How can I stop replaying the episode(s) of bullying, over and over again, which only make me feel worse?
Last Updated: 04/12/2021 at 7:53am
Melissa Strauss, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am client focused and believe everyone has a strength. I feel confident in seeing clients with generalized and social anxiety, depression and relational goals.
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Get the thought in your mind that right now the bully is on top but soon enough will turn out to be a bad person in life just keep your morales and values good to turn out a better person in life
It's something tough to deal with...the thoughts can be so obsessive and painful. What I've found helps is distracting myself, going out, and doing something productive. Acknowledge the thoughts; don't try to bury them, but at the same time, firmly reassure yourself you're fine now, nothing is hurting you. As time passes, the memories won't go away, but you'll get bigger and stronger and they'll get smaller.
You'll need to stop playing the replay button, and the only way youre gonna be able to do that is by forgiving the ones who bullied you and realising that it has made you a stronger person now and it most likely wont ever happen again, the way you felt then and the way you feel now are not the way you will feel forever.. Dont fight your feelings, face them! Youre just wasting your time when you replay an episode beacuse youre missing out on the other episodes you couldve watched during then
Being a freshy out of Highschool girl, I think i know how you must be feeling. I'd like to tell you about some helpful changes in my daily life, which really helped me get through that time. First of all, I simply started doing MORE. More for my school, more for my family, more for myself. I signed signed up for dance classes, started cooking for my family and helping out in After-school-supervision for primary school. You can say that I just simply ignored to bad things. Filling up your life with positivity and blocking all negative thoughts will help you in the long term. I am sure you can think of at least 3 things you could do which make you happier. Sports, music, painting, social work or even just decorating your own room. Secondly, try to look at your life this way: It's my life. I should be the one having all control over it. So why should I give away the power for something as simple as being happy to someone else? Why should someone else decide when I am supposed to be happy and when not? Try this: Today I will take all control over my happiness. I will be happy, just because I can be. That's it. I really hope i could help you :) I'd love to talk to everyone who has any questions on bullying or other school/work problems/stress.
Try to distract your mind from that. Try finding out what you're good at. Spend your free time developing your hobbies. Think positive and never ever give up:)
Distract yourself. Play a video game, watch TV, talk to someone, start a project. Keep yourself busy and keep your mind off it. Stop wondering "What if?" Do something that makes you happy or excites you, and hopefully that'll help.
Focus on something that soothes you, a song, a scent, a story, a game. Anything that is comforting and pleasant to you. A cup of tea or a cup of coffee. Share your feelings with a friend, a listener or a family member.
to forget bulllying is a difficult thing to forget.The experience couldnt have been nice but you got through it this means you are stronger than you think
Well, it is important to know that the past is behind you and you are a different person right now. You handled the situation as best you could, but now you know more and so you do not have to worry about it happening again.
Think of happy memories, doodle, hang out with friends more, write, join a club, distract yourself, anything really to take your mind off it.
You have the power to stand-out. You have the power to say no, If it's necessary, it would be better for you to step out of the community/school/work to give yourself space to stand out.
On the level of mind, what you resist persists (for example, try not to think of a pink elephant as hard as you can for 1 minute! You'll see them everywhere!). When bad thoughts come, welcome them and have a cup of tea with them. You'll find that they stay for a short time, but it's far less intrusive than if you fought them. Your inner positivity has so much strength, if you only own it, that nothing can bother you for long unless you let it.
Try to distract yourself with something positive, like reaching out to help someone else, or doing something relaxing and fun.
You can download some meditation apps that will allow you to calm down and not think of anything else
IMO the reason you are doing this is because this person was being abusive and you're trying to find a way to respond to them that will show them that they are wrong and change the bullying. The problem is that their behaviour is outright abuse and there is no way to convince an abuser that they are wrong. They're not interested in a conversation with you to work it out, they are only interested in abusing you. The only real answer is to leave and cease communication with a toxic abusive person. You don't want or need to get tangled up in trying to gain the validation of someone who will never give it to you. You have to validate yourself. So you can replay that episode over and over, but it was never about you, so you will never be able to find the answer, like a cat chasing its tail. Just get out of the ring and refuse to play, including in your mind!
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