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March 4th, 2015 12:22pm
Change is the only constant every minute of our life we are changing ,I have heard people wish to be the person they were before a tragic incident (say a break up).We were what we were in that moment we change due to our external and internal environment that doesnt mean we are not who we were ,we are the same .I remain who I was before my breakup I may not trust easily but that doesnt change who I am .Its just that we as humans adapt to best suit our requirements ,our behavior may change our personality may change our appearances may change but remember we are the same person.
People see us in a certain way and their eyes are blurred by their own emotions and ideas so they may have feel that you have changed ,maybe they were seeing you as a person they wanted you to be not who you really were.
There are many situations in life that we cannot change. Some simple, some quite complex. I think I try to look back at the situation, determine if I did anything wrong, and try to remind myself to forgive. Forgive the other person, but especially forgive myself. It isn't always the easiest. I really feel that there are situations we come to "accept" even if they did not turn out how we wanted.
The best steps to get over anything without changing is baby steps. Only you for sure know what these steps are, but baby steps are ways to achieve smaller goals that help accomplish getting over pain and trauma without feeling like you're forcing yourself to be happy when you're not. For example: I got into kickboxing to help take out my frustration and anger during my time of need and that slowly helped me find other solutions to get over the pain in my life.
You don't have to change in order to be able to accept the situation you're in. Realise that what happened, has happened and it's in the past. It's there and you can't change it. Acceptance is the first step to moving on.
Getting over something can be extremely difficult. I try to remind myself that the best is yet to come, and that I've gotten through a lot and can get through even more. You are strong and you are important. You don't need to change.
Time heals. It is undeniably difficult to move on and get over it. However, with perseverance and time, and also the trust you have in yourself. They are all secret recipe for you to grow. And by growing up, I mean to fall down and get back up regardless of how many times it takes for to your get over it. All the best!
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