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Am I weak, if I choose not to stand up for myself and just walk away?

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Last Updated: 07/27/2020 at 4:30am
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CalmRosebud
May 26th, 2020 11:57am
No, this is an ancient practice of defense by acceptance and becoming soft, called tae kwon doe. It's an ancient martial art which has to do with becoming soft when the opponent expects resistance. It has to do with faith that there is room in the universe for both the opponents forceful attack, and your withdrawal into a different reality. Yes, there are times when one must stand up for oneself and it's important for pride to take a stance. But pride can sometimes conflict with an important piece, self-preservation, and one must preserve oneself at all cost, even to pride. One can be proud to be alive, to persist, to survive, to thrive.
redemptionblue17
July 27th, 2020 4:30am
What's the definition of weak itself for you? you are "defined" weak by that, if you think that way. But what if we have another perspective to view on? what's the reason you walk away? is it to run away? then no problem, it's also a coping mechanism for your own mind and feelings. remember, mind-body are connected one to another. People can't just deal with the problems by keep slogging on them. Sometimes they even need to get free from all of people, and be by your own. I believe you have the strength, but many times swayed but people or events outside. All you have to believe, is that you're full of inner resource, and try to do what you think it's better. Cheers!
DipityEnigma
June 6th, 2015 12:48am
No. If anything, it's noble and mature. Nobody would think badly of you for choosing to be the bigger person, at least nobody that's mature enough.
gentleDreamer72
December 29th, 2015 2:59pm
Absolutely not. Just walking away takes as much strength as standing up for yourself. Sometimes walking away can be a form of standing up for yourself--by showing the other person that you aren't going to stand there and let yourself be treated that way.
SilentJade
January 25th, 2016 4:41pm
No. Being "weak" doesn't mean you walk away from a problem. It just means you're too strong to sink to the other person's level! Keep doing what you're ute doing, and if they try to start something, just tell them that you're not going to sink to their pathetic level! Hope this helps! :)
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 4:59am
No. You are simply being the better person. If anything, someone who has control over their actions, and is mature and smart enough to walk away, is the stronger one.
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 6:27pm
Walking away sometimes takes more strength than fighting back. But sometimes standing up for yourself takes courage. Consider why you walk away.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 5:05pm
Yes you're. You're really are. Believe me. It's very important think to walk way. Try to do it.....
Reddy
July 5th, 2016 2:41am
Sometimes Walking away IS standing up for yourself - we dont always need to enter a confrontation - if we close not to and choose to walk away from a potentially confrontational situation standing up for yourself IS being the bigger person and walking way.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 3:26am
I think it's weak to argue or walk away from a situation. If you argue with a weak mind.. you become weak. However, if you do not stand up for yourself and you walk away. You may be perceived as it's a sign of low self esteem.
Anonymous
November 1st, 2016 7:04am
Sometimes walking away is the strongest choice - not every situation/attack requires a response. For example, many anti-bullying instructions suggest ignoring the bullying at first as the most efficient strategy since the bully is first and foremost hungry for a reaction. But if bullying is affecting a person's life in a noticeable way, is continuous and causes distress, then standing up for oneself is often recommended. As well as seeking out help, which is also one of the strongest choices since it can be very hard to ask for help.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2017 4:46am
No, in fact, it is very strong to get out of the situation and be the bigger person. Ignoring someone who is tearing you down can cause them to become bored with you and they will most likely leave you alone. However, if they are spreading false information about you, you may need to tell someone so it can stop. Whatever it is though, never believe what they are saying. If they have the audacity to make you feel bad about yourself, then they are not someone who's opinion is worth valuing.
latticinio
December 4th, 2017 1:28pm
It depends on the situation. If you believe walking away would be you being the bigger person, you should. Especially if it's something immature. If anything, if the problem continues, let a parent, teacher or someone you trust know.
Maxinchen
February 6th, 2018 6:11pm
Not necessarily. Ignorance can be really strong. Bullies for example might stop because it becomes boring.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 10:14pm
That can be a debated question. I was always told that walking away from a problem can make you a bigger person, but if you don't stand up for yourself sometimes-it can turn out badly. I would never say you are weak. You are strong, you can do it.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2020 3:08pm
Sometimes not standing up for yourself doesn't make you weak it's just a smart move taken by you. Ignoring others acts and words is the smartest way in handling the situation at times because at the end your smile, happiness and the way you do not show any fear of them would be a sign of strength to them and your strength would be there fear at the end. But if it's excess of bullying and torturing then grow the strength inside you to stand up for yourself. It might be hard but remember it's your life not others to rule so live it and face it because you got only one chance. Never think that you can't or why didn't you because no matter what anyone can be a master they just have to find the strength within them to achieve it.