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Everyone in school thinks I am bitter. How can I change their minds?

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Last Updated: 04/09/2020 at 1:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 1:52pm
By taking some initiative, telling a few jokes or even just smiling or waving when someone greets you. Don't go over the top, it's the little things that make it.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 8:39am
truelistener481
September 2nd, 2016 8:01am
Talk to people and be more social, participate more in social events and show kind gestures as well as not doing anything that will ruin your self image
Quadzii
September 3rd, 2016 4:23am
Don't bother! Maybe instead, take stock of how you feel and why. It's okay to feel bitter, but it might be worth investigating. Perhaps it might be safest to remove yourself from others who make you feel judged or less than you are. You don't need the extra strain.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:58am
Show them how thankful and grateful for your life and the things around you by smiling compliment others.
FeelFreeToASK
September 9th, 2016 6:43pm
Thinking is something which people will never stop. Don't care about what people will think. Just be the real you. If you have any bad habits then it is suggested you leave them behind. Be good to others and they will be good to you..
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 8:03am
Have a positive outlook throughout. Smile and help out. The more positive you are, the more positive vibes you'll send out. Eventually, people shall notice.
Redtiger01
September 17th, 2016 6:39pm
Do something not bitter :D Show them that you are not bitter, but warm, open and kind. Even simple things like smiling and saying hi to someone show that you're a great person.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 2:39pm
Just don't be bitter. Here, it's a concept of actions speak louder than words. You can tell them over and over that you aren't bitter, but if you are, then they won't believe you. Even if you just aren't being bitter and they don't believe you, you have to know for yourself that you aren't....once you get it for yourself, their opinions matter less and less....
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 5:05pm
You can't change anyone else's mind. . . Only our own. In this case, you have tons of options!! From stopping caring what they think to deciding to change how you present yourself. No matter what you decide know that other's still have the right to choose how they think about you and sometimes that has nothing to do with you at all.
RaquelToby
October 3rd, 2016 10:06pm
Sometimes it is impossible to change their minds. It is easier to change yours. I became seemingly less bitter to others when i started smiling a little and being aware of how you treat others helps ease the process.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 6:50pm
Dont be yourself and people will understand they may not understand why your like this so try to talk to people
BaileyjadeLacey
October 12th, 2016 4:45pm
You can't. Society is very cruel. Just be yourself and if people don't like you that's there choice. There will always be someone that likes you.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 1:08pm
Have they given a reason for why you are bitter? If so, change their minds. Do the opposite of what their telling you that you do.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:26pm
By not passing sarcastic comments or taunts. Though those are bitter truth, but there are certain ways to let people know the actual truth.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2016 6:34pm
If everyone thinks you're a fool, you may be a fool. Be the change you want, stop try to change peoples arround you.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2016 7:19am
It's easy to get caught up in what other people think, and not so easy to rise above it. Changing their minds isn't what's really important it's how you feel about what they think; if you know you're not a bitter person and are comfortable with that what they think doesn't matter. Eventually they will see what you see!
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 10:20pm
You do not have to change anyone's mind. The only mind you have to change is yours, because when there is no self love, you can't get love from others too.
caringPeace14
December 8th, 2016 1:00pm
Perhaps try being kind and listen to others. Empathy is a valuable trait to own. You got this! If it is perhaps because of something else, we are always here to help you.
HopieRemi
December 9th, 2016 1:23am
I am sorry to hear that people find you bitter. Sadly, It's sometimes impossible to change anyone's minds. Have you asked yourself why they might think this ?
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 3:12pm
Show them that you're not by doing good stuffs. Don't act selfish and be kind to someone. Give someone a compliment and make them feel good.
PeacefulWinds
February 16th, 2017 4:58am
Prove to them how sweet you really are. People judge a book on it's cover and they often do for people as well. Sure, it's easy for people to say to smile more, but I think what's really powerful is to show people you are more than just what they see.
LittleOleUs
February 24th, 2017 4:24am
Begin expressing kindness. The one way you can show people you're not bitter is by proving it. Help them with their work, hold open doors for people, compliment them - even a little can go a long way.
Relaxedflower93
March 5th, 2017 3:56pm
There must be a reason that everyone thinks that you are bitter. How do you act when you are in school? Be more open and sociable with people, walk with a smile and your head up high. If someone says hello, say hello back. Ask people how their day is.
Fwalk4
March 10th, 2017 8:40pm
Just because people have a vision of you does not mean everyone thinks this. If you lash out maybe you have unsolved problems you did not know about. Try smiling in the hallways and being showing kindness towards all. At the end of the day do not care what others think.
That3one4Anime5friend
March 15th, 2017 4:32am
Don't force them but try and be compassionate to them. Be nice and kind help them in any way of possinle
Anonymous
March 19th, 2017 1:34am
Try to reflect on why they might think this. Maybe your thoughts and opinions aren't quite bitter but the way you come across while expressing these things is what puts others off. It is important to remember others feelings when we speak. If you have insulted others I would start by apologizing sincerely. Try to be more lighthearted and maybe engage conversation with others and show them that you are interested in their opinions as much as yours!
MalieMist
April 2nd, 2017 4:09am
i know i have a face that turns everyone away. if you do, too, try to change it. if someone looks at you, smile a bit. and most importantly, just show them. it's not very hard, all you have to do is show them how nice you can be and instead of just staring at someone try to make small talk or bring up some conversation.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2017 7:05pm
By opening up a little, and trying to have a more positive attitude toward classmates. Specially communicating with individuals who believe you are bitter and telling them may be helpful in changing their mind.
politeBike14
June 8th, 2017 9:55am
You can try to perform random daily acts of kindness, such as holding the door for someone and smiling at them at the same time, or try to help people when you notice that they need help. In time, you are going to see that these acts of kindness are going to change the way people think about you.