I’m so sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this right now. To be blunt, some people in this world really suck, especially those who prey on the insecurities of others. You don’t deserve to be picked on just because of your weight, and I wish I could come give you a hug right now.
To be honest, I don’t think you need to learn how to “keep your cool” around these people – I think you might need to learn how to stand up for yourself. You don’t need to learn how to deal with being made fun of… these people need to learn how to be respectful, and how to not pick on others. Does that make sense?
The next time someone makes a rude comment to you, don’t be afraid to fire back. I’m not saying that you should start throwing insults out there – you just need to defend yourself. Say something like, “Don’t speak to me that way” or “I really don’t appreciate that comment. Why would you say something like that?” You need to make it clear that you won’t tolerate this. By standing up for yourself, you’re showing confidence and bravery. It’s very easy for bullies to pick on someone passive, who will sit there silently while they’re getting. It’s much more difficult (and less fun) for bullies to make fun of someone who’s sure of themselves and who isn’t afraid to speak up. Even if you don’t really feel confident, fake it. It’s scary, but if you can pull it off, it will be effective.
When you say you don’t want to lose your friends, does that mean your “friends” are the ones who are picking on you for your weight? If so, then girl, you need new friends. Seriously. A real friend would never taunt someone about their weight. If your friends are the ones offending you, you need to tell them off, and stop hanging out with them. You should only surround yourself with people who respect and care about you. Being with toxic people is not what you want or deserve.
I also want to say this, and I know it sounds corny, but I really do mean it from the bottom of my heart. Your weight does not, and will never, define you. Your physical appearance is only one part of you. Please never let others make you feel bad about yourself because you maybe don’t fit society’s ideas of being the “right weight.” We can never control what other people think of us, but we can control what we think of ourselves. If you learn to love yourself, that’s all that matters. Once you show and feel confidence, you’ll be able to make relationships with people who love you for you, and don’t care about your weight.
So basically what I’m saying is this: there is no magic solution to bullying. If there were a way to get people to stop saying horrible things, the world would be a much better place. Unfortunately, some people are just cruel. But there is a way for you to be happy with yourself, and that’s really all that matters. Fake your confidence until you really feel it. The next time someone says something mean, tell them you’re happy with yourself and don’t care about what they think. Then walk away, and leave them feeling stupid. I know how hard this is, but I promise that one day things will be better. Leave these people behind and tell yourself every day how awesome you are – don’t stop until you believe it