How do I get people to accept my sexuality and not judge me or see me differently?

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Anonymous
January 23rd, 2015 6:53pm
I my self have just recently came out. It is not something easy at all believe me when I tell you. But i promise it gets easier along the way but it does take time for people to adjust to it which is completely normal. Maybe try to talk to the people that you care about and tell them that you are no different and you are the same person. Let them know that you'r sexuality will not change who you are.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2015 8:34pm
You shouldn't do anything about it. Just be yourself and be proud of it. You deserve the absolute best in love.
Brittneym101
April 27th, 2015 4:26pm
Well, to be honest you can't get or make people accept you're sexuality and not judge you and see you differently. They're either going to accept it or they're not and that's going to be on their own terms. People are going to judge you regardless of your sexuality it's just a part of life. Everyone has been judged before at some point. You are who you are and if you're happy with what it is that you're doing then that's all that matters. I have a boyfriend and my folks will not accept him or us being together and working things out and I realized that I couldn't change they're perspective when it came to this predicament. I was/am happy with the choice that I have made regarding my relationship whether they like it or not. Live for you and not for anyone else. Do what makes you happy. If you accept it then there is nothing more that you need to say or do to get anyone else to do so.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 10:38pm
Unfortunately, you can't really change other people's minds, as they think what they want and usually don't see it otherwise. If you haven't tried explaining your feelings and your sexuality to them, do that. If you have and they still don't care, you don't need them in your life. You should be surrounded by people who love and support you no matter what.
JumpyGoiaba
July 27th, 2018 5:37pm
Unfortunately, it's impossible to make people accept you for who you are. What you can do, though, is remind them your sexual orientation isn't your whole identity. Be kind to everyone, even if it's not returned. There will certainly be people who will understand your position and hopefully that might change the way unaccepting people perceive you. Also, I'd like to praise you for your courage in coming out. Always remember to stay true to yourself. That's more important than any sense of belonging you may feel lacking. Good luck for you. I hope I could help in any way :)
GentleEyes7
April 22nd, 2015 4:14am
Simple, treat people the way you want to be treated. Try to always be the better person and you will earn the right people's respect.
Mac21
May 3rd, 2015 2:15pm
Try and be confident with it as much as you can, other people will come around, they just haven't had the time you've had to understand it.
SnugglyPanda
May 17th, 2015 2:35pm
It's hard to get others to accept you! It's entirely on them to realize that you are fully-fledged human being who is worthy of acceptance and respect. It will happen that some people will refuse to view you in this way, however, and there isn't much you can do about that, because they have already made up their minds. Don't confront them, and don't expose yourself too much to toxic people! It is better to leave them be and surround yourself with people who actually accept you and care for you :) Remember that it isn't your job to make people accept a part of you that you cannot change (like your sexuality). Good luck!
Pixiedust224
June 10th, 2015 8:08am
Choose your friends wisely. And you muay also accept that there are allways going tp be soneone somewhere who does not agree
espyo
July 13th, 2015 4:26am
It doesnt matter how people see you or your sexuality! If they way you are makes you happy that is all that matters
HelpWisely
October 27th, 2015 6:31am
The first step and really the only step is to fully, totally and unconditionally accept and love your sexuality. You can never control how other people see you, think about you or act towards you BUT you have full choice of how you see yourself. When you are comfortable with your own sexuality then others will tend to judge you less because they can see that you are affected by their judgments of you.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 3:43am
Just be you. People who care for you will not treat you differently. Don't waste time on people who do, because they're not worth your time.
Firaz
January 4th, 2016 6:58pm
Accept yourself for being who you are. That will make you comfortable and confident. If you can't accept yourself, how the others can?
NevaehLee
June 20th, 2016 11:23pm
You see there's always going to be people who won't bring a positive impact in your life, some will disagree and that's okay. You just need to accept that they're not made for you. You be the best you. You do whatever that makes you happy. No one has the right to tell you, you're not allowed to be this or that. You represent yourself the way you want and accept the fact some people won't like that. You'll be okay my friend 💜
h3idi
September 27th, 2016 3:35am
what is most important is that YOU accept yourself! be comfortable with who you are and do the things that make you happy-everything else will then fall into place
warmRiver38
October 3rd, 2016 5:28pm
Try and make some friends in the LGBT+ space. Or you could start by asking your friends opinion on LGBT+ and see how they feel.
MKDavis
October 4th, 2016 7:29pm
If they do not accept your sexuality, or they judge you because of your sexuality, they are not friendly people. You just have to act yourself, people like you will be friendly and people who are accepting will be too. Be not afraid.
BronyDice
January 16th, 2017 5:20pm
Unfortunately, you can not change the way people respond or feel. You can remind them that you are still the same person. You still have the same thoughts and same sense of humor and same personality. You ultimately have to accept yourself and you will find others that accept you as well for who you are.
friendlyIcicle64
January 16th, 2017 11:27pm
In todays modern age, there are more people that are willing to accept the differences that people have. You just have to find the people that will accept you and see you as who you are and not what they think you are. If people cannot accept you for your sexuality then you can either try to educate them about it.
TaranWanderer
May 2nd, 2017 7:45pm
Have patience and don't be afraid to defend yourself. Sometimes you can't force people to accept you, so you just have to accept yourself even more in compensation :) Try your best to educate people who may be judgmental just because they don't really understand, and to keep your calm (although that doesn't mean you need to just passively take on negativity)
Anonymous
August 7th, 2017 1:42pm
Here's the thing: you can't control how other people see you. You can only control how you see yourself. Have you accepted your sexuality? Then that's the best you can do, and you just keep on being you without letting other people get in your way. I'm sorry people have been intolerant towards you, you don't deserve that.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2017 8:17am
You act how you want, everyone's different and people are just going to have to get used to you acting this way. Your sexuality is your decisions:)
sugarcrumbRosalina0
July 23rd, 2018 4:00pm
People usually judge others - and that can't be controlled. But there are things you can do. The first thing you should do is not consider yourself too different from other people, because the way you see yourself passes to the others! Next thing you can do is talk to your close ones - let them know it's the way you are, you're not an alien, it's your way of loving. Expressing these thoughts has powerful effects, and the way they react will help later! There are other ways to get people to accept you, but they'll never be perfect. This one isn't, either! Just remember, the most important thing is that YOU accept and love yourself. "Fitting in" does feel important, but what matters the most is your own happiness!