Everyone in school thinks I am bitter. How can I change their minds?
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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 2:28pm
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First of all, don't live based off on people's opinions of you. Do you think you're bitter. If yes, then that's when you'll need to do something.
First, I think you should try to keep a relaxed face, if you don't like smiling. Let your guard down a little, don't just build walls around yourself. Try to be more approachable. Let people feel like they can actually talk to you.
Smile more. Don't force it. Just try to make yourself happy most of the time, think good thoughts, and you'll be smiling a lot.
This is all my opinion though
If that's what they think then that is their fault, they don't know you well enough to actually think that about you and to be able to have a good opinion of you that's true, you don't have to change yourself for people, and especially if they are being toxic to you. To help this and change people's minds find good friends that will accept you for who you are and don't think that about you. If you think about all the negative things that are said to you then think about all the positive in your life. Remember you are worth way more than what people tell you you are. :)
Be kind and open-minded to why they think you are bitter. Ask questions and don't try to defend yourself, just listen to what they have to say and then just smile and thank them. This will allow others to see the true you as a caring and calm person. Also maybe try to stay kind by doing good things for them and not being rude(if they think you may be being rude) about a situation. Just stay calm and move on, don't let what others think to affect you. If you let it affect you, you might come off as bitter.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2022 6:30pm
That sounds upsetting. You're not bitter, they probably just don't know you that well. Smiling always helps me when I feel like the people around me are judging me. I understand how frustrating worrying about what other people think can be. Just remember you are the best version of yourself and the people that know you love you.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2022 12:49am
Dont let anyone decide who you are, you are the author of your own story
Don’t you listen to all that foolish words. You should only listen to your heartbeat and your love to your life you have a heart to learn how you can learn your own skills to be your best life you are and all your own skills you love 💕 and you can learn to do that life skills skills learn more about how your own is and how to do that you can better take care of yourself too much and then go back to school again soon and you will
Anonymous
June 11th, 2022 2:28pm
Changing someone's mind isn't as easy as you may think. They may think that you are bitter because of how you present yourself. Do you act a certain way or speak to people in a way that may make you seem bitter?
Some things to try are moderating your behavior to make you a better person. Be kinder, be different. Based on the question, I bet you'd rather be seen as a different person than a bitter person.
Moderating your behavior can create positive habits, too. It could also help you meet new people.
Hope this helped, take care!!
Good luck.
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