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How can I tell someone about the abuse that is going on without it seeming like I'm tattling?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2018 at 10:02pm
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Dannus
April 25th, 2015 6:57pm
If you feel that someone should be told about what is going on, it is most likely because you know what the abuser is doing is wrong. By telling someone, you are not only helping the person being abused, but the abuser also.
JessInTechnicolour
May 16th, 2015 2:09am
If there is abuse going on, it's important to tell someone. It's not tattling. Telling someone is very brave and can make a difference.
KeepBreathingBabe
June 6th, 2015 5:49am
Well you can tell someone about the abuse that is going on without it seeming like you're tattling in many ways.. One way is just to say you are concerned for the victims well being and want to make they are okay. Another is you could do it anonymously by leaving a note?
PushThroughItAll
September 24th, 2015 2:42am
You just tell them - abuse is no laughing matter, or anything to feel "childish" about. If need be, call domestic abuse hot line.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 8:18am
You can't. You have to either be the one that does the "tattling" and help a situation or you can keep quiet. The easiest way to decide the right thing to do is using your gut instinct,
Lily5
January 9th, 2017 1:33am
Don't be afraid to tell someone-telling someone about a serious thing like abuse isn't "tattling", it's genuinely seeking help about something terrible happening to you, which is an important thing to do for your own well-being.
eJane
January 14th, 2017 6:15pm
State the problem precisely, clearly and completely and do not attach too many emotional sentences. Make the situation seem more like truth and facts rather than drama.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2017 1:12am
Tattling and reporting abuse are 2 very different thugs. If you are experiencing abuse and are worried about the abuser finding out, call 911 or a child helpline when the abuser is not around. And always rennet that you are not alone!
Anonymous
March 6th, 2018 12:04am
In order to tell someone about the abuse that you're going through without tattling is by alerting someone you're feelings of abuse and back it up with details of evidence from the experience. Another way, is to jolt down what you've been through in a notebook and than reveal it to an adult.
Freedomtochoose
July 31st, 2018 7:43pm
Standing up for yourself is never considered "Tattling" it's called taking a stance, putting a stop to it, and ending that chapter.
HelpAndHealing
August 6th, 2018 10:02pm
No one deserves to be abused, and if someone is hurting you or making you feel unsafe, I hope that you feel able to reach out for the support you need. "Tattling" is often the only way to stop abuse - anyone who tries to guilt you into not telling is exhibiting major red flags and should not be trusted.