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How can I cope with emotional bullying?

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Last Updated: 06/24/2019 at 7:11pm
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serene63
March 15th, 2016 10:37pm
seek professional advice on this one or it could turn into depression and that is not needed try you local dr first
Amelia95
January 17th, 2015 3:27pm
Emotional bullying tends to be one of the most difficult things to deal with, especially in young people. When you are being bullied emotionally it can be difficult to see past what the bullies are saying. The way I learned to deal with it was to remember that only I have the right to make judgements about myself, and as difficult as it may seem, only you can decide whether or not to believe what you are being told by the bullies. If you are struggling with this please consider talking to someone about it, and possibly getting help from a professional, particularly if it is effecting you on a serious level. Please take care xx
youmatter
February 5th, 2015 7:23pm
Talking to someone is always helpful. Most of the time the best kind of help is just having someone there to listen to how you feel. Find someone who has been in your shoes and discuss how you are feeling.
JessInTechnicolour
March 22nd, 2015 10:45pm
This can be very difficult, but identifying that it is happening in the first place is the start of taking control. No one should have to cope with emotional bullying. Instead, focus on removing yourself from the situation or working with the abuser to halt this behaviour. Be strong and know that you are not at fault. You do not have to be a victim.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2015 8:23am
By trusting in yourself without carry on someone else's opinion of you, because just as you are, you're awesome and the way you want to live your life it's always the suited for yourself.
Molentra
August 24th, 2015 7:26am
Support. That was what got me through it. I lost all of my friends from bullying, but I got lots of support from my parents and extended family. If you can't get support from your family, reach out to others. I found Girl Guides to be a good outlet that allowed me to make friends with some really great people.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 10:41pm
Please don't feel that you have to 'cope', please speak to a professional who is qualified to help you or to somebody you trust. Emotional bullying is no different to physical bullying and you deserve to be happy. Stay positive.
mariadarling
November 10th, 2015 8:05pm
You can definitely talk to a counselor or just to a friend/family member you can trust. or you can certainly talk to me. Just remember whatever is putting you down will come to an end. Be positive about yourself and keep in mind that there is always someone you can talk to.
Flapperson
February 2nd, 2016 7:50am
One way would be to cry. You'll feel a lot better after a good cry especially if you've been holding it in.
brightNatural77
October 17th, 2016 11:45pm
By telling myself that I am beautiful and it doesn't matter what others say. I will tell myself that I am worth so much more than their words.
MeghanSmiley
October 25th, 2016 9:10am
Emotional bullying is hard to cope with, especially if the bully is present in your everyday life. I personally struggle with my mom because she can be an emotional bully. Realizing that what she said was a reflection of herself and /not/ of myself helped me out, big time. After I started realizing that the only person that her actions (and words) represent is herself, coping became easier. Next, I learned to not reinforce emotional bullying by letting her get away with saying mean things without having to apologize before we spoke again. I came to terms with that, if someone loves you in a healthy way, they will want to not hurt you and apologize if they did. I thought that our relationship was normal - it's not! Emotional abusers often want you to think that it's normal, and they'll /demand/ love, affection, and a relationship, and will often guilt you into thinking that all of those things are their right to have. People who practice healthy love do not demand that you trust them, respect them, or love them. This logic is absurd. You can't demand feelings of others; they have to be earned. After this realization, I began avoiding situations where emotional bullying could occur and replaced a toxic relationship with a few healthy ones. There are many ways to cope, but the end goal is to avoid completely if the person is toxic.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2017 8:31pm
I dont think anyone can or should cope with emotional bullying. If you can take this to any superiors please do. The bullies should be removed, if that is not possible, change work or school or home enviorment.
CherryBlossom360
June 24th, 2019 7:11pm
There are two things that you can do to help cope or rise above emotional bullies and bullying: ignore it or stand up to it. Ignoring a bully might sound like a stupid thing to do especially when they are right in your face with a whole lot of nasty things to say, but it works. Bullies feed off of a persons reactions—reacting to their snide remarks and emotional abuse will only encourage them and make them want to continue. Ignoring them, on the other hand, will discourage them and eventually cause them to lose interest and thus move on. The other option is to stand up for yourself which includes telling the bully that what they are doing is not ok and that they need to stop—this doesn't always work, but it doesn't hurt to try. Does it?