you. In every relation, the most important thing is RESPECT. Be it friends, Family, Lover, Wife or anyone. If someone can't respect you, they can't certainly love you. They will keep treating you like a punching bag. Be careful with those "FRIENDS".
Sometimes people aren't so great at picking up on body language and nonverbal cues, even if we think we're being obvious about something. I know it's scary to confront people about rude behavior (or at all, sometimes!), so, when you're feeling calm and confident (generally not right after they've made fun of you), let them know that what they say and do upsets you because you feel they don't respect you. If they're really your friends, they'll listen to what you have to say and take a step back so they can think about their behavior. If they continue to make fun of you, it may be time to look for other people you can spend your time with.
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