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How do I know if it is just normal teasing or bullying?

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Last Updated: 07/13/2020 at 10:47pm
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halcyonSea12
April 23rd, 2015 6:13pm
If you are uncomfortable with it and you've asked the others involved to stop, then it is always bullying.
DaElucidator
May 15th, 2015 2:36am
You must look at the voice and attitude of the text to determine this. It's most likely bullying if the person sounds like a victim and it happens frequently. It's teasing if it's only once or twice in a kind, gentle manner.
allyvieviera
July 13th, 2015 5:43pm
There is a very distinctive line between bullying and teasing.There is positive teasing; when it takes place within a strong relationship with two people who appreciate the teasing as affectionate and friendship based jokes. The teaser is using a “joking” (rather than aggressive) tone of voice and smiling and/or laughing while also adknowledging the other persons reactions. The person being teased does not look distressed or upset and is laughing and joking with the person teasing.But there is a firm line between positive teasjng and negative teasing. negativie teasing is when; the content of the teasing turns from affectionate to hostile and agressive The teasing occurs repeatedly and daily while adknowleding that the person being teased is noticably upset or distraught by this. The person who is teasing means to upset or hurt the person being teased. The person being teased is upset or hurt by the interaction (bearing in mind the person being teased may not show emotions so it's always a good idea to take them aside and ask them.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 8:24pm
No matter if its teasing or bully dont let no one do either. You can tell someone is teasing if they kindly joke smile and what they say is not harsh. Bullies would pick on you,disrespect,push etc.
supportivePeace16
January 11th, 2015 6:29am
Talking about what happened and how it made you feel is the best way of knowing if this is normal or if indeed you are been bullied .
Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 5:57pm
If the thing said is hurtful and not appreciated, it's bullying. If it is a joke you consent to, it's teasing
Avani1297
May 20th, 2015 11:50pm
You know if someone is teasing you every day, and what they are saying is hurting your feelings. You should tell someone older, so they can solve the problem, so you will feel better about yourself, so you can be the best you. :)
peacefulDreamer18
June 23rd, 2015 7:19am
You are the only true decision maker for this question. Do you feel terribly hurt by these people? Are they your friends? Would you allow them to tease with you? How are they saying what they're saying? These questions determine what you think they're doing to you.
ClaireyMarie
July 20th, 2015 12:52pm
I think the difference is whether it bothers you. Which it seems to, so neither teasing or bullying is acceptable.
FuzzyPaw
August 31st, 2015 9:19pm
Wellk, ask to the person to stop. Of he or she stops, then it was teasing, if it is making you feel bad and is ongoing after you have asked clearly, then it is bullying.
SafeEars2015
October 27th, 2015 12:06pm
Anytime you feel as if you are not safe, humiliated, or as if you are being abused, that's bullying. This does not need to be physical, this can be emotional or verbal abuse as well. If someone is a friend of yours and they have said or done something hurtful to you, and they do not stop when you let them know that this bothers you, that person is being a bully, and you have every right to ask them to stop and seek help if they do not.
ToxicArrow
November 30th, 2015 10:33am
Bullying is differentiated from teasing because of intention. Those who bully actually intend to do harm, whereas teasing is supposed to be a ‘no harm’ game.
Lillyhearts1234
February 2nd, 2016 7:23pm
If they are laughing, pointing their finger at you, or repeating something over and over again then that is considered teasing. If it happens more than once or twice and it becomes a daily routine, then it is considered to be bullying.
ashwarya
March 28th, 2016 7:01pm
We can't define bullying. You are supposed to define it for yourself. I mean if i find something offensive, it's not necessary that you will too. It depends on person to person. If someone's comments or whatever for that matter are hurting you than yes, it is bullying and you should stand for yourself.
Goosette007
May 24th, 2016 3:55am
Anything that makes you feel bad can be classed as bullying. If you think that what has been said 'is not ok' then it probably isn't.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 8:22am
The main difference between bullying and teasing is that bullying happens repeatedly, while teasing happens only once or twice. Teasing is also meant to be light-hearted, and should be taken as basically harmless. Bullying, on the other hand, is meant to harass the victim, and to make their life miserable. Teasing can easily turn into bullying, and you should talk to a trusted adult if you see bullying or if you are concerned about someone who might be being bullied.'
Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 5:10pm
Ask yourself how it is affecting you. Is it something you feel is done with a witty intent or is it something you genuinely find hurtful, like people are picking on you.
Kinshiplove
October 30th, 2017 10:50am
Even if it's teasing, if they know that it makes you unhappy or hurts your feelings but continue to do it anyway, it's still bullying. If you're upset/unhappy about the teasing then please tell a trusted adult.
beautifulDay84
August 13th, 2018 11:50am
Teasing is a one time type of comment that is meant to be funny and if you ask the person to stop or not say it again, they will stop. Bullying is designed to make you feel bad, to make you feel like you are less, to hurt you. It is repetitive and cruel. If you ask the person to stop it only makes it worse.
jordanneedscoffee
July 13th, 2020 10:47pm
Teasing by definition is meant to be playful and not hurt your feelings and it typically makes light of tense situations. Bullying happens when someone is actively trying to seek you out to harm you or intimidate you because they feel that you might be vulnerable in some way. If you find yourself being able to laugh at what someone says and they are not saying anything malicious, then more than likely it is teasing, but if you feel that they are saying things that intimidate you and make you fear for your safety, it is bullying which needs to be addressed immediately. If you feel that you are being bullied, talk to a trusted adult about what you can do to stay safe.