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How can I get over it without changing?

13 Answers
Last Updated: 11/30/2020 at 5:48pm
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Amelia Winsby, PsyD


I often work with clients who experience a wide range of emotions and difficulties. I am non-judgmental and enjoy working with individuals from all walks of life.

Top Rated Answers
March 4th, 2015 12:22pm
Change is the only constant every minute of our life we are changing ,I have heard people wish to be the person they were before a tragic incident (say a break up).We were what we were in that moment we change due to our external and internal environment that doesnt mean we are not who we were ,we are the same .I remain who I was before my breakup I may not trust easily but that doesnt change who I am .Its just that we as humans adapt to best suit our requirements ,our behavior may change our personality may change our appearances may change but remember we are the same person. People see us in a certain way and their eyes are blurred by their own emotions and ideas so they may have feel that you have changed ,maybe they were seeing you as a person they wanted you to be not who you really were.
April 6th, 2015 11:56pm
There are many situations in life that we cannot change. Some simple, some quite complex. I think I try to look back at the situation, determine if I did anything wrong, and try to remind myself to forgive. Forgive the other person, but especially forgive myself. It isn't always the easiest. I really feel that there are situations we come to "accept" even if they did not turn out how we wanted.
May 25th, 2015 6:58am
Change is a natural part of life and is important for growth. Maybe make a list of your options for different pros and cons.
June 8th, 2015 7:20pm
The best steps to get over anything without changing is baby steps. Only you for sure know what these steps are, but baby steps are ways to achieve smaller goals that help accomplish getting over pain and trauma without feeling like you're forcing yourself to be happy when you're not. For example: I got into kickboxing to help take out my frustration and anger during my time of need and that slowly helped me find other solutions to get over the pain in my life.
August 25th, 2015 12:14am
You will never forget but you will learn to live with it. Your experience makes you a stronger person.
November 27th, 2015 1:47am
its easy try to think that you are something and its not your fault. some people cut but that is the worst way. all you have to do is believe in yourself
November 30th, 2015 1:33pm
Remember the person you are at the core. Get back in touch with your values and goals and use them as a compass to find your way through.
December 28th, 2015 8:05am
Don't change, just move on, if you can't get over it, talk to someone whom you can trust and that person should appreciate you and accept you for who you are
June 14th, 2016 8:55pm
Never change who you are, you're your own person. You just have to learn to fight and battle through it :)
September 12th, 2016 10:10am
You don't have to change in order to be able to accept the situation you're in. Realise that what happened, has happened and it's in the past. It's there and you can't change it. Acceptance is the first step to moving on.
February 6th, 2017 7:01am
Getting over something can be extremely difficult. I try to remind myself that the best is yet to come, and that I've gotten through a lot and can get through even more. You are strong and you are important. You don't need to change.
July 18th, 2017 4:40pm
Time heals. It is undeniably difficult to move on and get over it. However, with perseverance and time, and also the trust you have in yourself. They are all secret recipe for you to grow. And by growing up, I mean to fall down and get back up regardless of how many times it takes for to your get over it. All the best!
November 30th, 2020 5:48pm
What’s usually helpful to you in uncomfortable situations? Are you often finding things hard to do without changing something about yourself. Do you want to change? How long has this been a bother to you? I think I can listen to you and provide support as you try to come to a solution where you are comfortable with your decision and allowing yourself to grow instead of making immediate changes that you do not want to happen to yourself or your personal relationships. I think you can think of many ways to help you through this tell me some and we can try to come to a solution together perhaps