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As a mom of a bullied child, how much do you get directly involved in helping him fight against bullying?

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Last Updated: 01/05/2021 at 1:20pm
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January 26th, 2015 7:39pm
Contact the school and make sure they know what is going on and who is involved in the bullying. Contact the parents of the children doing the bullying and make sure they know what is going on.
April 10th, 2015 6:14pm
Don't speak with the bullies. Speak with the child and than ask him/her if it's okay that you go to the director/teacher or smth. Maybe ask a friend of the child if he can stand as a bystander.
June 3rd, 2015 9:02pm
Be proactive with the schools, with the bully's parents, teaching your child how to overlook how the bully is acting and how to be the bigger person.
August 16th, 2015 1:03pm
Teach him how to stand up for himself and be strong, because they are trying to bring him down, but if you teach him how to sand up for himself, this will never happen
August 31st, 2015 8:03pm
As an elder sister to a child that is being bullied, I can empathize with the want to be directly involved 100%. Unfortunately, that isn't necessarily an option. I just try to always remind my sister how much she is loved, supported, worthy, and wanted. While often times you can be a voice for them and try to reach out to other adults that may be able to mediate the situation in other environments, it is also very important that the child knows they are loved despite what the "bullies" may be saying.
September 15th, 2015 3:11am
My dad came to the school when I was being bullied to speak with the principal. If he hadn't done that, the girl who was causing me strife would have made some very bad decisions that may have resulted in a lot of further problems, even death. If it doesn't seem serious enough to be a dire issue like that, then I would still advise to check up on him and his environment from time to time without being too intrusive. However, if it seems worrysome, do not hesitate to get involved as soon and as often as possible. As a former victim, my heart goes out to you both and I wish you the best of luck!
February 23rd, 2016 7:03pm
Sadly, from my experience, getting directly involved ussually ends up with intensified bullying, I would recommend working on his ability to fight it and self esteem
July 11th, 2016 1:55pm
How about trying to contact the bullies parents or guardians and letting them know how they're treating your child? If not, you can always go to school officials or try and talk to the bullies themselves.
March 27th, 2017 8:18pm
You should be there always, help them how much you can. Help her/him find her/his inner love, remind him/her of the things that make him/her beautiful.
April 4th, 2017 4:22pm
i will lend him a listening ear & teach him the proper way of handling such situation & tell him how much all of us care.
July 11th, 2017 5:49pm
As much as is safe as possible before it gets too out of hand. Sometimes the support of others is what they need most.
September 19th, 2017 5:35pm
I found it good that my mam just watched a bit a first and then went to school to see my teachers, I was always to scared to tell anyone but once my mam went in I found a teacher to help me and it was all better, bullying isn't a thing the child can do anything about really so I'd say get very involved
January 5th, 2021 1:20pm
As parent it is really is hard to hear about your child getting bullied. If it's happening at a school then I think approaching school management would be a good start. If it is outside of a school you could try to talking to the other child's parent or provide your child tips to stand up for themselves. Standing up for yourself is as simple as not tolerating the bullying and telling the bully to stop. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they feel are easy targets. So by teaching your child to firmly tell the bully to stop.