How do I get people to stop bulling me and accept me?

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Last Updated: 02/12/2019 at 12:07pm
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Anonymous
February 15th, 2016 10:13am
Just be yourself! Being yourself is the best option. Stay confident, and make sure they know you feel confident. You're you, and they're bullies. I mean seriously, its obvious who's superior here right? They bully other people without a care, and you're here wondering how to get them to accept you. You're clearly the better person. Stay Confident, and be you!
Braesiat
April 8th, 2015 6:12pm
be yourself. The only person who you need to accept you .. is you. I understand getting bullied is rough, but most of the time it has alot to do with the bully's self esteem. dont sweat it, you dont need them to accept you
Weallliketoast
June 8th, 2015 2:20pm
Don't let them see what they do effects you, they will not win, once they see that they can't break you. They will lose interest cause they aren't gaining anything from it. Then they will stop.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2015 2:22am
You basically just have to hunker down and try to get through high school any way you can. Once you get through high school, it'll be way, way better. Find a couple friends or at least allies to get through it with. Hang out with people online if you can't find anyone local. Try to get reasonably good grades but don't stress too much about being perfect. Hang out with little kids and old people for perspective, do some volunteering if you aren't too busy.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 10:44pm
Sometimes people may not accept you, and that's okay, but bullyig isn't something you need to put up with. Please speak to somebody you trust, or a professional and seek help to work through this, bullies make you feel small but you cant let them change your opinion of yourself. Stay positive and don't let bullies get out down
JackieRose16
November 23rd, 2015 2:56pm
You can get people to stop bullying you by either telling someone of a higher level than you or you can just stand up to the bully or bullies.
mads06
December 7th, 2015 5:40am
It's all about confidence. Confidence is the key to a unstressful and successful life. You can't necessarily make someone like you but being yourself draws others towards you. It's cool to be yourself.
LMessi10
February 17th, 2016 6:52am
You can stand upto them. Even if they beat you, stand up again and again. throw a punch back, they may beat you more and your punch might not hurt them but keep throwing the punches. You will feel better, and they will know better the next time.
TaintedHaze
March 1st, 2016 6:33pm
The answer is You really can't control other people. You can only control yourself. If the bullying is severe and physical make sure to tell someone you trust. In the end the only person who has to accept yourself is you. Them bullying you doesn't mean anything about you, but a whole lot about them. Don't take it to heart. They don't define you, your worth, or your life. You do.
blindParadise96
March 4th, 2016 9:28pm
I know it can feel like being yourself in this situation is like social suicide, but really you should learn to love every part of yourself. Flaws and all. Because if you can't love and accept yourself, no one else will.
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 6:10pm
There will always be someone that doesn't like you and won't accept you. But for the large groups of people, try being assertive. You don't have to change yourself and you don't have to be mean. But be stern and be confident. Learn to be comfortable in your own shoes and to speak your mind. If you can learn to stand up for yourself, not let others walk over you, while still being nice to those who deserve it, then your doing good.
EnduranceX
August 15th, 2016 12:28am
Don't let them have the power they want. Be yourself and don't let anything get in the way of that.
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 11:20pm
The honest truth is you probably can't, with some people. One thing to take into consideration is strengthening yourself. Low self-esteem in any form can make you seem like a target. On the other hand, you could entertain the fact that for some people, it takes a while to find people that really accept you, or your differences. This could even just be because what you value is not popular, which means subject doesn't matter to many in public. Also, people come and go, both good people and bad.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2018 4:17pm
You can get people to stop bulling you and accept the way you are by standing up for yourself, explaining to them that you aren't just someone to bully on but there's more to you than they see.
magneticNight10
April 23rd, 2018 7:06pm
You cannot control the actions of others only yourself. Self acceptance is the hardest. Once you can accept yourself then the opinions of these bullies wont matter. We all want to be loved and accepted but sometimes it should matter WHO we want to be accepted by. Because not everyone is a kind person. Not everyone is nice.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2019 12:07pm
Talk to an adult, it may seem scary but it will help. Principals, teachers, etc. are there to help students. Tell an adult how they are treating you and they will have a talk with them, maybe call the parents and inform them about their child’s behavior, and discipline them for their actions. You can tell your parents as well and create a conference with the principal, Student and student’s parent. Your parents are your number one source of help. Bullying is very serious and very wrong. I am sorry you are going through this but please stay strong.