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How can a person understand their true value when they are being bullied?

21 Answers
Last Updated: 08/06/2018 at 5:20pm
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Top Rated Answers
April 6th, 2015 6:27am
When a peraon is bullied by no matter who, there must be a fire within the person. Let the ignited fire come out through your creativity, your hobbies and your work. That is the best. Instead of replying others, build yourself.
April 19th, 2015 4:17pm
By realizing that the ones who depends on bullying to communicate with their world does not know the most basic and simple ways of enjoying healthy relationships. They are the ones who suffer. They are the lonely ones. They are the ones in need of help.
April 3rd, 2018 4:35pm
Tell them that people who drag you down can never determine your true worth as a person. No one ever should be able to tell what your worth is as a human. Except for you.
January 11th, 2015 11:34pm
I think, most importantly, we all have to realise the kind of person we truly are. Not just when you are being bullied, but for everybody. When you are experiencing bully, it is very normal to feel low, down and out - like you can never do anything right because of the way you are being treated. They want you to believe that you are worth nothing, when that is definitely not the case. I find that the victims of bullying are the nicest people around. And I think the most effective way is to talk to a trusted person or people, and talk about your feelings and find support from them.
May 22nd, 2015 5:27pm
Focus on the things that are going on when you're not being bullied. Your value doesn't depend on what the bully says, but how others feel about what you do either for them or just in general.
June 22nd, 2015 5:42pm
I think they should hold on to the people, who love them (family for example). Everyone should take just a minute to look in the mirror, tell themselves, that they survived so much in life, and that they are strong enough to survive this. You are so much more than someone who bullies you. You got this.
November 9th, 2015 5:26pm
Being bullied can often make you feel worthless and make you underestimate yourself. Remember all of the things that you are good at and the things that you enjoy. The bullies cannot take those things away from you! Remember to be happy and proud of who you are! You are stronger than you think!
December 28th, 2015 5:55pm
Standing up for yourself is the most powerful thing you can do because it will increase your confidence which will help you deal with similar situations
August 15th, 2016 4:46am
Ignore the bully. Be true to themselfs. They are the bigger person and they are beautiful. Don't let people get them down
October 11th, 2016 2:21pm
By stop comparing themselves with others and try not to think about the people who bully you or for what they bully you . People who bully are weak .
October 17th, 2016 7:13am
Just remember that you are you, and no matter what they say, it is possible that they can get bullied too. So they are just doing it to you, but it doesn't mean they are anything better. You do you :)
February 27th, 2017 9:49pm
Being bullied is never a great situation to be in. It can take a mental and sometimes a physical toll on somebody and that is obviously not good. In my personal experience, it took me realizing that the things they said were not true to feel any better about myself. I had to stop and take a few moments to really think about what they say and then compare it to who I truly was, not who I thought I was. If you value what a bully says, you are less likely to value yourself because what they say, while not necessarily being true, is generally to make you feel less valuable. I hope this helps in some way.
March 6th, 2017 1:32pm
Surround yourself with and spend time with people supportive of you, write down the things you are good at doing, that you love to do, read that once in a while , practice positive self talk consistently, efforts like these make you feel your true value, your worth, your capability,
April 18th, 2017 3:33pm
The true value or who you are is not defined by others. Being bullied is just one occurrence that happens in your life. Don't view it as yourself being weak or faulty. Take the right action to tell the right person about it to deal. Then be confident in yourself. Search what's good about yourself and appreciate it. Once you are happy about yourself, others will see and no one can bring you down.
September 5th, 2017 3:12pm
When they realize that its not them who are namecalling people randomly and the fact theyre not sending a straight punch into their face. For there is no greater strength than showing restraint.
September 25th, 2017 11:17pm
It can be easy to get discouraged by bullies. One thing you can do is think about your life goals. Think about how you are going to accomplish them and all the great personality traits and strengths that you have that will help you get there. Try your best to do something you are good at every day for a little confidence boost!
December 12th, 2017 7:24pm
We get to test our resilience and restraint , and also we get to know our confidence levels and the value we have for ourselves while dealing with bullies.
January 30th, 2018 2:10am
Tell them how strong they are, for enduring that amount of pain everyday and not giving up. Tell them they are really strong
February 20th, 2018 1:43am
once you understand that the bully is the one hurting most. you have to realize that you're beautiful, and these words hurt but they are just words which probably sounds hard
April 3rd, 2018 9:36pm
I think they can understand their value by knowing that the bullie's opinion doesn't matter. What their loved ones say is the only thing that should matter.
August 6th, 2018 5:20pm
Believing in yourself when no one does ignoring the bullies because they need help and have problems