How can I stop everyone from hating me?

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Last Updated: 01/07/2019 at 7:45pm
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MarcoTheCreativeGuy
March 13th, 2015 7:14pm
People hating others are often hated themselves. Maybe you should stop caring about words from people and concentrate on your own Happiness. Don't bother others, live you live to the fullest and go on with yourself as the person you are :-)
Anonymous
January 24th, 2015 4:45am
everyone can feel this way sometimes, talking to friends and family might help, they will always be there for you! and will offer the guidance and support you may need, we are here to help to at 7cupsoftea! and have a great self help guide for anything you maybe going through at this moment in time! enjoy yourself! get out there! meet new people, join a book club? maybe a gym? etc it will keep you fit and active and you will also meet new people along the way to! :)
lovingwatermelon
April 29th, 2015 4:59am
You cannot stop people from hating you but you can try to realize that many people you think hate you, most likely do not hate you at all. You can learn ways to cope with some peoples dislike of you.
Purplevani1401
November 16th, 2015 5:17pm
Try the best to be yourself. and if those people are not important in your life then just look over them. Youre awsome and i dont hate you :D
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 7:19am
It's not about being hated, it's about caring about what other's opinions are. It doesn't matter what others think, it's about whether or not YOU'RE happy. Everyone has haters, it's human nature to have negative vibes towards others. So be yourself, because that's the best you that you can be.
DaringDachshund
July 21st, 2015 1:29am
Sometimes, if everyone hates you, you may have to try making friends, because most likely you will find a group of people that don't hate you, because it is unlikely everyone hates you.
Waterbear
July 27th, 2015 6:12pm
I doubt that everyone actually hates you, but if by some chance they actually do, there is probably some very specific story behind it, so the answer would have to be pretty specific.
JayKayHey
January 19th, 2016 4:51pm
The one thing people worry about, is others hating them. To them I have to say, don't prioritize hate, but do, love. Only when you learn to love yourself, are you able to understand what other people dislike about you. Only when you learn to love yourself, are you able to distinguish which opinions are worth taking into consideration. If you don't love yourself, no one else will.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 7:19am
YOU CAN'T! You can't stop people from hating you, the same way as you can't stop people from talking about you either. What you can do is learn to deal with it. But something I believe is that, not everyone hates us, we just don't know how to accept or be loved. Why don't you first try to love yourself, then you will notice that people don't hate you.
Emily619
March 22nd, 2016 4:35pm
You can't control others' feelings, but you can control how you act. Don't change the way you are just for someone else, but if you have a bad attitude in general (it's fine to admit!) then it would be a change to consider.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 7:59pm
Well just be yourself and people do not like who you are then they really don't want to be near you but the true people will come to you soon
Ayeeitsbrii
May 31st, 2016 5:49pm
You can never stop anyone from how they feel about someone but you can just become someone who is always happy and never starting anything and just get a friend or two to realize not everyone hates you.
Snakefoxbox
June 13th, 2016 8:37pm
I don't think EVERYONE hates you, I know I don't. But if there are people in your life who you think or know have a problem with you, just talk about it! Work things out. If they are too mean and refuse to make the situation better or work towards it, leave them.
CuddlyCaramel
December 27th, 2016 12:22pm
No one can stop anyone from hating anyone. That's just the way human nature works. You definitely cannot stop anyone but instead you can try making friends with people who share similar interests, also it is physically impossible for EVERYONE to hate. The chance of that ratio is zero to none. There's just too many people in the world for you not to have at least now who likes you. So don't dwell on that thought and just focus on meeting people with similar interests! Good luck and take care! ~L
BraveWings116
January 7th, 2019 7:45pm
You are never going to please everyone, unfortunately. But the best way to make people like you is to show yourself kindness and respect. If you treat yourself kindly and build up your self-esteem, others will be more likely to like you and want to be your friend. As cheesy as it sounds, faking it until you make it can be an useful tool. When you smile and act confident, then you start to feel happier and more confident. However, if you are struggling with a mental illness, bullying, or other issues, please do seek help and talk about it with someone you trust, because suffering in silence never helps. I wish you luck.