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How can I get bullies to leave me alone?

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Last Updated: 10/09/2018 at 10:51pm
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Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 5:14pm
First off, I want to say I am sorry that you have to deal with bullies bothering you. You don't deserve that. When I was younger, bullies were a big part of my school life as well. Considering there are numerous differnt types of bullies, then there are a couple of different routes you tan take to get bulloes to leave you alone. 1. Tell an adult/Teacher/Trusted friend. While this option
KKGunner
December 24th, 2014 3:30am
It depends what sort of bullies they are. Sometimes reporting them to the authorities and having them justly punished is enough to deter them, other times not, or the people in authority won't believe you. Sometimes the whole jazz of being assertive and telling bullies how you feel and not reacting doesn't work out. Sometimes you have to fight back, sometimes it's a bad idea to do so. And this doesn't only just depend on who you're dealing with, it varies across contexts and situations as well. Mostly it's a matter of developing your instincts and trusting yourself.
Jessiwillow11
December 5th, 2014 6:17pm
When I was bullied at a young age, I learned who my true friends were. I acted as if their bullying didn't bother me, as much as it really did. When I stopped giving them the satisfaction of seeming upset, they quickly left me alone and moved on to their next target. It was really hard to act like I didn't care, but you are STRONG and you can do it too! I promise you'll get through this :) Best of luck.
Pandette
December 5th, 2014 5:27am
Bullies can be very difficult to deal with and every bully is different. You will never truly know why they are "bullying" you unless you ask. I mean, you could always ask for the help of others (parent, teacher, any adult figure) or you could try and find out the root cause of the bullying. It all depends on what you are the most comfortable with.
safesecrets79
December 5th, 2014 8:14pm
If you can't beat them join them. If they laugh and make fun of you, laugh with them, deep inside you know that you are not those nasty insults that they call you. If possible avoid the places that they hangout around. If things are too scary and dangerous, please don't hesitate to report this to your parents/guardian and teacher.
thoughtfulDreamer99
December 7th, 2014 2:02pm
Smile at them. Show them you are strong and don't let their words bring you down. When they see they are having no effect, they will probably leave you alone. Now, this next part is the most difficult: forgive them. Let it go and don't hold a grudge because if you do, it means they have succeeded in making you unhappy long term. They made a mistake, they are only human. Be happy and content because you are loving and forgiving.
ElfFey
December 5th, 2014 5:03am
Bullies are like dogs. They smell fear. You need to develop an inner confidence so that you can powerfully ignore them when they try to goad you into a bad situation. The best way to develop this is to bully someone else. LOL I AM JUST KIDDING! I couldn't resist, sorry :) The best way to do this is to get in touch with YOURSELF. What are your hobbies, interests, and skills? WHAT IS YOUR SUPERPOWER? This will 1) Give you confidence not to be affected as much by their teasing and 2) you will meet friends with your common interest. How do I know this? I was bullied in middle school. But I always pretended like I didn't care and it didn't bother me, and at lunch time with my friends the bullies never bothered me. Sometimes it was scary when I was alone but eventually at about 9th grade they stopped. You will see with time most bullies are losers who lead sad lives and that's why they are mean to others.
Uniqueg
- Expert in Bullying
December 29th, 2014 5:34am
You have to tell some one, doing that might make you think that's making things worse but it's the only effective option because no one deserves to be bullied
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 6:28pm
How I got my bullies to leave me alone was to actually tell a teacher and then tell the bully myself that I won't stand to be picked on and teased.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2014 5:39am
Ignore them. I know its really, hard but bullies want to make you feel bad and if you don't se bothered they won't try anymore and will leave you alone. If you are still afraid tell an adult.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2015 4:28pm
I would possibly involve the teachers and parents. If you can't handle the bullies or make them listen to your request, then maybe the parents or teacher will have a better chance of convincing them.
supportiveCat
April 13th, 2015 8:29am
Possibly explaining the situation to a parent or trusted adult. Try to tell the bully that they are bullying you however, if that makes it worse speak to an adult as this will hopeful put a stop to the bullying.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 3:39am
I know it is such a cop out answer, but as a person who has experienced bullying, tell someone who has authority
DaElucidator
May 15th, 2015 2:57am
Consult an adult, parent, or guardian. Tell them what happened. Remember, You are not alone. Bulling is never tolerated.
SkylarX
June 7th, 2015 6:20am
Let them not hurt you. Believe in your own strength and capacity despite them bringing you down. Bullies expect something from you, for you to fight back, to find your life miserable or to see you in pain. Respond to them in the opposite way, ignoring them, give them ketchup when they need extra. If being nice to them pains you, then forgive them silently. Don't add fire to a house bathed in gasoline. Good luck.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 6:47am
show them that their words or actions do not bother you, they will most likely leave you alone. It worked for me when I was younger, I hope it gets better for you.
lovelliee
July 2nd, 2015 5:46am
Even if they threaten you if you tell anyone. Tell a trustworthy family member, friend or teacher, then they can help you with solutions in helping with bullies. You can also read some guides on this website about bullying.
Jay9816
August 11th, 2015 7:39am
Bullies simply hurt others because they are hurt themselves. My advice is treat them like you would a grizzly bear. Drop dead, well not literally of course haha. But when you drop dead with a grizzle bear it’s like ignoring them and they figure, they are already dead, why waste my time? And they move on with life. Now a bully might be a little harder and more annoying to deal with but if you simply ignore the bully they will go away. They bully to get under your skin and if they realize "Hey, they are completely unaffected by what i am saying! Grrr" and eventually they will leave you alone! But most importantly GET HELP! Your parents, teachers, any adult you can trust, shoot even that nice hobo on the highway corner you see every Saturday! (well maybe not) My point is, get help from a responsible adult that you can trust! You are not in this alone! Stay strong:)
FractalBunny
December 29th, 2015 2:31am
First, tell those around you such as friends that you're being bullied. Then, tell your parents, a teacher, your school counselor, or even the principal if it's severe enough.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2016 7:59pm
If your a confident person try standing up for your leg and your rights. Try not to be them just try to act as confident as them. If or quite shy you should tell someone in a higher authority, like a head master or teacher.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2016 12:55pm
I've been bullied my whole life,starting from at home by the aunt and cousins I was raised with. They would call me fat and be mean to me, telling me my parents didn't want me that's why they gave me up. what helped me deal is standing up for myself. knowing my self value and knowing that I give them power by allowing their words to hurt me. WELL I REFUSE!!! I decided to get away from that negative environment. If you can avoid bullies, i.e. their not family/people you personally know then walk away- I know I learned that not giving them a reaction bothers them more if you react to their cruelness. stay strong, know your worth, know your loved and know that there are people that care.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2015 10:39am
The main thing to do is to realise what they are doing/saying is probably not true, and if it is - so what? who are they to make you feel upset? what gives them them that right? try speaking to someone you feel comfortable around about it, a teacher, friend , parent someone who can support you and help you when things get out of hand. Next is to just try your hardest to ignore it, it will be hard, but just ignore it and eventually they'll get bored and stop. Remember that you are strong and you can do anything you sent your mind to.
Maggie5632
July 26th, 2016 6:29am
You should first tell them to stop and if they don't then go to an adult and they will make it stop
Cody17
October 9th, 2018 10:51pm
One thing you should understand is that it is never okay for somebody to make you feel bad. A late amount of the time bullies decide to upset other people as they have self esteem issues themselves. You should speak to a person you trust, such as a teacher or guardian and explain to them how this issue is making you feel. The authority figure will be able to take approapiate action in order to protect you. One thing you must remember is that you should respond with violence and by staying calm you are the bigger person. Inform a authority figure and make them aware or the situation