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How do i block out people who are negative towards me and put me down?

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Last Updated: 08/09/2021 at 3:09pm
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Johanna Liasides, MSc


I work with youth and young adults to help them improve depressive symptoms and self-esteem as well as effectively address family, relationship and peer conflicts.

Top Rated Answers
February 27th, 2018 1:20am
Don't talk to them if you have had bad experiences with them and memories that consist of material get rid of it,meet new people that bring you up and be happy do anything thing you can to stay away from them if its really effecting you like tell them u no longer want to talk
July 9th, 2018 3:59am
Think about all the things that you love about yourself, write them down if you have to. Sometimes it hard to be confident and strong when you have people trying to bring you down but STAY STRONG! Also remember that most of the time the people that are trying to bring you down are just trying to make themselves feel better.
July 20th, 2020 6:12am
The best answer to this is space. If you are able to, put physical distance between these people and you. Avoid them at all costs if you are able to. Often times, sadly, we are NOT able to. We work with them. We live with them. They are family members we can't convince ourselves to distance from. Whatever the case may be. In these cases, it helps to build a great collection of tools to help you. Things like Nonviolent Communication or NVC. This is a great one. Or behavioral tools like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) are great to learn about. Both of these tools could be utilized to help you ignore people's harsh opinions of you more easily. And realize that their issue is with THEMSELVES, and not necessarily you.
August 11th, 2020 1:00am
Your self esteem matters and you are in control of whatever happens in your life. You do not need people's words and attitudes towards you define your ways of living. You have the right to shut doors to your life and open it for whoever you feel is right to enter. So, simple, avoid negativity. Do not associate with them, do not speak to them and flee from them. You can do as well to defining the principles that governs your life and let people respect you for what you stand for. This would filter unnecessary bad energy from your life.
August 9th, 2021 3:09pm
first off, knowing that they affect you negatively and coming to terms with it is a pretty huge step itself! it takes a lot of time and courage to acknowledge that you're not in the wrong. secondly, learn to be patient with yourself. whatever change you're expecting will not happen overnight, i know cause i've been there. it's not easy to just "let go" of someone who's been in your life, no matter how small or big of a role they've played. only you know what kind of person they are. maybe try talking to them? when it comes to me, i can judge by the situation if its worth mending or not (with my years of experience sigh) but i think deep down you'll know too. you might hang on to a thread or a glimer of hope, but you'll know when it's done. whenever that happens, do what you think is best for *you*. do not invalidate your feelings just for the sake of saving someone else's. communication is key.