How can I get people to stop making fun of me for my weight?

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Positivecharmimgcutey
November 13th, 2015 8:56pm
Stop caring about what others say,that's what I did,it changed my life.You just be at a weight that's healthy for you,you can check your BMI if you're overweight then still no need to worry,I can help you to lose weight ,if you wanna .Feel free to message me anytime :)
StardustEyes
June 7th, 2015 10:11am
Unfortunately, that's one of the biggest problems nowadays. So many people bully innocent humans for being physically different from others. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this right now. To be blunt, some people in this world really suck, especially those who prey on the insecurities of others. You don’t deserve to be picked on just because of your weight, and I wish I could come give you a hug right now. To be honest, I don’t think you need to learn how to “keep your cool” around these people – I think you might need to learn how to stand up for yourself. You don’t need to learn how to deal with being made fun of… these people need to learn how to be respectful, and how to not pick on others. The next time someone makes a rude comment to you, don’t be afraid to fire back. I’m not saying that you should start throwing insults out there – you just need to defend yourself. Say something like, “Don’t speak to me that way” or “I really don’t appreciate that comment. Why would you say something like that?” You need to make it clear that you won’t tolerate this. By standing up for yourself, you’re showing confidence and bravery. It’s very easy for bullies to pick on someone passive, who will sit there silently while they’re getting. It’s much more difficult for bullies to make fun of someone who’s sure of themselves and who isn’t afraid to speak up. Even if you don’t really feel confident, fake it. It’s scary, but if you can pull it off, it will be effective.
fromthesea
June 23rd, 2015 3:12pm
Own it. Weight is just a number, who cares about how much you weigh? Well YOU certainly DONT! And show them! Tell them 'So what' when they say you're fat. Or tell them that you aren't fat, but that you have fat. And that everyone does. Laugh about it. Be you, because you're great the way you are.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 4:53pm
I don't think you can do that , what you can is to try either to loose weight or to accept it , both of choices are hard . but you can do it !
Anonymous
January 11th, 2015 11:50pm
Well people make fun of people about anything. From the size of the nose to what there wearing. It will be hard for you to stop others from making fun about your weight. It may make things easier to have supportive people around you. If you are unhappy about your weight, try to do something about it. It can help with the way you feel so when people talk about you it may not effect you. As you may feel good about your self. It is about how you feel about you, make your self happy first.
Brandley
November 14th, 2015 2:43pm
I understand how you feel, i had the same. But it isn't about losing, what matters is on the inside. If they call you fatty you say " so what, what matters is on the inside not on the outside" dont listen to people who say ignore them so they will stop eventually step up for yourself! Don't let them hurt you, you are better than that you dont deserve to be bullied. Peace✌ Goodluck, Greets from Brandley
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 6:59am
I feel the most important thing is for you to be confident in yourself. Once you have tried the best you could to be the best you can be and you know, deep in your heart, that you couldn't and wouldn't have done it in any other way, you have done yourself justice and you need not care how others think about you since you couldn't have done it any way else anyways. For example, lets give a story about a man who has a family and works in a company whose employers work 10-15 hours a day. This man have a choice now, to be like his coworkers and work that 15 hours, or work only 8 and go back to have dinner with his family. He thought about it and felt that family was priority. So he decided to work only 8 hours and that got him fired, and had neighbours talking behind his back about how he was lazy, a good for nothing, so on so forth. Even though, yes he feels bad that others feel that way, he knows that deep in his heart, he would not have done it any other way. So he goes on his life, happy and satisfied with his decision. Just like him, place your priority right, do what you feel its the best for you and give no thought to others negative influence. That being said, however, if you feel that you are actually not doing yourself justice, for example, slacking off when you should be exercising, then do yourself a favour and go do whats best for you. Your future self will love you for it. Background: I was bullied myself for something i was born with. It made me who I am today, a stronger person, and a person more accomplished than the people who bullied me when I was young. You can and will be stronger if you have a right mindset. Go for it. All the best. :)
Anonymous
May 4th, 2015 2:56pm
By being comfortable with yourself and realizing that other people's opinions of you is something you should not care about and it's something that neither adds to you nor reduces anything from you. This would not stop them from making fun of you but it would stop you from caring about them!
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 4:37pm
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this right now. To be blunt, some people in this world really suck, especially those who prey on the insecurities of others. You don’t deserve to be picked on just because of your weight, and I wish I could come give you a hug right now. To be honest, I don’t think you need to learn how to “keep your cool” around these people – I think you might need to learn how to stand up for yourself. You don’t need to learn how to deal with being made fun of… these people need to learn how to be respectful, and how to not pick on others. Does that make sense? The next time someone makes a rude comment to you, don’t be afraid to fire back. I’m not saying that you should start throwing insults out there – you just need to defend yourself. Say something like, “Don’t speak to me that way” or “I really don’t appreciate that comment. Why would you say something like that?” You need to make it clear that you won’t tolerate this. By standing up for yourself, you’re showing confidence and bravery. It’s very easy for bullies to pick on someone passive, who will sit there silently while they’re getting. It’s much more difficult (and less fun) for bullies to make fun of someone who’s sure of themselves and who isn’t afraid to speak up. Even if you don’t really feel confident, fake it. It’s scary, but if you can pull it off, it will be effective. When you say you don’t want to lose your friends, does that mean your “friends” are the ones who are picking on you for your weight? If so, then girl, you need new friends. Seriously. A real friend would never taunt someone about their weight. If your friends are the ones offending you, you need to tell them off, and stop hanging out with them. You should only surround yourself with people who respect and care about you. Being with toxic people is not what you want or deserve. I also want to say this, and I know it sounds corny, but I really do mean it from the bottom of my heart. Your weight does not, and will never, define you. Your physical appearance is only one part of you. Please never let others make you feel bad about yourself because you maybe don’t fit society’s ideas of being the “right weight.” We can never control what other people think of us, but we can control what we think of ourselves. If you learn to love yourself, that’s all that matters. Once you show and feel confidence, you’ll be able to make relationships with people who love you for you, and don’t care about your weight. So basically what I’m saying is this: there is no magic solution to bullying. If there were a way to get people to stop saying horrible things, the world would be a much better place. Unfortunately, some people are just cruel. But there is a way for you to be happy with yourself, and that’s really all that matters. Fake your confidence until you really feel it. The next time someone says something mean, tell them you’re happy with yourself and don’t care about what they think. Then walk away, and leave them feeling stupid. I know how hard this is, but I promise that one day things will be better. Leave these people behind and tell yourself every day how awesome you are – don’t stop until you believe it
HelpWisely
October 27th, 2015 6:38am
When people feel insecure about themselves they tend to take it out on others unconsciously. It is not just weight, anything at all about you can trigger someone to make fun of. You cannot control those who make fun of you but you can learn to accept youself totally as you are and be confident and comfortable with youself then what others do won't affect you and remain happy and content.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2015 10:30pm
Try to lose some either go on a diet or exercise. If this doesn't work just ignore them they probably don't have much of s life
ImLittleM
November 16th, 2015 10:32am
People are going to be cruel no matter what. You may never get people to stop making fun of your weight, whether you are 100lbs, or 500lbs. The best thing you can do is ignore the comments, and embrace the body you are in.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:51am
You can never make someone like you, or make them stop - but you can make them rethink their actions. Don't let them get you down, the best way to make them stop is to prove them wrong. Don't let their actions get to you, prove to them that you can become successful and you're happy without them.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 6:16am
Unfortunately, you can't. If someone is bullying you, go tell and adult and they will help put an end to that madness. You stop someone from being a bully, but you can stand up for yourself in a kind and respectful way. Sometimes you just have to turn the other cheek- I know, easier said than done; it's worth it though. Just as a firefighter can't fight fire with fire, we can't fight hate with hate. Firefighters must use water to fight the fire; we must use love to fight the hate.
heartfulCandy98
December 17th, 2018 7:16pm
I'm sorry to hear that, it's really not good to make fun of someone. First of all, You can't stop people, you can't shut the mouth of people but you can calm to your brain to don't react on their business, You are gorgeous, you are adorable, you deserve respect and love, don't care their business, it's his business to make your fun and it's your business to ignore them and don't care ☺️. I know it's hard in starting but trust me it's work, I have experienced it so I am telling you on my experience, don't care them 🙂
heartfulamy
August 16th, 2016 5:55pm
It's 2016, honestly embrace it you're awesome, like in Easy A, To make them stop I'd tell an adult or something
commanderhearteyes
September 20th, 2016 1:27pm
Show them that you don't care & don't take it serious. If they see that the mobbing does not affect you it's possible that they get bored & decide to stop. Or you could confront them directly
zenGuy
October 3rd, 2017 1:29am
I've found that you can't affect what other people do, you can only control how you react to it. Someone's insult only has power based on your reaction. If you react badly they will find it amusing and keep doing it, but if you react without a care you will take away all the power their words have and the will eventually stop doing it. This might be easier said than done but it's worth a shot.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2017 10:10pm
The thing is you can't stop anyone from doing anything, the way you deal with it now that's something else, if you want people to stop making fun of you or your weight start by loving yourself and the way you look, this way you don't have to worry about what they think, it's all going to be about you so if you love yourself others will eventually get lost or learn to love you too, just be happy with yourself, everything else is going to settle itself
scotty4947
May 8th, 2017 6:43pm
Confront them and tell them how it's making you feel and how daunting it is to you. If that doesn't work (assuming you're in school), tell a teacher or counselor about these attacks on your image. They will gladly help. Also, try your best to not let it affect you. Showing that it puts you down is exactly what those bullies love seeing. If you don't show it affecting you, they will not get the reinforcement they're looking for, and eventually stop.
Saraf
June 5th, 2017 12:19pm
First of all, I'm incredibly sorry to hear that people are making fun of you for your weight. There is really nothing "funny" about mocking people for their insecurities, it's utterly immature. Secondly, you need to know that you don't need to put up with that sort of attitude and learn how to "cope" with it. You need to learn how to stand up against those people. So next time someone makes fun of you for your weight, fire back a "I don't really appreciate you talking to me this way" and thus stand up for yourself. Remember, bullies prey on those the most who just sit there, silently tolerate the hurtful things bullies say. Don't be passive, speak up! Most importantly, don't forget that You're beautiful and amazing just the way you are, darling. No one's got the right to make you feel otherwise.
sunsetLion15
July 11th, 2017 1:53pm
Talking directly to them would be helpful if you think they are the kinds who listen, but if there aren't give them reasons to talk about your talents and your great academics/work.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 10:45pm
You can own the fact that your body is your own. Ignore those words, their just jealous of your beautiful body.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2018 7:37pm
Tell someone, or confronting the people who are making fun of you. Sometimes asking them why they are making fun of you will get them to stop and think about their actions.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 11:11am
You can’t change what people say, some people say things and don’t realise how much they hurt. It is best to forget what they say and only do what’s hest for you. Never change yourself FOR someone else. Only do it if yu are comfortable and happy to, t o get over people calling you names just accept yourself and be confident so whatever they say doesn’t change your mind on yourself! (:
dxphne
March 26th, 2019 12:24pm
Show them that you're confident in being who you are. You might feel insecure about your weight but there is no need to be. As soon as you show how confident and strong you are, they will realize that their words and actions can't affect you in the way they want to and most of the time they will stop, it's not fun for them anymore. Just try to be happy with the way you look, try to love yourself as much as possible and you will improve the way you come across to others, people like to make fun of people who seem insecure as they seem like an easy target, but once you stop caring they will get bored of it.