How do I learn to work alongside someone who has bullied me at work?

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Anonymous
February 3rd, 2015 6:57pm
Being Bullied is always a horrible experience, at any age, but after the bullying is initially 'sorted' (reported, etc. stopped) it may be difficult to work around this person and be civil to them. For me, I found it helpful to sympathise with this person, and to try and understand what caused them to be a bully in the first place. I'm not suggesting that you befriend them, and no one would blame you for holding a strong grudge, but maybe being the 'bigger person' (so to speak) might be more rewarding for you. And also, it's always nice when people think good of you for taking the mature, and open minded resolution to the problem.
Shayboo
August 24th, 2015 6:13pm
Just ignore the fact that they bully you. In my opinion you should be nice to them and treat them like anyone else, just to prove you are the bigger person. Don't let their attitude get you down. The best way to get back at a bully is to not let them affect you.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2017 3:52pm
Just ignore them. If you don't show then that they are bugging you they will eventually leave you alone.
McHappy
April 10th, 2015 1:41pm
Well in my case its school we have had alot of fights but we seem to become friends on the end no matter what
Anonymous
April 19th, 2015 11:54pm
Always be nice and try to make due with the sutation if bullying should keep occurring then notified your manager or higher rank
hellopomegranate4772
April 24th, 2015 2:18am
Firstly, if someone is bullying you at the work place, you must tell a manager/boss/higher up. They are there to look after everyone's well being and they want you to come to them with any problems you encounter, in this case, a coworker. Also, the best thing you can do is to just continue on with your work day like nothing has bothered you. Be happy as can be. After a while, he will see that what he is doing is not affecting you in any way and he will stop. People like that just want a reaction out of you, they want to seem like they are greater than you. Just don't stoop down to his level. Just ignore it if your boss does nothing about it. It is not right for that to be going on but in the work place, it is just best to ignore it.
EXEI
May 2nd, 2015 1:36pm
Bullying is the worst expression a human can show to someone. It symbolises how fragile is human heart that he has to bully for the sake of fun. The best way to work this thing is to talk to some senior about this or the boss at the work and ask about security. Moreover, try talking to the bully in a calm attitude. If the bully shows no cooperation, you may try some dirty tricks like teaching him a lesson. Or maybe you can do the opposite, like you can help the bully in need, and then try becoming his friend. It can be really hard at first, but it turns out nice in the end.
HelperWannabe
June 3rd, 2015 2:02pm
Be kind to them, even if they are not kind to you. Ignore their jabs or whatever else they are doing to bully you. Remember that you are amazing and don't listen to anything negative they say about you.
Br33zyS3tz
August 10th, 2015 4:45pm
Its important to put the past in the behind when and if the circumstances allow; overcoming such bullying is admirable and courageous and deserving of acknowledgment; you are powerful, strong and capable of standing up for yourself. Its important to be in touch with these inner qualities in an effort to function appropriately in a work setting, specifically; represent yourself correctly and with honor and discipline; be the bigger person always.
blazingwolf
October 25th, 2015 3:23pm
If he is your boss, say nothing and stay silent. He/She will feel bad one moment or the other. Often, bosses bully because they are stressed. If they notice that you still do your job trying to be better, they will feel compassion and bring you closer. That is a tip that Even Og Mandino recommends. A very sucessful man.
Kaw123
November 9th, 2015 11:53pm
just ignore them and always keep it professional. dont respond to this person when she is thrying to provocate you
blissfulPicture49
March 1st, 2016 5:50pm
Being the bigger person is all about self love. Showing them you are weakened by their presents will only affect you.
shiningTree96
May 31st, 2016 4:43pm
Bullying in any way , coming from anyone is not acceptable. I respecting my personality and space will stand up for myself and others too whenever needed and with this conviction will continue working with the individual who has bullied me in past .
betsy2019
August 29th, 2016 4:19am
You be the bigger person, and ignore what they are calling and get the work done so you don't have to deal with them.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2016 7:35am
Are they still bullying you? If not, try to ask them about it. If they are adult enough they'll apologize. What do you know? Maybe they're nice now :) I wish you luck! :)
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2017 3:28pm
It might be challenging to work with someone that has bullied you in a past. But that doesn't mean we have to avoid them. Try to fake your confidence everytime you feels like they might bully you again.. Faking confidence can become a real confidence in a future. Confidence is the key to make someone bullied you feel angry because they thought, their bully doesn't work on your confidence.
MrMeNr1
May 22nd, 2017 10:38pm
For me this depends on the kind of work you have to do. If you're working on a school project, try to make sure to just divide the work. Otherwise, in a professional environment (e.g. Work or Master/PhD at universities) just act professional. Seriously, it'll be hard but in such a case i feel that acting, maybe in the literal sense, might be your best shot.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2018 2:34am
To work alongside someone who has bullied you at work is to ignore that person and focus on your own work too.